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How to Find a Life Coach - from “The Drummer and the Mountain” by Michael Joseph Ferguson.

Hiring a life coach is ideal for many people. It gives you someone to talk with on a weekly basis who is 100% dedicated to helping you get clear, track your goals, and support you in the process of integrating positive habits into your life.

And the agreement is very clear. You pay them, and they provide you with a service.

There are many different types of life coaches, with a wide variety of personalities, skills, and systems. My advice is, interview a few people before settling on a coach.

Many life coaches offer a free session. I personally haven't found this very useful. I've tried this in the past when I first was
looking for a life coach, and found I was revealing too many things about myself to someone I had yet to establish trust with.

The approach I recommend is to simply interview them. Request a 15 to 20 minute phone call to speak to them about their process. Make it clear up front that you are not interested in a free session. This let's them know what to expect.

On the phone call, ask them a bit about their process, and their background. Notice how you feel talking to them. Do you feel guarded or relaxed? Get a sense of their personality type. Does it mesh well with yours? Do you have a sense of trust in their abilities, or do you find yourself questioning whether they can provide you with a stable ground to work from? Trust your gut. Recognise, the more you feel comfortable talking to this person, the more likely you'll get the kind of support you're looking for.

We’re heading into some of the darkest days of winter - so it’s important to be taking care of yourself right now.

DEPRESSION TIPS:

Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you’ve got to.

Moisturize everything.
Use whatever lotion you like. Unscented? Cheap lotion? Fancy lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want and use it all over.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.
Put on your favorite underwear. Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water.
Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something.
Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music.
Listen to something upbeat and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing and dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food.
Don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. Take the time to prepare food if you can. It tastes way better and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Go outside.
Get wrapped up and take a walk. To the end of the street and back, to the local shop, park, whatever. Listen to the birds and feel the fresh air. Go!

If you can’t face going outside, open all the curtains and open the window and breathe in the air.

Call someone.
Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on. Keep being kind to yourself.

As we are approaching the new year, there’s absolutely nada reason why you can’t make 2024 your best year ever. My coaching availability in 2024 will be Wed, Thursday evenings and Friday daytimes. Limited slots available so get booked in now if you’re ready for awesome ♥️

I now have space for one client for 4 sessions over 8 weeks (evenings, in person if local or remote if not). So if you’re feeling stuck, need to make some positive changes or top up your self-esteem then please reach out ❤️

Happy Friday 😁 to you

♥️ a little reminder that it’s not love that hurts ♥️

For anybody who might be struggling today 🤗