Natalie Cooke Divorce & Separation Coach

Because everything gets SO much lighter when you stop making your peace dependent on his behaviour.

I see a LOT of people accidentally trying to manage their ex’s behaviour.

The ironic thing?

That’s usually the thing CAUSING more arguments, more disappointment and more emotional exhaustion.
Save + study this before the next time you find yourself in this position.
Because this shift changes EVERYTHING.

I’ve been noticing a shift in the breakup and divorce space lately…

And honestly, I’m here for it. 👏

That whole “just get over him and move on” advice?

It’s not hitting the same anymore.

Women don’t want to be told to “be strong” and get on with it.

They want to be able to say:

“I know I need to move forward, but I’m still really angry.”

“I want to rebuild my life, but I’m struggling.”

“I know he wasn’t right for me, so why do I still miss him?”

And actually have someone understand.

Because healing isn’t neat and tidy.

You can be taking action, rebuilding your life and doing all the “right” things…

…and still be absolutely heartbroken.

I’ve always believed in taking action, but I’ve also learnt this:

Don’t use action to avoid your emotions.

Because you can keep yourself ridiculously busy and still be completely stuck.

I think women are getting tired of empty platitudes.

They want honesty.

They want practical support.

They want someone who understands that divorce isn’t just losing a relationship.

It can mean rebuilding your identity, your confidence, your finances, your family life and your whole idea of what the future was going to look like.

And sometimes the most powerful thing you can hear is simply:

“This is hard. And you’re not doing it wrong.”

That’s the kind of coaching I want to offer.

Real. Honest. Practical.

No pretending you should be over it by now. ❤️

Are you noticing this shift too?

Summer can be a particularly difficult time for someone going through separation or divorce.

The children are off school. Routines disappear. There may be holidays to organise, childcare to arrange and more time spent managing the practicalities of parenting alone.

And if their partner cheated and then left, there can be another layer that isn’t always visible.

They may be trying to keep everything together for their children while privately dealing with anger, grief, financial pressure and the reality that the family life they expected is no longer the one they have.

For professionals supporting people through this period, it’s worth remembering that someone who appears distracted, emotional or less productive may not simply be “struggling to cope”.

They may be carrying an enormous amount outside of work.

They might be navigating difficult communication with an ex-partner, worrying about money, managing children who are also processing the separation, or trying to create some sense of normality during a period that feels anything but normal.

And summer can amplify all of it.

There is often an assumption that once the immediate crisis has passed, people should simply start moving forward.

But recovery isn’t linear.

Someone can look completely fine in a meeting and then spend the evening dealing with a child who is upset about seeing their other parent.

They can be highly capable professionally and still feel completely overwhelmed by the practical and emotional demands of life outside work.

This is why a little more understanding can make such a difference.

For HR professionals, managers, family lawyers, financial advisers and other professionals supporting people through separation, creating space for the human side of what is happening can be just as important as addressing the practical issues.

You don't need to have all the answers.

Sometimes it starts with recognising that there is a lot more going on beneath the surface.

And asking, “How are you actually doing?” can be a surprisingly powerful place to start.

Apparently, “I didn’t reply immediately and ruin my entire evening” is the new level of personal development.