04/09/2026
I used to be embarrassed to be that parent; I used to get caught between the teacher version of me and the parent version of me; I used to worry that I was asking too much of school staff because I knew they already had enough on their plate.
Then I realised that my boy also had a lot on his plate; he was walking into an environment that didn’t suit his needs on a daily basis, he was surrounded by things that over stimulated him and overwhelmed him on a daily basis and he was masking on a daily basis. I realised that if I didn’t start to advocate for him, he would never get what he needed. So yes, I became the parent who emailed every night, the mum who spoke for her child and the one who didn’t back down when she recognised the standard school responses. I was told that he needed to be more resilient, he needed to speak up at school and he needed to learn to adapt but it didn’t stop me because those people didn’t know Evan, they knew the mask that he hid behind on a daily basis. They didn’t truly understand just how resilient he was, they didn’t listen to the fact that he wasn’t talking, they didn’t understand that his central nervous system was in shut down when he couldn’t adapt to a new situation or he couldn’t get words out.
I am not berating teachers; I have full respect for teachers, I left teaching because I couldn’t do what they do, but I am berating a system that is failing far too many children. (I am also very lucky that we fought so hard to get Evan into the school he is in because they do have the knowledge, skills and understanding needed to support Evan in the best ways possible).
I love that I get to teach so many children who need me, so many children whose faces light up when they realise they really can learn and I love seeing them grow in confidence after a few sessions with me.
I understand the parent side, I understand the additional work that goes into everyday when your child struggles with school. I understand the teachers side, the demands on their time, the lack of training available and the constant feeling that you’re failing someone. And I understand the children, their need to feel that they can achieve, the need to approach learning in a different way and the fact that all children want to learn, and I also understand that it’s my job to unlock their true potential; it’s not their job to fit in, it’s my job to find the pieces that fit together.
If you want a teacher who can support you and your child, please get in touch. I am full at the moment but I have a team of other tutors who are carefully selected and will also support your child to achieve their true potential.
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