05/08/2023
GET THEM READING
Whether lounging under a tree or curled up on the sofa (it seems to be raining again today!), getting lost in a good book is one of the greatest pleasures of long summer days.
Reading offers myriad benefits, from language acquisition to imagination, knowledge and cultural capital to improved mental health. There is also a notable lift in both academic success and economic life chances for children who choose to read in their free time.
Unfortunately, reading is not something everyone is born loving, and many parents lament their child's lack of enthusiasm for this slow, analogue pastime -- like green vegetables or going to bed on time, the more you insist, the more they resist.
Maybe they find it difficult. Maybe they don't see themselves as a "reader". Maybe there's someone at school they're comparing themselves to. It's not uncommon for reluctant readers to have negative associations with reading rather than positive, be it pressure, anxiety, frustration, or feelings of inadequacy.
Then there's screen-based entertainment -- whatever the merits of creativity and story-telling, it's undeniable that time disappears more quickly when consuming this content. If we have a free evening, it is easier to spend it with a screen than a book, particularly if reading is not a pleasant experience.
So, what can be done to encourage reluctant readers, or those whose enjoyment is on the wane? One solution is to create new, more positive associations with reading.
Firstly, try to uncover the underlying issue. Why doesn't your child see themselves as a "reader"? What does a "reader" look like to them, and is this a realistic expectation? Here are some questions and activities that can help you child to become more comfortable with their own reading identity:
- What is your earliest memory of reading?
- What book/story do you think has most influenced the types of stories/genres you're most interested in now?
- How important are recommendations or reviews to you when choosing what to read/watch/play?
- If you wanted to spend half an hour by yourself, away from distractions, where would you go?
- If you have books in your home, ask them to fetch the books they would save from a fire, and talk about the reasons for their choices.
You may have guessed that there are no wrong answers here: the purpose of the exercise is to build your child's understanding of their own reading identity, to encourage them to self-identify as a reader. Reading is not an exclusive club, and there's more than one way to be a reader. Sharing your own reading identity is also crucial -- consider what you are modelling, and how you make time to read yourself (and if you don't, then you are both on the journey together).
The discussion also naturally leads itself into ways in which you can facilitate more positive reading associations for your child: exploring new authors in a genre they are interested in; thinking about where their chosen quiet places are and how to bring books into that space.
My favourite suggestion is to embark on some shared reading, like a mini book-group of two (or more!). This could be listening to an audiobook together, perhaps on a long car journey, or getting multiple copies of one book and discussing it frequently while you both read. And be authentic in that shared reading -- yes you're trying to motivate them to keep reading, but be open about what you don't enjoy in the story to normalise negativity too. Texts don't exist on pedestals: it's good to have an opinion!
The school holidays can be both marvellous and intense, especially with teenagers. They're also a great window of unscheduled time to bring the enjoyment of reading back to life. Take a trip to your local library or book shop together to browse the shelves or seek recommendations. Freedom to choose the book -- even if you think it's too young or too old or not quite what you had in mind -- is the crucial first step.
So, in summary:
1. Talk about it, and really listen
2. Explore ways forward
3. Do it together
4. Let them lead
If you're struggling to motivate your child, help from outside the family can also be beneficial to take away the pressure on your own relationship. A tutor can offer coaching and support for rebuilding a love of reading, facilitating discussions, and making recommendations for places to start.
The time between school years can disappear in a blink, starting with grand lists of ambitions that may remain un-tackled two weeks in... and so I will close with one of my favourite quotations about reading, and a reminder to myself to make more time for my book alongside endless laundry and vacuuming (and TV)...
"Time to read is always time stolen... from the tyranny of living." -- Daniel Pennac
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Contact Verity at Cardis Tuition to discuss reading in your family, either as a one-off consultation, as a coaching package, or alongside regular tuition.