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Today reminded me that care is not always loud.Sometimes care looks like sitting patiently with a child.Sometimes it loo...
01/06/2026

Today reminded me that care is not always loud.

Sometimes care looks like sitting patiently with a child.
Sometimes it looks like helping your mother with her hair.
Sometimes it looks like passing culture from one generation to another.

Jasmine’s locs were started by me in March 2024, and I have been maintaining them since then.

Last weekend, I re-tightened her locs with crochet and styled them with colourful beads this weekend. During the week, I also made my mum’s natural hair and added a few beads on Saturday.

Back home in Lagos, Nigeria, this style is often called “Sade Adu.” I do not actually know how the name came about, but it is a style many people recognise immediately.

For me, it is more than a hairstyle.
It is culture.
It is identity.
It is patience.
It is routine.
It is family.
It is care.

Seeing my daughter and my mum wearing similar styles made me smile because it felt like a small bridge between generations, countries, and seasons of life.

Care is not only what we do in hospitals, care homes, schools, or workplaces.
Care also happens quietly at home — in kitchens, bedrooms, school runs, appointments, hairstyles, and ordinary family mornings.

What hairstyle from your childhood do you still remember today?





The invisible labour continues today.It feels like we only went home, slept, woke up, and returned to the park again.A w...
28/05/2026

The invisible labour continues today.

It feels like we only went home, slept, woke up, and returned to the park again.

A walk that is normally about 5 minutes took us around 30 minutes today because Jason stopped so many times along the way.

But we made it.

This time, I managed to pack more fruits and water so we could have a proper little picnic.

And that is the part people may not always see.

The planning.
The patience.
The stopping and starting.
The snacks.
The water.
The buggy.
The children’s pace.
The effort to still create a good memory, even when everything takes longer than expected.

Sometimes motherhood is not glamorous or perfectly arranged.

Sometimes it is simply choosing to try again the next day, with a little more preparation, a little more patience, and the hope that the children enjoy the moment.

Invisible labour is still labour.

And sometimes, love looks like taking 30 minutes to do a 5-minute walk.





This week, with the children on mid-term holiday and today being Children’s Day in Nigeria, I have been reminded again t...
27/05/2026

This week, with the children on mid-term holiday and
today being Children’s Day in Nigeria,
I have been reminded again that
motherhood carries so much invisible labour.

Sometimes motherhood is
not just the visible moment people see.

It is everything that happened before that moment.

Getting the children ready.
Managing meals.
Packing what they need.
Remembering snacks, wipes, drinks, clothes, and appointments.
Planning around family.
Managing tiredness.
Keeping everyone safe.
Trying to create a normal, happy day.
Recovering quietly.
Trying to rest while still being needed.

It may not always look like “work” from the outside,
but it is still work.

And sometimes, after all that invisible effort,
the only thing people notice is
what was not done perfectly.

But the hidden work still counted.

The planning counted.
The safety counted.
The emotional regulation counted.
The recovery counted.
The effort to keep going counted.

Invisible labour is still labour.

Motherhood is not only what people see in the final picture.
It is also everything carried
before, during, and after that moment.





Lately, I have been learning something uncomfortable:Resting can feel guilty.Especially when you are someone used to wor...
19/05/2026

Lately, I have been learning something uncomfortable:

Resting can feel guilty.
Especially when you are someone used to
working, progressing, earning, helping others,
solving problems, and carrying responsibilities.

For years, I quietly linked my value to productivity.

So this season of
maternity leave, chronic fatigue,
reduced capacity, and slower pace
has forced me to ask: “Am I doing enough?”

But I am slowly learning something else:
Sometimes healing is work too.

Recovery is work.
Motherhood is work.

Navigating appointments, children, emotions,
health, relationships, identity changes
—
that is work too.

It may not look productive on paper.
But it is still meaningful.

Maybe this season is not about pushing harder.
Maybe it is about rebuilding wisely.





Motherhood changes how you see everything; especially work.What once felt manageable may now feel overwhelming.Not becau...
08/05/2026

Motherhood changes how you see
everything; especially work.

What once felt manageable
may now feel overwhelming.

Not because you are weaker.
But because your priorities have shifted.

And that shift deserves to be respected.





Being a migrant in care comes with a silent pressure.You are grateful for the opportunity.But you are also:• learning a ...
25/04/2026

Being a migrant in care comes with a silent pressure.

You are grateful for the opportunity.
But you are also:
• learning a new system
• adjusting to new expectations
• trying not to make mistakes
• carrying responsibilities beyond work

It is a quiet strength that
often goes unseen.

But it is real.





Some days, the hardest part of care work is not what you do.It is what you carry.The conversations.The decisions.The “wh...
17/04/2026

Some days,
the hardest part of care work
is not what you do.
It is what you carry.

The conversations.
The decisions.
The “what if I missed something?” thoughts.

And yet,
you are expected to
show up the next day
as if everything is normal.

This is the invisible load of care work.

And many carry it silently.





Nobody really explains what care work feels like emotionally.You are trained for the tasks.You are prepared for the rout...
10/04/2026

Nobody really explains what care work feels like emotionally.

You are trained for the tasks.
You are prepared for the routines.

But no one prepares you for:
• the attachment
• the loss
• the responsibility
• the moments that stay with you long after your shift ends

Care work is not just physical.
It is emotional work.

And that part deserves to be acknowledged.





There is a version of care work people see.And there is the version we actually live.I have worked as a nurse, a care le...
04/04/2026

There is a version of care work people see.
And there is the version we actually live.

I have worked as a nurse, a care leader, a mother, and a woman trying to hold everything together at once.

I have seen what happens behind the scenes — the pressure, the responsibility, the quiet strength, and sometimes the silence.

This space is not about perfection.
It is about honesty.

About care.
About work.
About life as it really is.

Welcome to The Care, Work & Life Diaries™ 🌿





March reflection 🌱This month began with a powerful reminder that life keeps moving in seasons.Some seasons bring action....
27/03/2026

March reflection 🌱

This month began with a powerful reminder that
life keeps moving in seasons.

Some seasons bring action.
Others bring stillness.
Both are necessary.

As March closes,
I’m asking three simple questions:
• What did I learn?
• What am I releasing?
• What will I carry into the next season?

Quiet growth continues.





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