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30/01/2025

I've been a member of ANLP for many, many years......

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29/01/2025

Collaboration: a business essential. Check out my latest blog here:

I recognise that many comments have been aired about the 'VUCA/BANI' world we live in; whilst these terms are not new, many suggest that fragility, brittleness, uncertainty and ambiguity are a constant in both our personal and business lives, particularly over the past four-five years. That said, I....

12/09/2024

NLP works! It's a set of tools, principles and models of thinking that transforms our relationships, enhances our performance and makes life a whole lot more pleasant. Join us on the next NLP Diploma and take a step to a happier, more successful life! [email protected] 07960 012475

26/08/2024

RELATIONSHIPS!

It would seem, from, my experience at least, that life is all about relationships. The quality of our moment-by-moment living, making peace with our past and the success of all our various futures pivot on how we connect and relate. NLP has given me a host of tools and principles that continue to help me with even the most complex of relationships. I want to share these tools with you: join us on the next NLP Diploma course, here on the glorious Isle of Wight and take home relationship-enhancing gifts! Elevate your relationships to the next level - learn NLP! Get in touch for more info and to sign up: [email protected]

10/08/2024

Help yourself and help others: learn some remarkable, pragmatic tools to deepen your commitment to the growth and the unleashing of potentials - your own and your fellow humans'! Join us on the next NLP Diploma course in October! [email protected] 079600 12475.

06/08/2024

I'm looking forward to meeting new friends and speaking about NLP and Hypnosis on Sunday 11th. Raising funds for Sight for Wight charity: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1330457460771889/user/100078112924408/

01/08/2024

Join us for our next NLP Diploma! So much personal and professional growth potential within this course.....contact me for more info.

4-day, immersive workshop with a recognised NLP qualification at the end! Pragmatic tools to change behaviours, thoughts and emotions.

22/07/2024

At the heart of almost all un-sane behaviour is trauma.

If you find yourself in a relationship where your partner behaves in less than sane ways, is cruel and unkind to you or even abusive, remember that it’s probably coming from their hurt heart.

Traumatised people project a deep need for love. Their projection of this inner need is mostly unconscious and often appears as crazy, irrational and childlike. It’s as if you’re with a 6 year old who is desperate for a hug but cannot ask for one because the fear of rejection and not being understood is too overwhelming.

Traumatised people crave stable, loving, safe relationships. To openly acknowledge this deep need is often too painful and too scary, as it brings attention to their vulnerability. But because they have not had nurturing, stable attachments in early years, they can often not recognise it when it’s available in adult life.

Love, kindness, understanding and compassion - these things are critical in creating safe, secure connections with others. It’s a safe, secure connection with another that a traumatised person craves. And deserves.

To do this we have to model these things - as the trauma response is often stuck in childhood neurology; they have not had the chance to see what love, compassion, healthy self/other boundaried connections actually are in adult relationships.

So when you’re next upset by your partner’s irrational or crazy outbursts towards you, remember that it could coming from past trauma. Your response is critical to their healing: model good personal boundaries (self care is a priority, and important for both of you because it helps them see what good self care looks like), be consistent in your commitment to them (reassure them you are present and available for them), remain calm, wait for a moment to re-engage with them and tell them you love them.

Hurt hearts need to be shown that being open to love and connection means being vulnerable. Be strong enough to show them you are going to be there for them in that vulnerability.