03/05/2026
As the summer draws nigh, so too does the end of some of our children's Mulberry Bush Montessori days & early year's journey with us "where little people think big!"
For parents of children, who this time last year were considering their child's school start the same year & gifted them an advantage additional year with us, the overwhelming positive benefit is just how much better prepared their children are emotionally, as well as socially not just for school - but for life.
The responsibilities & resilience our children assume & have to show in the different situations once in formal statutory education & throughout their lives - is a LOT.
We want each of our children to be able to weather life's storms with a bit more ease without being worn down by them.
The key is building their resilience in the early formative years & sometimes that takes a bit more time for some children.
Resilience isn't about "toughing it out" in silence or suppressing our struggles. It is a skill set we consciously work on bringing out ourselves & our children when they're will us throughout the day, every day they are with us.
The Seven Ingredients of Resilience are internal resources we draw upon & further develop with ourselves & our children;
🧷 Emotion Awareness and Regulation:
Creating a safe space for all of our children's feelings - happiness, fear, and sadness - while helping them navigate them when they're feeling overwhelmed by giving them the language.
⏸️ Impulse Control:
Guiding a child by giving them simple ways to pause before they act, directing them in situations they might find tricky with love & kindness toward themselves and others.
✅ Realistic Optimism:
Reminding the child in a situation they find challenging of their words & language about what is actually happening & what they might do to better deal or cope with the situation & being ready to step in if necessary.
🤸🏽Flexible Thinking:
Observing the child when challenges arise & offering help with words as to what might be the possible outcomes dependent on the actions they take. Letting them know there is usually a "Plan B."
🔋Self-efficacy:
Instilling in a child, the quiet belief that they can effect positive change as a result of their decision, action & intervention. That sometimes it is about "feeling good" (self-esteem) & sometimes it is more about knowing how to master the path ahead.
💟 Empathy:
We encourage, build & preserve strong loving social bonds with & throughout our children. We know from studies that even one enduring relationship in early years with a caring adult who is a positive role model, can help a child navigate significant hardships in later years.
🪽Reaching Out:
That additional year in early years, gives our children more chance of the confidence they need to establish as they learn to know who they are individually- to take "horizon-expanding" risks & because of the way they learn in the Montessori way, they see & understand failure as a signpost for learning rather than something to be feared.
So ....... a moment for reflection for parents of children whose birthday falls in December, January or February of the year they enter school & won't quite yet be five.
Which one of these might need a little more energy poured into it just a little bit longer?
Resilliance grows in small, measurable steps & together we can support your child to be "filled" up.
References:
Reivich, K., & Shatté, A. (2002). The Resilience Factor.
K. Reivich and J. Gillham, “Building Resilience in Youth: The Penn Resiliency Program.,” Jan. 2010, [Online]. Available: https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ886218
J. J. Cutuli, J. J. Cutuli, T. M. Chaplin, J. E. Gillham, K. Reivich, and M. E. P. Seligman, “Preventing Co-Occurring Depression Symptoms in Adolescents with Conduct Problems The Penn Resiliency Program,” Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, vol. 1094, no. 1, pp. 282–286, Dec. 2006, doi: 10.1196/ANNALS.1376.035.
J. E. Gillham et al., “School-Based Prevention Of Depression And Anxiety Symptoms In Early Adolescence: A Pilot Of A Parent Intervention Component,” School Psychology Quarterly, vol. 21, no. 3, pp. 323–348, Oct. 2006, doi: 10.1521/SCPQ.2006.21.3.323.
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