18/10/2021
Using my voice has always been one of my superpowers. 💪
I remember one very vivid memory of my childhood that led me to feel the intense power of speaking up for what I thought it was right.
I was in Year 1, 6 years old, in a State School. Everyone was sitting down, quiet. We were having a Maths test. The teacher was extremely strict and had unreasonable rules for that age group. One of them was that we could not go to the toilet during the lessons; only in break time. And one of my classmates, Andrés, had a tummy ache, and he needed to go to the toilet in the middle of the exam. He asked for permission but the teacher said a firm No. Andrés immediately cried and in a few seconds; he made himself poo in the classroom. I couldn’t stand that unfairness and stood up from my desk, told the teacher that she was a bad person, and helped Andrés to leave his desk to go to the toilet. I then was punished for replying back to the authority.
As I grew up, I have found myself in several situations in which I have had to stand up for myself and for others. I have gained confidence within the years of practice, and have learned that it is not only a matter of using our voices, but the impact of the words we choose and how we use them.
But as women, we have learned since thousands of years ago, generation from generation, no matter the culture or the background… that we get to silence our deep emotions and to put them away, as if they didn't matter -or didn't exist-, because we have been taught to be “good girls”, to be obedient, and quiet, and compliant of the people in charge.
So, how do we reconnect ourselves with our life force, with our inner power?
We start by choosing more freedom and by using assertiveness as a tool to bring about the necessary changes in our lives.
And how do we do that?
By being true to ourselves and to what is right for us, by feeling our deep emotions, by being aware of them, and by clarifying our values, our likes, dislikes, and most of all, by becoming comfortable with our own inner selves.
When we do this inner work of assertiveness, we create more genuine, healthy, balanced relationships.
I am inspired by creating a space for women to come and learn powerful tools to take the next steps in their lives.
That's why I invite you to join me on an experiential workshop that I will be delivering on Tuesday 19th, Thursday 21st and Monday 26th of October, from 7:30 pm to 8:30 pm each day, at The Anderida Community, in Forest Row.
The topic of the workshop is Assertiveness Behaviour 💪🏼💞
Price: £30
Link to the website to learn more and register is in the comments below:
Thanks!
With love,
Kizzy 🙏🏼
