30/09/2026
You cannot walk out of a room you refuse to see.
And yet this is often what we try to do.
We want change without recognition.
Healing without responsibility.
Freedom without first admitting where we are.
Sometimes we become extraordinarily articulate about our suffering.
We can describe every symptom.
Every trigger.
Every difficult person.
Every injustice.
Every reason we feel the way we feel.
We can meditate on it.
Journal about it.
Analyse it.
Give it a name.
Explain it beautifully.
And still remain in exactly the same room.
Because describing the room is not the same as leaving it.
Yoga asks something more difficult of us.
It asks:
What am I contributing to this?
What do I repeatedly choose?
What do I tolerate?
What do I consume?
How do I sleep?
How do I move?
What relationships do I remain in?
What habits do I defend?
What truth have I already seen, but do not yet want to act upon?
This is not about blaming ourselves for everything that happens.
Life brings illness, loss, genetics, accident, betrayal, and circumstances we did not choose.
But even when we did not choose the room, there comes a point when we must ask whether we are still helping to keep the door closed.
That question can be uncomfortable.
Because victimhood has one strange attraction: If everything is happening to me, then nothing is required of me.
Responsibility removes that refuge.
It says: Perhaps I cannot change everything. But I can look.
I can tell the truth.
I can stop rehearsing the same explanation.
I can notice where my own behaviour is perpetuating what I say I want to escape.
Meditation is not somewhere to hide from this.
Meditation should make it harder to hide.
Awareness should eventually expose the bargain we have been making with ourselves.
The habits we call circumstances.
The avoidance we call acceptance.
The repetition we call fate.
And sometimes the most liberating sentence is also the most uncomfortable:
I have been participating in this.
Because the moment you can genuinely say that, you are no longer powerless.
You have finally seen the room.
And now you can begin looking for the door🙏💙😌✨