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Ravi Vasdev | Performance Coach for Dads

Helping dads reprioritise health
100s dropped 10kg in 90 days, without missing family time
Dad of 2, ex-corporate, lived the burnout
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03/10/2026

Someone asked me this week what’s actually changed for me most this year.

Not the training. Not the business.

I stopped treating rest like something I had to earn.

For years it was the last thing on the list. After the kids, after work, after everything else got ticked off.

Which meant, in practice, it never actually got ticked off at all.

Last night, kids down, inbox still open, I shut the laptop anyway and went to bed. A year ago I’d have answered three more messages first and called that “nearly done.”

Rest goes first now. Not because I’ve got more time, I haven’t.

Because I finally believed it mattered as much as everything else on that list.

That’s the honest version of what this month’s actually been about.

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01/10/2026

THE STANDARD FILES - Case 05

Six months ago Ryan said he felt like he was running a reduced version of himself.

Six months ago Chris told me he’d worked with two other coaches before me, made real progress with both, and watched it unwind back to where he started every time.

Both came to me for different reasons.

Both went through the same sequence, energy first, structure second, identity third.

I caught up with both of them last week.

Ryan: “My kids come to me with things now. The other night my youngest came to talk through something that happened at school and I realised halfway through I was actually listening. Not half-listening while thinking about something else. Actually there. Can’t remember the last time that felt easy.”

I asked Chris what was actually different this time. He didn’t say the training, or a cleverer plan.

“The other two gave me a programme and checked in once a month. You told me in week three that the plan I was following was wrong for my actual week, not that I wasn’t trying hard enough. Nobody had said that to me before. I stopped thinking of it as a system a while back. It’s just how my week runs now. Someone asked me last month what my secret was. I didn’t know how to explain there isn’t one, I just had someone who kept adjusting it until it actually fit.”

Neither of them used the word transformation. Both used the word consistent.

This is what working with me produces. If you want to understand what it looks like for you specifically, comment CAPACITY.

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29/09/2026

Nobody comes to me wanting to be high-capacity.

They come wanting to train without it always falling off, to arrive home with something left, to hold the standard they used to hold without it costing constant effort.

They’ve usually tried fixing these things individually, made some progress, watched it unwind.

This carousel shows what it looks like when the three markers work together, not the aspirational version, the real one.

Available to any dad who addresses energy, structure and identity in the right sequence, with someone adjusting the plan alongside them as their actual week changes.

Slide 6 is worth reading. That’s the honest version of what The Standard actually means.

If this is where you want to get to, the starting point is understanding where you are right now.

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26/09/2026

People ask what it’s actually like to be coached by me, specifically, not just what coaching in general feels like.

A few weeks ago a client sent me his usual Sunday check-in, two lines, nothing dramatic.

He mentioned in passing that he’d moved Tuesday’s session because work was “a bit mad.”

No complaint attached, just a throwaway line at the end.

I messaged back within the hour. Not about the missed session, about what “a bit mad” usually means for him specifically, because I’ve seen the pattern before.

It’s the exact phrase he uses right before the whole week quietly slips.

We caught it early enough that it didn’t.

That’s most of the actual job. Not big interventions.

Noticing the small thing before it becomes the big thing, because I’m paying attention to how someone talks about their week, not just whether a tracker shows green.

It only works because I know the person, not just the programme.

A generic check-in reads “moved a session” as a scheduling note.

Knowing the client reads it as a warning sign, three weeks before he’d have said it out loud himself.

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24/09/2026

THE STANDARD FILES - Case 04

Amir came to me wanting to get his training back on track.

Forty-three, two kids, senior role at a tech company.

Consistent in his twenties and early thirties, the last three years it had fallen off completely.

He wanted a programme that would fix that.

We spent the first session not talking about training at all.

I asked him what standard he wanted to hold, not in the gym, as a dad.

He went quiet for a moment.

Then he said “the version of me my kids see right now isn’t the version I want them to remember.”

That’s the moment I understood what we were actually working on.

We started with energy and structure, six weeks on the foundation.

By week eight training was consistent and the week had two protected anchors.

Six weeks in, he told me something felt off.

Training was happening, the anchors were holding, but he said he felt like he was “just going through the motions.”

Nothing had actually shifted in how he saw himself.

Instead of adding more structure, I dropped one of the anchors that wasn’t earning its place and narrowed the check-ins to one question each week, did today’s version of you match the one you named in that first session.

That’s the point it actually started moving.

Three months in he told me something his eldest had said.

“Dad, you seem happier lately.”

He said he didn’t know how to explain to a fourteen-year-old that he’d just decided to stop holding a lesser version of his standard.

Comment CAPACITY or balanceddadhq.com if this is where you are.

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23/09/2026

My son used to come to me less. It took me a while to notice why.

There was a period, probably eighteen months before I left my last role, where I stopped being the dad who initiated things.

I was there, physically present, doing the bedtimes, at the things that mattered.

But I wasn’t starting the conversations, wasn’t suggesting things, wasn’t showing up with energy for it.

My son started coming to me less.

Not because anything had happened.

Because he’d learned, without either of us noticing, that I wasn’t fully available.

That’s what identity drift produces, a reduction so gradual nobody names it, until one day you notice it’s been a while since they came to you with something.

The work closed that gap.

It took time and the right sequence, but it closed.

He comes to me with things now.

That’s the bit I work for.

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