Self Empowerment starts with you.

This is very important to understand. Most of the time when we talk about Toxic relationships, esp narcissistic abuse most of us immediately think of a man that’s behaved like this. However it’s incredibly important to know that women are more than capable of behaving like this too, but sadly a lot of men do not talk about this for various reasons. We must be vigilant in the signs, this includes friendships, we must know ourselves enough that we are willing to walk away from any toxic relationship because no matter how much the toxic person tells you that it’s your fault, if deep down you know it’s not then stay strong in that conviction. Teach your sons to know themselves so if they experience toxic behaviour from a woman they are able to walk away. 💜

Daily lesson 31:Unconditional love - How many of you have experienced someone saying “I love you despite.......” Many people would think this is unconditional love because that person is loving you despite your flaws and of course that can do three things
1. you feel loved and do not realise that by bringing to the surface your flaw/s they mention this isn’t unconditional love, but due to your insecurities you believe it is.
2. You never seek to work on those aspects of yourself because the person accepts them from you which in turn isn’t them loving themselves either.
3. It’s actually a form of gaslighting where the person creates themselves to act as though you are damaged and it forces you to push that part of you down so you continue to receive love from them.
Does any of this sound familiar?
So does unconditional love exist? I believe yes when two people can just say I love you and truly mean it from the heart. It’s not that you don’t work on yourself because we all have to do this but it’s about loving every part of you and that’s just it, you want to be your best self for your partner so you just love them period!! And when something comes up that is challenging then you address it, work on it and you do not withdraw love or say “ I love you even though...”
Have a blessed day 😊💜🙏🏼

Daily lesson 30 - Choose HOPE... Getting up every day to some is a simple stepping out of bed and getting on with your daily routine... But to some it’s like climbing the most impossible mountain. Hope is something we take for granted because as much as it’s part of our very being to some it’s lost.. So find hope in the smallest of things, look for it absolutely everywhere because it’s there, hope that we breathe, hope that we open our eyes in the morning, hope that our legs work to get us out of bed... you get my drift. Even though this will not seem like much it’s there, it’s hope because living is hard, showing up is hard so just hope you can get through a minute, an hour even a day and little by little let the beauty come back into your life.. HOPE can be Beauty 💜🙏🏼

How you view something whether it’s what someone says or does is everything to do with the individual person. No two people will view something exactly the same. So knowing this perhaps take a moment when having a discussion to perhaps find out why the other person has reacted differently. In yourself try to understand what’s caused that feeling of anger or hurt! Not everyone goes out of their way to be hurtful but what triggers us can have a defining moment in how we deal with something. So breathe take a step back and look at it from every angle. If this isn’t possible as of course we are flawed and you react then when you are not in an emotional state, look at why.. There is an answer inside you for everything 😊💜

Pause for thought..
How many of you stay safe in your comfort zone.. What triggers occur when you try to push through? What voices and wording enter your thoughts telling you all the reasons why you cannot do what you want to do? What feeling arises to create the fear.. All of this is just your brains way to keep you safe.. Fear is triggered, it doesn’t understand its for your personal growth, it just feels you are scared so it kicks into protective mode.. This can be changed and you can push past your fear to live your best life 💜