05/10/2026
Lately, Iโve had to make some difficult decisions to protect my energy and support my nervous system.
And Iโm once again reminded that ๐ฃ๐๐ง๐ซ๐ค๐ช๐จ ๐จ๐ฎ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ข ๐ง๐๐๐ช๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ isnโt about learning to tolerate everything happening around you.
Sometimes itโs about pausing.
Creating space to explore your options.
Recognising what you can and canโt control.
And having the courage to put boundaries in place even when other people may not understand, agree with or like them.
These are lessons Iโve learnt over the years, but lately Iโve had to put them into practice in some particularly difficult circumstances.
And honestly, it hasnโt been easy.
There has been hurt.
There have been consequences.
And there has been grief to feel and process.
But alongside all of that has been a deeper knowing that some of these decisions were the right ones.
Because feeling uncomfortable, guilty or sad doesnโt necessarily mean youโve made the wrong choice.
Sometimes a boundary is still the right boundary, even when it hurts.
Perhaps this is something we donโt talk about enough when we talk about nervous system regulation.
It isnโt always about finding calm within the circumstances youโre in.
Sometimes regulation looks like recognising:
โThis isnโt working for me anymore.โ
And then having the courage to change what you actually have the power to change.
Even when itโs uncomfortable.
Even when there are consequences.
Even when other people have their own feelings about it.
Change isnโt always straightforward.
It isnโt always comfortable.
And it certainly isnโt always understood by the people around us.
But there is something incredibly powerful about learning not to abandon yourself in order to keep everyone else comfortable.
My nervous system has thanked me for that lesson. ๐ค
โจ So, a little reflection for you:
Where in your life are you overriding what you already know you need?
And what would it look like to honour that - even in one small way?
