17/09/2026
10 things I always say to new mums โค๏ธ
If you're a new mum or about to become one, here are 10 things I really want you to know...
1) You are welcome here. โค๏ธ
Whether you have had a shower, you're still in your PJs, you've cried in the car park, you're feeling emotional, or you've arrived looking like you haven't slept in three days... you are so very welcome!
2) Your baby loves your voice more than any other sound.
You might not think you can sing. You might actively know you can't sing! ๐
Your baby doesn't care.
To them your voice is familiar, comforting and special. So sing. Loudly. Quietly. Badly. Every day.
3) Babies Cry.
They just do.
They cry when they're hungry, tired, overstimulated, uncomfortable, frustrated... and seemingly for absolutely no reason whatsoever!
If your baby cries in class, please don't panic or apologise. We have all been there.
Take a break, feed them, cuddle them, walk around... Do whatever your baby needs. There's absolutely no judgement here.
4) Trust your instincts.
You know your babt better than anyone else.
If something doesn't feel right, ask questions. If you're concerned about their health or wellbeing, keep asking until you feel you've been heard.
You are not being 'silly' or 'overprotective' for knowing your baby and speaking up for them.
5) You don't have to love every minute.
It is OK to question your life choices sometimes ๐
When my eldest was born, he screamed for FOUR MONTHS. Pretty much solidly.
I remember thinking "what on earth have I done?"
It was absolutely hell on earth. I felt helpless and like I was doing everything wrong.
It turned out he had a cow's milk allergy.
It wasn't my fault. It wasn't his fault. There was a reason.
So if you're finding things really, really hard, please don't assume you're failing. Sometimes things genuinely ARE hard!
6) I have been where you are.
I've had the sleepless nights, the crying, the worrying, the second-guessing, the "is this normal?" googling, and the days where getting dressed felt like an achievement.
You don't have to pretend everything is fine with me.
See comments for numbers 7-10 ๐