05/06/2026
POINTLESS Saying 'Be careful!'...(we all do it though!)
GREAT INFO GRAPHICS from ICP (link below and on pics) to support alternatives!
Supporting children's risk taking in physical play, life and all situations is a really important role to enable them to be able to learn to manage their own limits, to challenge and grow, to be able to risk assess for themselves ultimately in life and thrive!
We know from science and research that children NEED to take risks to grow and learn, as this statistically reduces their risk of injury or death later on (as without this practice many children can come to harm unnecessarily- ie think practising crossing the road, climbing, water etc) - Brussoni (2020).
Brussoni also advocates a 17 second rule of waiting before we speak to allow children to take risks, with our observation& support, but obviously being safe from any hazards (which are different!). As all too often we step in too soon and use the unhelpful terms of 'be careful!'
This is pointless for younger children+ as it doesn't say WHAT to be mindful of, HOW to do this, is a very ABSTRACT concept and doesn't gain attention, sometimes passing on adult fears unnecessarily to children too.
GREAT pic from institute of child psychology above with alternatives for 'be careful!' To allow children to step back , consider and plot their own course,as they grow and learn independence, body autonomy and control and their own sense of boundaries and risk for use in life.
Consider- guiding, mentoring and coaching a better course....where we are present, supportive but also enabling, allowing the child to lead (unless we are sure there is harm imminent).
All part of EXCEUTIVE FUNCTIONING skills too. HUGE PREDICTORS for life, behaviour and learning! (Ahmed et al, 2018, Stucke&Doebel, 2024, Valcan et al 2020 etc).