Debra Billett, Life Transformation Coach & International Presenter.

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Post Divorce & Separation Healing.

It’s said that when someone heals from a trauma and then shares the experience, it furrows a track that can support others who are going through something similar, so I’ve decided to share my very personal marriage break up and eventual recovery story, with that hope.

My first reaction when my ex-husband (to be) eventually left what was our Marital home was briefly of relief, I could breathe freely for the first time in years, no more arguments or tip toeing around nervously, being uncomfortable or feeling unsafe in my own home and I started to relax for the first time in years. He chose to rent somewhere locally whilst the children & I stayed on pending the property’s sale.

The aftermath of this leave taking was huge, however. I went through a period of intense grief, shock even. My childhood picture of a large, happy, Walton’s Family based on the popular American TV programme I’d loved watching whilst I was growing up, had been well and truly smashed. I was heartbroken for what was lost and what could have, should have been.

It was a massive shift in lifestyle too once our house sold. I’d gone from living in our dream home with sweeping sea views, a large Italian style kitchen dining room, that was always blessed with family & friends, me happily cooking & baking. We had previously enjoyed four large family dogs, adding to the chaotic bliss and in what seemed like the blink of an eye, I found myself living alone in a small ex-council house that leaked & was damp, cold and mouldy.

Our grown up children all left home around the same time as the Marriage broke down & my (by now) ex-husband took custody of our large family dogs. I lost contact with the close circle of friends I’d had as I now lived in a different village and over time, I spiralled into a bleak & lonely state of Depression, exacerbated by financial problems, isolation and fear of what the future would hold for me, I wasn’t even sure that there was going to be a future.

I was desperately lonely and I’m not proud but my internal dialogue was toxic and filled with blame and self justification. Pictures and memories of painful past events filled my daily thoughts, I was teeming with toxicity towards my ex-husband and judgemental of his behaviour.

The turning point came when I really started to look at myself, take personal responsibility for my own behaviour and rather than pointing the finger, started to look at my own part in the break up of my Marriage.

I eventually recognised that I had been running a pattern of extremely low self esteem for a long time and had realised that therefore had naturally attracted a Husband who mirrored that same or similar issues. Through Journeywork and Coaching I accessed a memory and also a Vow that I made when I was just 18 years old, which was fundamental to my own healing. I realised how our previous experiences can cause or create a life time of emotional shut down and influence our choices and or behaviour, maybe you can relate?

Here’s what came up -

My first love at 18 years old was the local bad boy, handsome & rebellious, he smoked ci******es (which was oddly attractive), but fashionable at the time and he rode a motorbike James Dean style. We fell head over heels, I was totally smitten, he asked me to marry him and I was so nervous I’d made a joke & laughed it off at the time but was secretly excited and wanting to. He went on a prior to us getting together previously arranged, boys holiday to a local sea-side town for a week, phoned me loyally from a pay phone every day telling me how much he was missing me but when he came back he confided, that he had cheated on me with another girl, whilst he had been away. He said it hadn’t meant anything but I knew that I could not continue with our relationship.

I was distraught, sat in the bath and cried like I had never cried before. My heart literally felt as though it was breaking apart with loss & betrayal, the pain felt like it was going to destroy me, it too much to bear & I made a vow. The vow was to never, ever let myself be hurt like that, ever again and if I did choose to get into another relationship, I would be the one in control to be the one to have the upper hand. I would choose to leave or stay and so my barriers of protection went up. I vowed that I would never again allow myself to be vulnerable or hurt in that way, again.

Vows have a strong energy and life force of their own and that vow lived through me for the next 30 years and more because from that early break up onwards, any relationship I entered into was on my terms, including the marriage with my ex-Husband, never fully giving myself, always holding ‘something’ back, I completely compromised myself & unconsciously set up a pattern of getting into unhealthy relationships as I now recognise, many of us do. I realised that I had co-created the whole situation with my ex Husband ultimately leading to our devastating Divorce.

Thankfully with support, I cleared this issue. I met the pain of loss and devastation, emptied out to my previous love, cleared the old vow consciousness and ultimately completely and utterly forgave his soul and even thanked him for the profound life lesson. I felt cleaner and more liberated that I had in years and for the first time in a long time, felt excitement for the future. Essentially also having a deep recognition that the Truth of who I am Is Love, that nothing outside of me can give me this, that I am This that I am seeking.

Fast forward several months post this specific process and I was teaching a Journey Abundance Retreat and working on my self at the same time. During the last part of this magical event we step into a sacred circle and offer up our highest and deepest prayer, not from thinking mind but from a deep visceral and soul level. I stepped into the circle and a prayer gave rise to itself, I heard it come out of my mouth

“My highest & deepest prayer, is for a life partner!!" Wow I thought, slightly shaken, shocked and taken aback, "I’m ready".

Sometime later, there was a frissant of something intangible but distinctive in the air, I had a sense something exciting was about to happen but I had no idea what and I bought a lottery ticket 'just in-case'. I’d arranged to go on a date which was something I rarely did but something happened as soon as our eyes met. Maybe it's indescribable, Poet’s have elegantly attempted to point to it for centuries & my sense is that it is a part of the mystery of the Universe.



“Birds make great sky-circles of their freedom.
How do they learn it?
They fall and falling,
they're given wings.” Rumi.

We were definitely given wings that day, my love describes our meeting as completely unexpected as though an angel complete with light had arrive and he ‘knew’ from that moment. We hadn’t realised at first but we had moved in the same social circles whilst growing up and lived in neighbouring villages, had even gone to the same school, we had so much in common.

We married last June, on Mid Summer’s Eve and I know I have found not only a Husband, but a match, a man that loves me and I also love with all of my heart. I am sometimes scared of the risk of potentially being hurt or vulnerable again and have realised that this is an essential part of being Human and loving fully. We have two new gorgeous puppies, are currently vision questing for our new forever home, adore our life together and are deeply grateful for each of our paths that lead us ‘here'.

I’m sharing this with the prayer that it helps you or someone you know because If I can do this, wherever you are in your relationship your Journey, you can too.

What’s really holding you back? Maybe like I did, you’re going through the pain of Divorce or separation, maybe you recognise that something in your past is holding you back, tethering you or preventing you from moving forward.

How would your life or relationships be without the blame or pain? Maybe you also made a Vow, possibly even a very long time ago?

What is it that’s holding you back from living a full & blessed life in all areas?

Please contact me if you’d like to share your experience or to explore how my Life Transformation Coaching could help or support you.

I wish you well on your Journey, wherever you are.

In love and a deep Namaste,

Debra xx

I often get asked by my clients how to do this, hope you enjoy this.......

34 Easy tips to help raise your vibration -

1. First thing in the morning drink some filtered water with a slice of lemon, this helps clear your system and the lemon will help alkalinise you.

2. Eat consciously, food that is both nourishing, nutritious and easily digestible.

3. Keep coffee, caffeinated and carbonated drinks to a minimum.

4. Illiminate added sugar and artificially sweetened or low fat anything, from your diet.

5. Meditate daily.

6. Exercise, get at least 30 mins twice a day & include aerobic and anaerobic exercise.

7. Be outside as much as you can, breathe fresh air in deeply and get plenty of sunlight on your bare skin.

8. Keep a Journal, hand writing increases your happy hormone, serotonin.

9. Sleep naked with your loved one, this increases the feel goods hormone called endorphines and promotes the love chemical, oxytocin.

10. Make love, schedule time for deep connection with your partner if you have one and time for yourself if you don’t.

11. Listen to conscious music and mantras.

12. Clear out your wardrobes, keep the essential and recycle what you don’t love or don’t wear and take to charity shops.

13. De-clutter your home, keep a clean and neat home, your environment is a reflection of your inside and contributes to your health and well being.

14. Drink at least 2 litres of filtered water through the day, every day, stay hydrated.

15. Keep alcohol to a minimum, the current recommendation is to keep your intake to a max of 14 units a week, one large glass of wine is 3 units.

16. Keep conscious company, we really do become the company that we keep.

17. Keep your stress at a healthy level, a little is good and too much can be damaging.

18. Join a club or organisation with like minded people i.e Yoga, Walking or a Meditation group.

19. Look after your emotional health, get regular Journey process work or Life Transformation Coaching.

20. Practise the art of gratitude, counting your blessings and forgiveness.

21. Do something or go somewhere completely different and step outside of your comfort zone.

23. Sing on your own, in the bath or join a choir, singing increases endorphins and your serotonin levels.

24 Avoid energy thieves, which can include toxic people, the media, newspapers, certain buildings & places with low energy.

25. Practise random acts of kindness to people and animals, consciousness is catching.

26. Recycle and reduce plastic waste, be environmentally conscious in all ways.

27. Plant some flowers or herbs and nurture a vegetable garden or plot.

28. Walk barefoot on pristine grass or sand, connect with this land energy and visualise really drinking it in, up through your feet and into your body and being.

31. Rivet your attention.

32. Take your focus out of yourself and your problems and help someone in need

33. Smile

34. Stay connected.

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