Self-Empowered Man

24/09/2025

How would you like to join me on a journey?

One that, for now at least, has no clear destination!

Look…

I can see how that may not be particularly enticing!

But hear me out…

And at the end of this post I’ll give you 3 simple steps to help you create a life of peace, happiness and success.

You can read it here… for free!

One that, for now at least, has no clear destination!

17/04/2024

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13/02/2024

Know what matters and what doesn’t.

Being here matters.

Being compassionate matters.

Getting through each day without seriously offending or hurting anyone matters.

Having the latest technology doesn’t matter…

Having what you need to do your work does.

Having a high-value car doesn’t matter…

Having the means to do the necessary travelling to do your work does.

Wearing designer clothes to impress doesn’t matter…

Being warm dry and comfortable does.

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t have the latest or best of anything…

It just shouldn’t be a priority.

Because when it is, you’re always chasing something.

You’re always looking to buy the next car when it comes out.

Or switching your mobile devices every year…

Leaving clothes in your wardrobe having only worn them a couple of times.

If material things matter to you, you’ll always be chasing the latest version of whatever it is that appeals to you…

And that doesn’t create fulfilment.

Doing something useful with your life matters.

Doing your work matters.

Being yourself matters.

Having time for family and friends matters.

Taking good care of yourself matters.

I guess what I’m saying is focus on what’s important in life.

Learn to discern what’s important…

And what’s not.

There are a huge number of things in life that are important…

And a whole lot more that aren’t.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do things just to have some fun.

You absolutely should!

Just learn to focus on what matters and don’t stress over what’s not.

So, what matters to you?

Let me know in the comments below, and...

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05/02/2024

🙌 All too often we let our thoughts get in the way…

We let our worries, or concerns, hold us back…

We let our doubts override the possibilities of success.

We let our “what ifs” prevent us from taking action.

We replay our past mistakes and ‘failures’ over and over again and end up lacking the confidence to step forward.

We visualise things going wrong…

Over and over again!

“If it can go wrong”, we tell ourselves, “It will go wrong!”.

Does this sound like you?

Just a little bit, maybe?

So, how do we get out of this disabling mindset?

How do we get to the stage where we can take action and move forward, no matter what we’ve been through in the past and no matter what doubts creep into our minds?

The problem is, we’re hard-wired to be cautious and that sometimes results in over-thinking things.

We spend too much time in the past…

Going over past mistakes and ‘failures’.

And we spend just as much time in the future, too…

Worrying about all the potential pitfalls!

When the reality is…

We need to be spending the vast majority of our time in the present.

We need to view past mistakes and ‘failures’ as lessons learned…

We need to forget about ‘what ifs’…

And simply take action…

And see where it takes us.

We need to be present right now.

Not get stuck in the past…

Or the future.

We need to be here…

Right now!

Making decisions and taking actions that will move us on…

And when we get there?

We can make more decisions…

To move us even further on.

Sound too simple to be true?

Maybe.

But only if you’re unable to get yourself into the present moment.

Only if you’re stuck in the past…

Or in the future.

So make your choices.

Be present in the moment…

And take some action to move forward…

Today.

Need some help to move forward?

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02/02/2024

❌ “Whatever you do, don’t talk about politics or religion!”

I may well be showing my age here, but I’ve been warned about this on more than one occasion and by more than one person!

In these “days of authenticity” it seems pretty much anything can be talked about…

Though I still sense politics and religion are taboo subjects for many people.

The argument against discussing them was that people have such strong views about these things that it would inevitably lead to arguments.

I prefer to call it passionate discussion! 😂

Some fear that people will think differently about them if they know they voted for the Tories or they’re a Christian.

But for me, it all comes down to people judging others and having little, or no tolerance for people who have different views to themselves.

Where do you stand on this? 📝👇

01/02/2024

🙌 Don’t let your dreams or ambitions hold you back in life…

Now, I reckon I’ve just caught the attention of pretty much 100% of life coaches here on Facebook!

Because every single one of them will tell you that you should have dreams…

Big dreams!

And I’m certainly not disagreeing with them!

So let me explain…

Firstly, as I just said, I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t have dreams… big dreams for your life.

Absolutely, you should!

But dreams can sometimes stop you taking action because you spend all your time trying to achieve your dreams in one fell swoop!

You want to make impact today… not tomorrow!

You want your dreams to happen right now.

So you’re forever looking for that one great idea…

That life-changing product or service…

That impossible-to-beat workshop.

And as I look back on my life, I was exactly the same for many, many years!

I wasn’t content to help just one or two people…

I wanted to change the world.

And I wanted to change it yesterday!

I was so impatient.

So eager to make my mark.

But all that did was put added pressure on the things I tried.

Most of them never saw the light of day because I didn’t think they’d have enough impact.

The others failed miserably because I was trying to leap before I could even stand!

I was getting nowhere fast.

In fact I was going backwards!

Until I started to be myself…

And do the things I enjoyed doing…

And really wanted to do.

Like working one-to-one with more people.

And working with small groups of people.

And doing online techie stuff (Goes back to my IT and web design days… I love it!).

So now I combine both and I’m much happier and helping more people.

Am I helping millions?

No…

Not yet…

But one day… 😉

Does any of this strike a chord with you?

Are your dreams or ambitions holding you back?

🤝 Like and send me a DM 💬

And let’s make some dreams come true for you.

30/01/2024

❓ Do we get wiser as we get older?

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news…

But… No!

As we get older, we still make plenty of mistakes, though hopefully, we don’t repeat the same mistakes we’ve made in the past!

As you continue to grow as a person, you’ll be trying new things and that will, inevitably, result in you making mistakes.

It goes with the territory.

The day you stop making mistakes is the day you stop growing.

The key is…

Don’t be too hard on yourself when you mess up.

Forgive yourself and accept that mistakes are all part of the process of growing older… but not wiser!

⭐ Wisdom isn’t about not making mistakes. It’s about learning to recover afterwards… with integrity and still in one piece. ⭐

As I see it…

The good thing about getting older is that you’ve already made plenty of mistakes…

Leaving you with fewer opportunities to make more! 😂

Look, you’re going to make plenty of mistakes in your life.

Get used to that and embrace them as opportunities to learn and grow.

Mistakes aren’t bad unless you treat them as bad, so learn to look at them differently.

Take time to reflect on your mistakes.

Don’t brush them aside.

Learn from them.

Grow from them.

And when you make more mistakes in the future.

Do the same.

Reflect.

Learn.

Grow.

And one more thing.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

Become a better, more rounded person because of them.

By the way, remember other people around you will also make mistakes.

Learn to be as understanding with them as you are with yourself.

Forgive them and help them learn from them if you can.

Now, all of this comes from experience.

I’ve made plenty of mistakes in my life.

Some of which I used to try and forget.

But that didn’t work.

Instead, I learned to take responsibility for my mistakes and learn from them.

That not only helped me become a better person…

It gave me more peace.

If any of this strikes a chord with you...

If you need to get past some past mistakes…

If you need more peace in your life…

Drop me a message.

29/01/2024

Having doubts seems to be part of current-day thinking.

Part of our culture, if you like.

Part of our vulnerability, even.

It's almost like it's become good to have doubts.

Doubts in our faith…

Doubts about what we're doing as a business...

Doubts about our relationships.

The list goes on.

The only problem is...

When we have doubts about something or someone, we hold back.

We hesitate before we take action.

We put off making decisions.

It's as if we feel it's the right thing to hold back before deciding to take those important steps forward.

And people are telling us it's right to doubt ourselves.

But is it?

Of course, there's good reasoning behind planning things thoroughly before taking major steps forward.

But there's planning...

And there's over-planning!

We mustn't get to the stage where we do additional planning just to put off making a decision.

Sometimes it's better to make a decision and try something out, rather than hypothesise about what might or might not happen.

Be brave.

Don't doubt your reasons for doing things.

Don't doubt that you can have a successful business…

Or gain that next promotion.

But most of all don't doubt yourself.

If you’re having trouble believing in yourself…

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You’ll get instant, personalised feedback to help you build a life of integrity, purpose and impact.

Even better, there's no charge!

https://life-clarity-review.scoreapp.com

Think of it as an MOT for your life…

A check to see what’s working and what needs fixing or replacing.

Or get in touch and let’s talk about what you really want in your life.

26/01/2024

😡 100% of British tea drinkers are mad at this!

And quite rightly, too!

OK, so I made up the statistic…

But I bet it’s not far off the mark!

Professor Michelle Francl, from the US, has suggested that adding a pinch of salt to your tea is the way to make the perfect cuppa!

Really?!?!

Her suggestion has even brought intervention from the US embassy, which sought to reduce the escalating tension in this very serious matter…

"We want to ensure the good people of the UK that the unthinkable notion of adding salt to Britain's national drink is not official United States policy. And never will be,"

Phew!

Common sense prevails!

If you’ve been affected by anything in this post, please feel free to set up a discovery call…

Together we can come through this! 😂

By the way...

How do you make your tea? ☕

Have a great weekend!

25/01/2024

⭐ LinkedIn research shows 75% of UK professionals are looking for a new job in 2024.

75%!

I find that absolutely staggering.

But, I guess, if you dig a little deeper, it’s not so surprising.

It’s more a reflection of the fact that so many people aren’t satisfied with what they have at the moment.

They’re looking for more money…

More responsibility…

A new challenge.

Or maybe they’re running away from something…

A boss they don’t like…

Too much stress…

No work-life balance.

Both lists could go on forever.

And, of course, a new job may be just what you need right now.

But most people are running from something…

Or looking for the greener grass.

I remember moving into IT from teaching…

Because I didn’t want to spend my evenings and weekends marking books and preparing lessons for the rest of my life.

After moving from company to company in search of something I hadn’t quite defined, I left a very well-paid career as a self-employed IT Consultant to set up a Web Design business with a friend…

That lasted 5 years before we sold it and I moved on again.

I trained as a coach, but couldn’t get enough clients, so I ended up back in teaching because I needed the money!

Strangely enough, I was reasonably happy there, but I was still searching for more purpose in my life.

Long story short…

Here I am helping men find integrity, purpose and impact in their lives.

Journey’s end?

Who knows?

But it’s where I feel happiest.

It’s where I have more purpose than I’ve ever felt before.

So, if you’re one of the 75% looking for a new job…

Step back.

Think about your motives.

Think about what you really want out of your life.

Will a change of job satisfy you?

If you need some help gaining clarity…

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You’ll get instant, personalised feedback to help you build a life of integrity, purpose and impact.

Even better, there's no charge!

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Think of it as an MOT for your life…

A check to see what’s working and what needs fixing or replacing.

Or get in touch and let’s talk about what you really want in your life.