Engage Counselling

Engage Counselling Bespoke Counselling service that offers in-person, online, and telephone counselling Engage Counselling offers face to face, online, and telephone counselling.

People come to counselling for all sorts of reasons, relationship breakdown, bereavement, anxiety, depression, trauma, sexuality, irrational thoughts, to name a few. Sometimes, you might find yourself with a mind fall of noise and confusion, with a feeling of uncertainty, and no way of understanding all the thoughts at once. The mind can be a scary place, especially when society, family, and frien

ds might be telling you who you should be, how you should look, and what you must feel. However, with a little support from a counsellor, you can be taught the skills and tools, to get you back to your true self, so that your mind is a little less scary. Friends might give you advice, family might do the same, when all you might want is for someone to listen to you. Here at Engage Counselling there is no judgement, no advice, no telling you what to do, instead, you are given a safe space to organise your thoughts, with a qualified and experienced counsellor, that will walk with you on your journey of self-discovery. No issue is ‘silly’, not issue is ‘irrelevant’, if an issue is effecting you to the point of it having a negative impact on your life, then it is relevant. We specialise in person-centred counselling, which is a talking therapy, as well as offer an integrative range of therapies to fit the individual client. We work seven days a week supporting clients, and we do our best to fit in with the clients lives. Services:

In-Person Counselling – An important part of counselling, is the therapeutic relationship between the client, and the counsellor. We believe that this relationship is important for positive therapeutic change, and in-person counselling can help this to happen. This type of counselling will give the client that opportunity to sit with a qualified, and experienced counsellor, in a safe, warm, and calm environment. Together with the client, the counsellor will use their counselling skills, empathy, unconditional positive regard, honesty and no judgement, to support the client to organise their thoughts, and understand what it is they are feeling. Online Counselling - Online counselling is available to anyone that has access to the internet on a computer or smart phone, anywhere in the world. Clients choosing online counselling maybe facing difficulties with mobility, travelling or the pressures of work and family life, which can make it difficult to be able to commit to in-person counselling, therefore, online counselling allows them to access counselling that will fit with them, and their lives. Telephone Counselling: This type of counselling is accessible to anyone that has access to a phone. Telephone counselling enables the client to talk with a qualified, and experienced counsellor over the phone at an agreed time, allowing for ease, privacy, and the ability to happen anywhere. Training and Qualification:

Master of Science in Counselling
BA (Hons) Degree in Youth & Community Services
Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies
Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Studies
Training for Bereavement Counselling with Dr John Wilson PhD

Memberships:

British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP)

Areas of counselling I deal with:

Affairs and betrayals, Alcoholism, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Bullying, Cancer, Carer support, Depression, Disabilities, Discrimination, Dissociation, Divorce, Emotional abuse, Forms of abuse, Family issues, Feeling sad, Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD), Health anxiety, Hoarding, Irrational thought, Infertility, Loneliness, Low self-confidence, Low self-esteem, Miscarriage, Panic attacks, Passive-aggressive behaviour, Pregnancy and birth, Racism, Redundancy, Relationship problems, Self-harm, Separation and divorce, Sex problems, Sexuality, Spirituality, Stress, Suicidal thoughts, Trauma, Work-related stress.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional ABUSE where one person uses psychological MANIPULATION to make another person doubt t...
25/08/2026

Gaslighting is a form of emotional ABUSE where one person uses psychological MANIPULATION to make another person doubt their memory, perception, and or sanity.

In relationships a person may use gaslighting to gain power, dominance, and control over their partner. Over time, gaslighting can eat away at a persons self-esteem and makes them dependent on the gaslighter.

Common gaslighting behaviours used in a relationship can be:

• Denying Reality - The partner might flat-out deny things that they have said or done, claiming the thing did not happen. Example: “I never told you that, you’re imagining it again”.
• Countering and Questioning Memory - The partner will challenge how the victim remembers an event, making them feel unreliable. Example: “That’s not how it happened at all. Your memory is getting worse”.
• Trivialising Feeling - The abuser may belittle or dismiss their partners emotions, claiming they are overacting. Example: “You always cry over nothing. You’re too sensitive”.
• Diverting and Blocking - They will change the subject or question their partners right to bring up an issue. Example: “You only bring this up to start a fight with me”.
• Shifting Blame - They turn the fault back onto the victim. Example: “I cheated because you pushed me away and neglected our relationship”.
• Calling the Partner “Crazy” - They explicitly label the partners mental state as unstable so outside people won’t believe them. Example: “You are losing your mind. Nobody else would ever put up with you”.

According to Carl Roger’s, our self-concept is shaped by our life experiences and how we interpret our interactions with...
19/08/2026

According to Carl Roger’s, our self-concept is shaped by our life experiences and how we interpret our interactions with the world.

Three Components of Self-Concept

* Self-Image: How you see yourself right now, including your physical traits, social roles, and personality.
* Self-Worth (Self-Esteem): How much you value, accept, and like yourself, heavily influenced by early childhood experiences.
* Ideal Self: The person you aspire to be and the qualities you wish to possess.

Congruence vs. Incongruence
* Congruence: Occurs when your self-image aligns closely with your ideal self, fostering psychological health and self-actualisation.
* Incongruence: Occurs when there is a mismatch between how you see yourself and your ideal self, leading to anxiety and distress.

Key Influences on Development
* Conditions of Worth: Rules or expectations learned from others dictating that you are only valued under specific conditions.
* Unconditional Positive Regard: Total, unreserved acceptance and love from others, which helps a person grow into a healthy, fully functioning individual.

Cognitive reframing is a psychological method that helps you spot negative or unhelpful thoughts and change them into mo...
13/08/2026

Cognitive reframing is a psychological method that helps you spot negative or unhelpful thoughts and change them into more balanced and realistic views. By looking at a situation from a fresh angle, you can lower stress, feel better, and act in healthier ways.

How It Works:
* Core idea: Events do not upset you. Your own thoughts about the events cause the distress.
* Goal: Aim for accuracy and balance, not fake happiness.
* Roots: It is a main tool used in CBT.

Steps to Practice It:
* Notice the thought: Catch yourself when you feel sad, mad, or anxious.
* Spot the distortion: Look for extreme views like all-or-nothing thinking or expecting the worst.
* Ask questions: Ask if your thought is true. Ask if there is another way to view the event.
* Replace the thought: Pick a calmer, more helpful way to see things.

Common Benefits:
* Lowers anxiety and worry.
* Builds mental strength against stress.
* Helps solve daily problems with a clear mind.

In a few months I will be qualified and offering supervision to other student and qualified counsellors. If a counsellor...
11/08/2026

In a few months I will be qualified and offering supervision to other student and qualified counsellors.

If a counsellor follows an ethical framework (which they should), they should also be attending supervision monthly to support their workload and wellbeing.

Supervision is confidential and a place where counsellors go to discuss work related issues

The statistics are shocking. Be informed. Be careful. Be safe.    **e
03/08/2026

The statistics are shocking.

Be informed. Be careful. Be safe.

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CLARE'S LAW UK & SARAH'S LAW UK.Helping you make safer choices in relationshipsThese laws give you the right to ask the ...
31/07/2026

CLARE'S LAW UK & SARAH'S LAW UK.

Helping you make safer choices in relationships

These laws give you the right to ask the police if your partner has a history of violence or s*xual offending. It's about your right to know and your right to be safe.

Starting a new relationship? Or perhaps you are already in one but your partner has always made you feel like there was “something a little off”.

Then you have the right to use these two laws to keep yourself, and your family safe.

Sarah's Law is named after 8-year-old Sarah Payne, who was abducted and murdered in July 2000 by a convicted s*x offender, Roy Whiting. Her tragic death inspired her parents and a major newspaper campaign to create a disclosure system protecting children from harm.

Clare’s Law - officially known as the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme. Named after Clare Wood, a 36-year-old mother from Greater Manchester who began a relationship with George Appleton in 2008, and did not know that Appleton had a violent criminal history. Appleton subjected Clare to severe abuse and threats to kill. Though she reported him multiple times, the police did not disclose his past. In February 2009, Appleton murdered Clare before taking his own life.

*You can use these laws anonymously*

It’s is better to be safe than sorry - Contact the Police online to make an enquiry.

The terminology we use on a daily basis is important. So often we throw out a sentence that has had no thought put into ...
30/07/2026

The terminology we use on a daily basis is important. So often we throw out a sentence that has had no thought put into what we are actually saying and who we are saying it to.

Many clients mention that they remember something negative a parent or care giver said to them as a child which shaped who they became as an adult today, and on reflection, that something could have been said in a much healthier way, giving their child self a more positive way of seeing themselves, their life or the world around them.

It was not your responsibility to parent your parents….A parentified child is a young person who is forced to take on ad...
29/07/2026

It was not your responsibility to parent your parents….

A parentified child is a young person who is forced to take on adult roles, such as emotional parentification and instrumental caregiving, due to a family role reversal.

Types of Parentification
* Instrumental: Doing physical household tasks like cooking, cleaning, paying bills, or raising younger siblings.
* Emotional: Acting as a counselor, peacemaker, or comfort source for overwhelmed or struggling parents.

Common Signs in Adults
* Over-responsibility: Feeling like you must fix everything and control every outcome.
* People-pleasing: Putting others first and ignoring your own personal needs.
* Trouble playing: Finding it very hard to relax, rest, or just have fun.
* No childhood memories: Feeling like you had to grow up way too fast.

(Picture generated by AI with the information given to it by the counsellor)

Why is it so difficult doing things when you’re depressed? Doing things is hard when you are depressed because of severe...
28/07/2026

Why is it so difficult doing things when you’re depressed?

Doing things is hard when you are depressed because of severe physical exhaustion, low motivation, and brain changes. It is not a choice or laziness.

Physical Exhaustion-
* Constant Tiredness: Your body feels heavy and worn out, even after sleeping all night.
* No Energy: Small jobs like getting out of bed or washing dishes take a huge amount of physical effort.
Loss of Motivation-
* No Reward Sense: The brain stops feeling joy or satisfaction from finishing tasks.
* Avolition: You lose the inner drive to start or finish normal daily actions.
Brain and Focus Problems-
* Trouble Thinking: It is hard to focus, remember steps, or make simple choices.
* Executive Dysfunction: The part of the brain that plans and organizes tasks does not work well.

There can be many reasons to why we behave the way we do, and it’ll be different for everyone. Below is a list of things...
24/07/2026

There can be many reasons to why we behave the way we do, and it’ll be different for everyone. Below is a list of things that can be contributing factors to our behaviour:

* Cultural expectations
* Social norms
* Habit
* Childhood experiences
* Childhood trauma
* Parent expectations
* Survival instincts
* Not thinking
* Chemicals and genes

And many more.

A counsellor can support you to process, reflect and understand your behaviours.

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