Rosie Withey - Emotional Wellbeing Coaching

30/09/2026

Since entering this new phase in my life (after retiring from my employed job) I noticed that I wasn’t giving myself permission to rest or reflect unless I felt that time to “just be” had been earnt in some way. I was so busy in keeping productive and using that to justify any down time I had. In fact, this need to keep busy is something many of us experience even when we are not working. How many times have you come home from holiday and thought “I need a holiday to get over my holiday!” – it’s such a common saying because we often try to cram as much as we can into a trip to a new place and even though these things are probably fun and interesting, we feel more justified in the busyness of this kind of “break” compared to the discomfort we might feel if we were to just sit by a pool all day and read a book. Likewise with our weekends, instead of resting after the working week, we are often more inclined to try and do all the jobs that we feel need doing around the house and garden and by the time Sunday night comes around we realise that we don’t feel rested. The truth is, we don’t need to do all the housework and make sure the garden looks beautiful before we can rest or do something we really enjoy, yet we often feel a sense of shame when we do choose these things over productivity.

I can see now that since retiring from my employed work in January, when I’m not coaching, I have (perhaps subconsciously?) kept myself busy rather than allowing myself to take some time to reflect on how I want the next phase of my life to look and feel.

This is a snippet from my latest blog. If you can relate to this please do read it in full by visiting: https://rosiewithey.co.uk/allow-yourself-permission-to-receive/

28/09/2026

Are you stuck and looking for a different way to move beyond old limiting/survival patterns or belief or behaviour – to ‘step out of the story’?

Many people who come to me describe how they feel as being "stuck". Whether that's in a routine that no longer feels right for them, patterns of people pleasing or simply just the feeling of knowing they want something more in their life but struggle to transition into whatever that looks like for them. Some people work with me alongside more traditional types of therapy such as counselling while others come to me because they prefer not to go down a more clinical route. More often than not, the people that decide to work with me are drawn to nature and the idea that we can learn from horses and use those lessons to make the changes in our own lives that will lead to more fulfillment.

After many years of working alongside horses and people, I’ve realised the importance of being congruent in our lives and so my work inspires you to develop self-awareness, healthier relationships, inner peace and fulfilment and a deeper connection to your authentic self. My approach to coaching, whether with horses or in a one-to-one space, can help you understand that your emotions mean something, and that old patterns can have a purpose but they don't have to hold you stuck.

If you feel stuck in a cycle of thoughts and feelings, I help you connect on a visceral level to what might have happened in the past, so you can work through your physical and mental blocks.

If you would like to have a conversation about this please do get in touch with me.

25/09/2026

It's been a while since I shared my free masterclass with you so I thought I'd bring back to your attention!

The Masterclass takes you through my four-element coaching approach. I’m really delighted that I’ve had some great feedback from both new clients, who have been able to get to know me and begin to benefit from my approach, and existing clients who have told me that it’s been good to have a reminder and refresh.

You can watch it here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4DswnzoVlE&feature=youtu.be

23/09/2026

Article Recommendation:

Stop Fighting Unwanted Thoughts
Healing happens when you get out of the way of your nervous system by David Hanscom MD

KEY POINTS

Thoughts interpret our physiology and are driven by it. Stress physiology creates unpleasant thoughts.
Modern self-help processes are ineffective because they keep the body attentive to threat.
By calming down and nurturing safety physiology, your body heals on its own.
Quit fighting your thoughts; instead, nurture joy. Like the caterpillar, you will wonderfully emerge.

Read the article in full here

You don't stop unwanted thoughts by trying to stomp them out. Healing is not a subtraction. You do not get better by removing the bad. You heal by building something else.

21/09/2026

People that come to me for coaching may be feeling stuck or like they have everything they want in life but still have a sense that something is missing. They may be struggling to behave authentically within their relationships and quick to people please or constantly put their own needs below everyone else's. They may also be struggling to enjoy their passions in life because they feel they have to earn rest or time for themselves and don't know how to just "be" in the moment without thinking about what they think they should be doing instead (ie. "there's so much to do, I shouldn't be sitting here reading my book"). If you can relate to any of these then you have something in common with many of the people that I work with.

The thing that makes my coaching unique is the wisdom I’ve learnt from a lifetime connecting with horses. This, along with my multi-faceted training, has shaped a truly holistic approach which emphasises the importance of body, emotion, mind and spirit being in alignment.

These form the 4 elements of wellbeing coaching:

💫Listening to the body
💫Using emotions as information
💫Responding in the present moment (which becomes possible when you’ve removed limiting blocks)
💫Connecting with your passion or purpose

Working through these 4 elements, I can help you move through unconscious mental and emotional blocks to gain congruence and experience inner calm.

If you would like to find out more please visit https://rosiewithey.co.uk/coaching/

18/09/2026

“You’ll never know how beautiful your life can be if you’re not willing to be uncomfortable.”

Cory Muscara

16/09/2026

We don’t need to do all the housework and make sure the garden looks beautiful before we can rest or do something we really enjoy, yet we often feel a sense of shame when we do choose these things over productivity.

This is a snippet from my recent blog and I am sure it is something that many of you can relate to. How often do you let yourself rest without first having to feel like you have achieved something? If this is a rarity for you (as it has been for me!) then please do read my blog, Allow Yourself Permission to Receive in full.

https://rosiewithey.co.uk/allow-yourself-permission-to-receive/

14/09/2026

This testimonial is from Kate who attended my 'Being Your True Self in Relationship' workshop in July. This was Kate's second workshop with me and it was great to see her again!

"I enjoyed my previous workshop at Trealy Farm so much and became really interested in how it all works. You mentioned you were running a new workshop with Helen Smith in Leicestershire, and I was interested to see how it was going to be. I love all the peaceful meditations. I felt sure I would find it interesting and learn something new.

The venue was great at Helen’s. For me the timing was perfect and I didn’t know that when I booked! It confirmed why we shouldn’t make assumptions!!

You mentioned the word Fun and it’s something I’ve often pondered on and felt what you said was very helpful… ie fun is a personal thing. Once again, the workshop helped me to clarify my thoughts on my living where I do at the moment…. I'm very lucky to have this opportunity so I need to enjoy it while I can!

The workshop helped me again to be aware of the language I use and how it could or might be shaming when I don’t want it to be. I feel these workshops have helped me feel stronger and more able to trust my intuition/gut feelings.

As before I would highly recommend your workshops to anyone, I feel anyone can benefit. I would suggest to them they come with an open mind and even if they might struggle with some of the terminology, or feel they have strong opinions on some topics, to put these thoughts aside and enjoy the experience as fully as possible. I didn’t come feeling I needed help as such, more from interest… However, they’ve been extremely helpful, and given me motivation…I guess I did feel a bit stuck and needed some help with that!"

13/09/2026

I’ve recently been sharing posts about uncertainty and vulnerability and so I thought I’d share my recent personal experience!

In the past week Andy and I finally started our two week holiday in Namibia. The uncertainty started back in 2020 when we initially planned the holiday! Andy broke his leg and we had to cancel, but the following month we went into lockdown and so we couldn’t have come anyway!

It’s taken us 6 years to reschedule and last week the journey through uncertainty and vulnerability began as we visited an African country for the first time!

The unknowns of the currency, the Namibian SIM card and travelling solo in our 4 x 4 Toyota happened as soon as we landed. The following day we travelled to our first lodge and the vulnerability and excitement became evenly matched!

We had 3 amazing days travelling through Etosha and seeing the animals, something I’ve dreamed of for many years. We’ve now arrived in the desert area of the Ugab and our making our way towards the coast tomorrow.

The hardest thing and yet the most delightful thing about vulnerability is that there is a good lining on the other side.
I feel so blessed 🙏

11/09/2026

Acceptance is fundamental to moving through uncertainty and uncomfortable feelings and can be the first step towards changing your patterns. Once you accept a situation ‘as it is’ you feel calmer and you can explore new ways of being.

As I reflect on my own challenges with uncertainty, I realise that I’ve often overcome them by getting ‘busy’! Whilst running a business and family I pushed on with the next thing on my ‘to do’ list to engage my mind elsewhere. That’s been a valid and helpful process in many cases, but I no longer want to live in a constant state of ‘busyness’!

Now that I have more free time, I’ve become more acutely aware of the pattern of using ‘busyness’ to overcome uncertainty and uncomfortable thinking and I want it to be different. As a result, I’ve started to sit with the discomfort, feel the physical feelings of vulnerability, learn to acceptance things as they are and then find other ways to manage my mind.

I'd like to share this poem which really helps me with this:

The Guesthouse

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival,

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of it's furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
For some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
Meet them at the door laughing,
And invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
Because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

by Rumi