Learning Pals Tuition

A fantastic organisation that supports parents to provide a stimulating and engaging environment for their children … that doesn’t rely on screens 😊
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Happiness IRL Supporting busy mums to raise emotionally resilient, focused, and confident children in a screen-saturated world — by restoring connection, reclaiming attention, and rediscovering real life.

I tutor a Year 5 girl who is on the autistic spectrum. She finds trusting people difficult. Last week, she described her wonderful imaginary friends to me. I feel so privileged to be invited into their world. We’re going to write stories about them.

When you ask parents if they’d like tuition to continue next year and they say this,
‘We plan to carry on with tuition from next September too. You are brilliant and we really feel that Vess is in excellent hands!’

Why some autistic young people ask you to speak for them…

You know the moment…

Someone asks your young person a simple question:

“How was your day?”
“Tell me about…”
“What’s wrong?”

And they turn to you and say,
“You tell them.”

You know they know the answer, so why can’t they say it?🤔

For many of our autistic young people, that ‘simple’ question isn’t simple at all.

By that point, their brain is already working overtime-

🧠 managing sensory overwhelm
🧠 working out what’s expected
🧠 predicting reactions
🧠 finding the right words
🧠 holding it all together

They might also be…
😩completely exhausted
😰running on empty after holding it together all day
🙁or being asked to speak to someone they don’t know or don’t yet trust.

So when they ask you to speak for them, they’re not being rude or lazy ❌

💙 Being the centre of attention feels too much
💜 Worry about getting it wrong or sounding rude
💙 The words disappear under pressure
💜 Past experiences make it feel unsafe to try
💙 They’re already tired… sometimes completely depleted

So they turn to you- their safe person,
to help them stay regulated 🙏

That’s okay 👍🏼
You are their safety👍🏼
You are their anchor ⚓️

The goal isn’t to force them to speak.
It’s to help them feel safe enough that one day… they can ☺️

💬 A gentle message for teachers & professionals…💬

When a parent speaks on behalf of their young person…

Please don’t assume they’re anxious, overprotective, or taking over.

They’re not silencing their child.
They’re supporting them to have a voice, in a moment where speaking feels too much 🙏🏼

Because speaking to someone familiar or not, especially when tired or overwhelmed, really isn’t easy🙏🏼

Mums and dads know their young person.
They know when they need support 🙏🏼

Instead of:
❌ “Let them answer.”
❌ “They need to speak for themselves.”

Try:
✅ “Would you like some help answering?”
✅ “It’s okay, take your time.”
✅ “Mum/Dad can help if that feels easier.”

When you demonstrate empathy, understanding and flexibility, that goes a long way to helping a young person feel more confident to speak up later.

💬💜💙And to mums and dads…💬💜💙

You’re not doing anything wrong.

You’re not ‘creating dependency.’
You’re co-regulating. Supporting. Translating ✅

You’re helping your young person be understood when the world feels too loud, too fast, too worrying or when they’re simply too tired to find the words ✅

If this is your young person… there is nothing wrong with them.

Their brain is just working incredibly hard behind the scenes 🙏🏼

Patsy x💜💙

If you feel like this about helping your child with their maths homework send me a message! I can help. I can help with the improper fractions, the obtuse angles and the circumference of a circle.

I can also help with their english metaphors, where to put the fronted adverbial, and when to break the spelling rules.

They need never know that you couldn’t help.

I have over 20 years teaching experience, including with SEND children. I’m kind, reliable and extremely positive. I teach one to one in your home. See my page for positive feedback from parents and examples of how I teach 😊

Lovely neat work from my Year 4 student. She has suspected dyscalculia, without making a fuss I leave the counters and place value board out and she quickly gets on with the work. I do wish visual aids were more easily available to students in the classroom. Without it being ‘unusual.’