Zandra Spencer EFT

I know it’s not easy. You have so much on your plate already and it can feel waaay simpler to ignore the niggles and the flashbacks of the birth.

You might not have let yourself feel it. It’s scary stuff.

The disappointment, the tears and all the fear from that difficult - and even traumatic - experience.

But you can move through this, gently. And it’ll probably surprise you just how quickly you can do this, with the fear starting to lose its grip within minutes.

It may sound heavy, but on the other side… a feeling of strength and celebration can be shared. Lighter shoulders, as if a bit of weight was lifted.

This was a huge and difficult experience for you but the negative emotions can shift quickly.
 
If difficult memories keep creeping up, demanding attention and the tears just feel so close, I invite you to DM me for a link to our birth circle replay from Thursday.

Because you’ll feel so good afterwards and that’s important. You are important and your feelings matter.

If it feels too much but there’s something drawing you to look at your birth, reach out. I’m here.
  
With lots of love and support x

Is it time to let yourself feel the emotion around your birth experience?

We truly believe that every woman should be gifted the space to process, release and reclaim her baby’s birth - whether it was weeks or years ago.

Too often mamas are left feeling unseen and unheard after their baby’s birth, as if it’s something that happened to them rather than with and through them.

Whether it was unassisted or highly medicalised, you might feel disappointment, a sense of failure, tears, sadness, fear, anger.

In this 6 week journey we are offering a small group of you deeply nourishing support to reclaim your birth.

We will gather together in circle every week where you will be supported to explore your emotions around your birth experience, process and let go so that you feel more settled, back to yourself, seen and heard and ready to truly celebrate your incredible* achievement!

*It really was incredible, even if it really doesn't feel like that right now.

You’ll be with us live in circle (recorded so you can catch up if needed), and supported by journaling prompts and other resources that we’ll share along the way. We’ll also have a shared WhatsApp group to connect between circles.

There are spaces for just 12 mamas as we create an intimate and nourishing container for you, and we’ll be closing registration on Tuesday 27th April at midnight (BST) so that we can get to know you a little better ahead of the first circle on Tuesday 4th May.

🎁 And if you know this is for you and you say yes before 8pm on Saturday 24th April then you’ll also benefit from a 30 minute 121 session with each of us at the end of the journey!

Interested to know more? Link in bio or DM if it feels like a chat before deciding if it’s right for you would be helpful xx

We’re told it’s okay not to be okay. But do you really feel it?
 
And if you don’t feel great about your baby’s birth, are you okay to not be okay about that?
 
Maybe you tell yourself it’s fine. It’s done. The baby is okay. You’re okay. Does it really matter anyway?
 
But something nags at you. You know this was an important transition. And it niggles or maybe it even hurts that you don’t feel like celebrating the birth itself. Baby, yes. Birth, no. 
 
Maybe you’d done all the “right” things and it still didn’t go to plan.
 
Maybe there’s shame or embarrassment. Guilt. I didn’t say no, I should have done things differently, all the things.
 
I can tell you, hand on heart, you did an amazing thing.
 
Let’s sit with that for a moment.
 
Better yet, let’s sit together in circle with that. 
 
It’s okay that you don’t feel okay and it’s important that you don’t feel okay. You matter. How you feel matters. 
 
Tomorrow (Thursday 22nd April, 8pm BST) we come together to celebrate the moment you became a mum (for the first, second, third time, whether it was weeks or years ago), to gently acknowledge any difficult feelings and start to let go with some beautiful tools that we’ll be sharing.
 
I’m holding this circle with the wonderful Kim and we’ll be tapping and breathing together, creating a really nourishing space.
 
You can save your space in my bio.
 
We’re really excited that we’ll also be opening the doors to Reclaim Your Birth - a 6 week journey to process your birth experience - which we are facilitating together for the first time. 
 
The Thursday circle won’t dive into that too much, but know that this will be a beautiful way to see if this is the right moment and space for you to go deeper.
 
We’d love to see you there.

Much love xx
 
P.S. We will send a replay of the circle to everyone who has signed up, but the energy of the live circle will be really special so, if you can, create the space to be there with us live. If that means bringing baby, that’s all good 😌
 
P.S.S. Please share this post. Maybe someone you think is okay needs to see it xx

On Thursday evening we will be sitting in circle together.

Exploring why it’s okay not to feel okay about your baby’s birth.

Why you don’t need to ignore the niggles anymore.

How your body is reacting to the stress of that difficult birth.

How you can start to let it go.

We’ll tap and breathe together to find some peace with all this.

We’d love for you to be part of this.

And we know that you are likely bombarded with invitations to circle, webinars, another zoom meet up, all asking for your time.

This one doesn’t need you to give. This is for you to receive, with our love.

Come along, enjoy, release and feel deeply rested as we tap and breathe together.

It's a good idea to...

1) Make sure you are in a quiet space where ideally you won't be disturbed (though if you have a little one with you, that’s okay also).
2) Bring a candle to light, crystals, essential oils or any other tools to make your space feel loving and supportive.
3) Bring your journal and pen

Kim and I really look forward to welcoming you on Thursday, 8pm BST.

Link in bio to receive the zoom details.

Much love x

What about you?

Where’s your space to process what you experienced? Whether it was recent or a while ago...

Kim and I will be holding this space for you, with love, with tapping, with breathwork, with joy and smiles 💕

Next week, Thursday 22nd at 8pm. Link to save your free space is in my bio ⭐️

DM me with any questions, if you’re concerned it’ll be too emotional, too much, not enough, all of it # # #

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Dear Mama,⁠
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I see you!!⁠
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For every mama that ever felt like she didn't matter, that she didn't exist, during the birth of your baby, in those postpartum days and long after...I see you.⁠
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I see you because I am you ❤️⁠
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and I are holding a very special circle (our gift to you) on the 22nd April at 8pm BST for all those mamas who felt overwhelmed during the birth of their babies. ⁠
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Whatever your birth story if you feel like you still have something to let go of then you are welcome.⁠
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The link to save your space at our free circle is in my bio xx

Birth is so bloody powerful.

The tears are not of sadness, even when sadness is part of the experience.

Births where you didn’t feel seen or heard.

Births that felt disappointing. That didn’t go “right” or as hoped for.

There can be lots to cry about sometimes. Lack of care, feeling alone.

But it’s the strength of women moving through that and starting to see how bloody amazing they were and just what they achieved with their baby that gets my tears started.

The amazement in a woman’s eyes at the end of a birth session with me, amazed at her own power that she hadn’t been able to access before, the power that had been underneath the disappointment, the sadness, the anger.

It was always there. And when it’s revealed and felt... All. The. Tears.

The lovely Kim and I will be holding a birth circle on Thursday 22nd April, 8pm BST to lean into all of this. Link in bio to reserve your seat 💕

Always some gems in the summit, sign up and let me know how you go! Xx

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So beautifully said by Kate... And the space she has created in The Tapping Collective is 🌟💕🌟

Read this. Tapping is the most supportive tool.

And if you’re an experienced tapper, or new to it but wanting more, this may be for you www.tappingcollective.com

I’m excited to be a bigger part of the collective this year, maybe see you in there! # # #

For all the Tappers, experienced and new - I wanted to share my Welcome Letter from our 2021 Tapping Collective Journal.

This is why I Tap, this is why The Tapping Collective is open and why I believe this work is important.

Come and join us.
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“It changes us, even If we do not reach it,
Into something we barely sense, but are;
A movement beckons, answering our movement...
But we just feel the wind against us."
RAINER MARIA RILKE

The Tapping Collective Journal is a revised version of my 2020 book, Sacred Space. I’m very proud of that piece of work in which our members wrote their January intentions.

This morning I re-read my personal Sacred Space book which is full of 2019 reflections, and the hopes and dreams of 2020. It was painful, I’ve spent all day crying on and off.

2020 wasn’t the year I thought I’d have.

A year ago after publishing Sacred Space and opening the doors to The Tapping Collective, my maternal grandmother passed away. I was hit with a depressive freight train and joy felt hard to find in my body. My nan, Rosina Outlaw was a tough, beach walking, dog loving, army sergeant of a woman, with a lot of love to give. I miss her and was very disconnected for a while after she died.

But with the help of friends and family, I recovered, I withdrew and rested.

Then the pandemic happened. It feels like one day we were discussing this crazy virus in China, the next, watching lines across a screen showing how people were spreading the virus in the UK.

When I picked up my two children from school after the first lockdown announcement, I was in a daze. Some parents were crying. The majority had gritted teeth, and were trying to be brave for the kids. Trying to be brave for each other as we faced homeschooling, adapted working, and saving our health-care system.

My husband, Nigel and I told ourselves we were lucky; we had an income, we live on a cliff, we had a daily 40 minute beach walk and a 6 month old puppy that kept our two young boys busy. Yet in amongst all of this luck, we both worked too hard, we found it hard to manage the energy in our house.

Then, the unthinkable happened. My husband, Nigel who was only 47 died suddenly of a heart attack.

The world crashed around us. I wade through grief with two children and our extended family. The type of grief that holds you down on the bed, makes you feel like you can’t breathe, has you sobbing into your children’s necks and wondering how you’ll get up and make the dinner. All the loss.

The unimaginable pain that we’ve been in. There are still days and hours where that pain is a 1000 paper cuts to my heart. Each one a reminder of what we had and what we’ve lost.

So, yes, when I look back at that Sacred Space book from January 2020, it hurts; I’m not that person anymore. And I know my situation is the extreme, but I’m not sure that any of us are the same people anymore.

We have hard-won wisdom from 2020...and still the pandemic continues.

I’m writing this in January 2021 and the UK is currently in our third Lockdown.

There is a new strain of the virus and highest daily cases since the pandemic began. Children are not at school, it’s icy and being outside for longer than a few hours is not really possible.

We are fatigued.

We are angry with our government; whether that’s because you believe they have handled the pandemic terribly, or that freedom of speech seems to be limited to their own rhetoric.

But it is hard to be angry or protest or ask for help when we all need help and we are all fatigued. We don’t need to look far to see or feel someone else worse off than us.

We are starting this third lockdown from a different standpoint. Once we had jingles of hope, door step clapping and community to help us through, and now people are just putting one foot in front of the other doing their best to keep calm and carry on.

So, when I read back the 2020 intentions, it is of course painful. But, the reason I’m carrying on, the reason that I’m even able to write this, to continue The Tapping Collective is that without Tapping, I would be in a much much worse state.

Family and friends support aside, without the Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting sessions that I have received from our EFTMRA trainers, Janice Thompson, Ted Wilmont and Penny Croal and the conversations with Karl Dawson, and Susie Shelmerdine, and The Tapping Collective itself holding me up, I would still be in a traumatised state of shock.

It is a strange thing to be someone who holds space for others to work through their trauma, (and my most memorable sessions have been deep loss and bereavement of children and parents) to now be the recipient of this work.

As well as the Tapping in the Matrix, I have had messages, cards, love, surrogate group Tapping sessions and waves of light and love continually sent to me during this hard time.

So, although my goal setting will never be the same, my guess is that yours won’t either, I know that this community is important, that we have to carve out pockets of support and kindness for these coming months, and years.

The world has changed, and at our core, I hope that we can stay optimistic that this change will eventually be for the better, that we may take this hard won knowledge about the important things in life and make that our compass.

How will we remain optimistic? How will we tune into our compass?

And, the big question... you're here, you're a Tapper, you know there are techniques that can help people who are struggling with their own mental health... How will you take care of yourself, so that you can take care of others? And that can be your Mum, your children, your colleagues, your friends, your neighbours and your clients?

With the Tapping Collective Team, headed up by the brilliant Zandra Spencer, we offer you all of this support and love for 2021.

We need each other to get through this.

I’m so happy you are here with us, let’s walk next to each other.

May this journal be your own sacred space to let go, align and anchor in through the seasons over 2021.

If 2020 taught us anything it is that being adaptable is an important life skill. Being able to cope in times of stress and collective fear is going to be intrinsic in our being able to thrive both as individuals and as part of a community.

We know Tapping is a technique that works for us, otherwise we wouldn’t be here right?

This community space helps people use Tapping to enrich their lives in all areas. To help us stay out of the stress response and, transform, change and empower our belief systems.

When you gather a large number of humans together, either online or in-person and create a neutral loving container, people show up and talk from the heart, energy rises, support is palpable and we are nourished on a cellular level.

In 2021, we are having themed months, starting with money, self-care and community. By having a focus, it enables our collective to deep dive with interviews, swap sessions, education and support.

This journal is aligned with our monthly themes, in January we will be having Tap and Write sessions to fill them in, to dream - but you can use them in any order you like, as the year starts, or as we go. Do what you are drawn to, explore and go lightly.

Every month you have an invitation to our collective soul circle where we reflect, celebrate, share, maybe have a cry, maybe a dance and again reset for the month ahead.

We align with the movements of the planet, we create sacred space at the Solstices and Equinoxes. We celebrate the lunar cycles and use the power of the New Moon, the most potent time for manifesting during the month. It’s all there for you, unwavering, in this magical Tapping Collective space.

Wishing you so much steadiness and joy for this year.
I know that being part of this community will help.

Thank you for being here.

Thank yourself for being here. Your future self is nodding their head in agreement.

Much love, Kate xx

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