12/05/2026
Why I care so much about children who are labelled “difficult.”
Because I have seen so many children and young people misunderstood.
I have seen behaviour judged before anyone has asked what is underneath it.
I have seen children called rude, lazy, defiant or attention-seeking when they were actually anxious, overwhelmed, traumatised, dysregulated or trying to cope with needs that had not been properly understood.
I have also seen parents blamed when they are already exhausted.
Parents who are trying everything.
Parents who are attending meetings, chasing support, reading reports, managing emotions at home and still wondering if they are doing enough.
This is why I care about trauma-informed, SEND-aware and relationship-centred support.
Not because behaviour does not matter.
But because behaviour makes more sense when we understand the whole child.
