Elite Academy of Development and Wellbeing

14/09/2026

Don’t let target fixation damage your performance.

13/09/2026

Feel like you’re being set up to fail?

It’s an awful, sickening feeling.

Working flat out but feeling like the barriers against you just keep stacking up.

And the biggest issue is… you start to get more and more uncertain about what is real and what’s in your head.

… and as for the spiralling and ruminating thoughts … you don’t want anyone else to know about those.

When you reach the point where it’s not only affecting your performance, but your mental and emotional health, it’s time to get those thoughts out of your head (where they won’t do as much damage.)

I’m not here to judge you, or talk to your boss about you.

I’m here to help you make sense of your experience and find clarity.

The best option? Ask for funding to get on one of the three remaining slots this year for my 121 performance intensive.

Between us we can find the best approach to get approval - which is fine because I know, regardless of what gets written down on the proposal, the results will be beneficial to you and your organisation.

Not sure? No problem. Book a free confidential 30 minute conversation (Link in comments.)

04/07/2026

What you can learn about mental strength from my menopausal morning (Yes - you too fella's!)

03/07/2026

As a leader, being seen as we truly are can feel terrifying.

So frightening, in fact, that we try to create an alternative version of ourselves, to show to the world instead.

One that we think is better.

Stronger.
Smarter.
Sharper.
Just better.

But it isn’t better. Because it isn’t you.

And actually, your teams can sense that you aren’t authentic. On an (often unconscious level) tour team knows you aren't the real deal because they can’t connect with YOU.

So the whole theory doesn’t work.

Truthfully - there is no better version of you, than you.

And once you get this at a deeper level of understanding, your performance will Skyrocket.

So… are you ready to meet yourself?

10/06/2026

I was having a conversation with a client a while back who was finding his team stressful.

There were dynamics in his team that were (understandably) difficult.

There was a lot of conflict within his team which was making day to day operations more and more challenging.

As we talked, something interesting emerged.

(But, if I’m honest, it’s the same thing that emerges with every stressed out person I work with.)

He began to see how the stress wasn't really coming from the people around him.

That was a real challenge. Real circumstances.

But the stress was coming from the weight he was carrying in his own mind.

He felt responsible.

- Responsible for everyone's performance.
- Responsible for finding solutions.
- Responsible for fixing every issue.

But as the manager, he IS responsible I hear you say!

And that is somewhat true.

But the AMOUNT of thinking we have AROUND that responsibiltiy will determine the level of stress we feel.

When he let go of believing it was circumstance that caused his stress, he started the see the layers of excess thinking that added no value, and were, in fact, detrimental to his performance leading his team.

And as he saw the truth, their power of those thoughts faded away and he realised that:

- He can support people without rescuing them.
- He can influence without controlling.
- He can care deeply about his team without taking ownership of every challenge they face.

The moment he started separating ‘Thought’ from ‘Reality’ (and what was his responsibility from what wasn't) something changed.

The team didn't magically become easier overnight, because that was going to take time.

But he became calmer, clearer, more effective and much happier.

The most stressful part of leadership isn't the situation itself.

It’s the way our thinking presents that situation to us.

Have you ever found yourself taking responsibility for things that weren't really yours?

(And BTW it’s exactly the same with parenting.)

08/06/2026

Don’t be the busy idiot.

You know what that is right?

The one that is always busy. Always rushing. Always getting things done.

It looks like it's due to our circumstances, but it can become an addiction ... because a part of our thinking loves it!

When we are busy we think it means we are important. It means we have a purpose. It means we are needed.

But what it really means is that you aren’t adding the value you could be adding if you slowed down.

Why?

Because when we slow down mentally, we are more measured.

We are wiser.

We are more able to see fresh thought and inspiration as they arise within us.

Instead of going around the same old, repetitive thought cycles at high speed, we create the space for new ideas and opportunities.

So this makes us far superior people leaders, CEO's, directors and operators.

So ask yourself; Are you rushing around, being the busy idiot?

25/04/2026

*NEW* Couples Retreat

I've been thinking about this for a while and it felt like something much needed.

The pressures of finances, kids and anxieties can really take their toll and cause relationships to drift. That's normal.

The question is whether we exit at the 'apart' stage or we persevere to the next 'together' stage.

This is a private retreat for couples who want to find their way back to each other.

A private transformative coaching retreat for couples who want to rediscover each other and move forward stronger.