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Why is saying goodbye such a hard thing to do?But so very important?Two weeks ago I buried my much loved Waikiki birdie,...
10/10/2023

Why is saying goodbye such a hard thing to do?

But so very important?

Two weeks ago I buried my much loved Waikiki birdie, an act I have done before for all my furry and feathered friends. By doing this, I started to process the fact that he was no longer in my world. I started to mourn my loss and experience the different and difficult feelings grief brings.

I believe it's important to create little rituals when loosing pets. I know some people get their pets cremated, others decide leave their bodies at the vets. Some may never know what happened to their pet/s. It doesn't matter, memorials can still take place. Rituals can be created. The process of saying goodbye can still happen.

Our brain needs these to help it reset the pattern of behaviour we have created with our pet/s.

To create new patterns and experiences that directly relate to the memories we hold dear of our pet.

I know some people who have made little memorials to their pets, that's ok too.

It's good to find a way to commemorate our pet. To celebrate their life and begin to accept that this is all part of the bereavement process.

Goodbye's are never easy to say, they hurt, the loss we feel is a reflection of our love.

Pets are more than animals, they are comfort, joy and companionship.

They are family x

01/10/2023

Heartbreak can be caused by a multitude of things.

A break up.

The end of a friendship.

The last day of a job.

The final breath of a pet.

All bring their own pain, complications and struggles.

All can be healed.

Follow my journey through grief having lost a much loved pet. I hope to share what works and what doesn't along the way.

Pets are family, they provide companionships and I believe turn a house into a home.

Through their care they can bring out our best qualities, remind us to be present and live life to the best of our ability.

Because life can be short.

As a heartbreak coach I specialize in dealing with grief, moving on strong and creating a future full of happiness.

Here if needed, always ###

10/09/2023

Forgiveness can be incredibly hard following a break up.

Many don’t feel ready.

Many don’t want to.

Many are scared to.

One reason why?

We struggle to let go of the things that make us feel sad.

Make us feel angry.

Sometimes these emotions, the hurtful memories are all the connection we have left to that person.

Letting go can feel like loosing them forever.

Letting go after heartbreak can seem unreachable.

Unimaginable.

Which is why forgiveness can feel like it’s going to hurt.

It doesn’t.

It simply brings peace.

If you are struggling to forgive or let go…..

I can help.

I have been there, I understand the fear and the pain.

I have supported clients to move on strong.

I can support you too x

03/09/2023

Can you truly forgive your ex?

How about forgiving yourself?

Questions I have wrestled with and questions I have found myself asking my clients.

This month I hope to provide a few answers, ideas that might support you to find your own resolution.

We all know just how hard forgiveness can be, let me help you navigate its essence and find peace of mind and heart.

I am just a DM away x

I wanted to end my theme for August with this quote. It's one I hope you remember when things get you down, when life ...
27/08/2023

I wanted to end my theme for August with this quote.

It's one I hope you remember when things get you down, when life is tough or feels overwhelming.

When you feel heartbroken.

You are only one workout away from a happy mood.

Even if you don't feel like it, more so when you don't feel like it, get out there and do it x

20/08/2023

The power of exercise.

This is the reason why I am so passionate about spreading the word of just how beneficial it can be for our mental health rather than highlighting the many physical gains.

Running gave me moments of calm and clarity when otherwise it felt like my whole world was falling apart.

It gave me hope by showing me ways to control my anxiety so I could better cope with my day to day.

It gave me permission to get out of my head and into my body, to experience something other than sadness and heartache.

Exercise brought light into my dark days, just like the sunrise did on my morning runs.

It strengthened many things, I am most grateful for what it did to my heart.

What could exercise do for you? x

16/08/2023

I believe that group fitness is the bomb for your mental health.

I admit, I am probably biased as that's what I teach!

I know it's not for everyone so I have other exercise suggestions for tackling anxiety/stress and low mood.

Research from Harvard has proven that social connections make us happy. You can certainly make new friends in a group fitness class, you can also do this by taking part in sports like football or netball. You could also try a running group or dance class as these can be incredibly social too.

I like to remind my clients that when we struggle, we tend to isolate ourselves.
This can reinforce negative emotions.

Pushing yourself to get out, to move, to meet new people opens us up to new friendships, new possibilities which boosts our mood.

As I mentioned in my last post, yoga and pilates are great for calming the mind.

BUT.

If you wanted to release pent up anxiety or stress, then a HIIT class or boxing is great! I find that they completely absorb you as it's all you can think about!

And as we know exercise releases positive endorphins and serotonin which lifts your spirits and clears your head.

The key to success with fitness is finding something you like and then enjoying all the benefits movement brings x

In Sanskrit yoga means 'to join' or 'to unite.' It unites your breath with your body, your mind to you soul.It's power i...
13/08/2023

In Sanskrit yoga means 'to join' or 'to unite.'

It unites your breath with your body, your mind to you soul.

It's power is in connection, to yourself, to others, to the universe (depending on your beliefs).

It keeps you present and in the moment. Which, similar to mindfulness, calms a spinning head.

It improves your mood.

You can practice at home, in a class, in the park (like me) or at the beach.

It doesn't matter if you are new, a bit rusty, a regular or a well practiced yogi. It's not about the person next to you. It's about you.

No judgement, just the breath.

Just time for you, just a moment to awaken your senses and clear your thoughts.

It works wonders for stress, for anxiety, for sadness.

You don't have to be bendy, you don't need fancy clothes, you don't need great balance or strength. You just need curiosity and willingness to give it a go.

Namaste x

09/08/2023

Feeling anxious? Stressed out? Low in mood?

To me, one of the most effective ways to clear your head, control your anxiety or boost your mood is to exercise.

Here comes the science, you know I am a geek when it comes to stuff like this, exercise works by releasing endorphins that trigger a positive feeling in the body. Serotonin is also released and they work together to make us feel happier and healthier!

Plus if you are outside, you are benefitting from being out in nature and absorbing vitamin E which also stimulates endorphin and serotonin production.

It's one of the best happiness hacks I know!

I am forever teaching this to my classes, they all know that I use exercise to de-stress and help my mental health.

Give it a go x

01/08/2023

What do I have in common with Joe Wicks?

Well, I don't have an MBE or a gold Blue Peter badge (I wish).

Nor do I have an Essex accent.

But, like him, I believe in the power of fitness to help you feel happier and healthier.

So this month I am going to remind you all, just how important it is to move for your mental health.

30/07/2023

Negative thought patterns.

We all have them, but sometimes they take over. Sometimes we become stuck in them.

Like catastrophising. When you expect the worst possible outcome to certain situations, however unlikely it is.

Maybe overgeneralisation is familiar? This is when you see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. Using words like 'never' and 'always' without thinking.

I admit, this one is certainly familiar to me. My mum and I often use the phrase "look at what you could have had" whilst away together. We have had past experiences where restaurants, shops, museums have been closed that we wanted to visit. Without realising it, we have fallen into a negative thought pattern by expecting it.

I have seen clients and friends jumping to conclusions. Interpreting things in a negative way even though there is no real evidence to support this belief. I challenge by asking if they can read minds or see into the future to back up their beliefs.

How can anyone know that someone doesn't like them unless they ask? How can anyone know they are not going to get a job without the ability to time travel?

As a coach I am an expert in asking questions, I am an expert when it comes to challenging and supporting.

If any of this sounds familiar and you need help to become unstuck, drop me a DM.

Self-sabotageNegative talkInner criticAll destructive and harmful, all can result in a loss of confidence, self-belief a...
23/07/2023

Self-sabotage
Negative talk
Inner critic

All destructive and harmful, all can result in a loss of confidence, self-belief and self-esteem.

How often have you thought "I'm not good enough?" More than you would like to admit?

Maybe your inner critic whispers "you're such a looser, your friends are way more successful than you."

Or maybe it likes to remind you that "there is no point trying to loose weight as you can't do it. You always fail."

So harsh, so unhelpful, so damaging, so cruel.

I have worked with clients who had fallen into unhelpful thought patterns, thinking distortions, which caused them distress. I noticed that these thought patterns seemed to prompt behaviour which then maintained their distress.

So together we successfully worked to stop it!

A simple way is to recognise, challenge and change.

This is done by noticing and identifying those thought patterns, countering them with reasonable and balanced thoughts which over time shuts down the unhelpful inner critic.

As a coach this is something I can support you with. I have a four step programme aimed at building self-esteem, nurturing love, appreciation and confidence around our bodies and minds and turning that inner critic into an inner champion.

I offer a free 30 minute discovery call, or a face to face chat if you prefer.

I want to help, I really do x

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