10/10/2023
Why is saying goodbye such a hard thing to do?
But so very important?
Two weeks ago I buried my much loved Waikiki birdie, an act I have done before for all my furry and feathered friends. By doing this, I started to process the fact that he was no longer in my world. I started to mourn my loss and experience the different and difficult feelings grief brings.
I believe it's important to create little rituals when loosing pets. I know some people get their pets cremated, others decide leave their bodies at the vets. Some may never know what happened to their pet/s. It doesn't matter, memorials can still take place. Rituals can be created. The process of saying goodbye can still happen.
Our brain needs these to help it reset the pattern of behaviour we have created with our pet/s.
To create new patterns and experiences that directly relate to the memories we hold dear of our pet.
I know some people who have made little memorials to their pets, that's ok too.
It's good to find a way to commemorate our pet. To celebrate their life and begin to accept that this is all part of the bereavement process.
Goodbye's are never easy to say, they hurt, the loss we feel is a reflection of our love.
Pets are more than animals, they are comfort, joy and companionship.
They are family x
27/08/2023
I wanted to end my theme for August with this quote.
It's one I hope you remember when things get you down, when life is tough or feels overwhelming.
When you feel heartbroken.
You are only one workout away from a happy mood.
Even if you don't feel like it, more so when you don't feel like it, get out there and do it x
13/08/2023
In Sanskrit yoga means 'to join' or 'to unite.'
It unites your breath with your body, your mind to you soul.
It's power is in connection, to yourself, to others, to the universe (depending on your beliefs).
It keeps you present and in the moment. Which, similar to mindfulness, calms a spinning head.
It improves your mood.
You can practice at home, in a class, in the park (like me) or at the beach.
It doesn't matter if you are new, a bit rusty, a regular or a well practiced yogi. It's not about the person next to you. It's about you.
No judgement, just the breath.
Just time for you, just a moment to awaken your senses and clear your thoughts.
It works wonders for stress, for anxiety, for sadness.
You don't have to be bendy, you don't need fancy clothes, you don't need great balance or strength. You just need curiosity and willingness to give it a go.
Namaste x
23/07/2023
Self-sabotage
Negative talk
Inner critic
All destructive and harmful, all can result in a loss of confidence, self-belief and self-esteem.
How often have you thought "I'm not good enough?" More than you would like to admit?
Maybe your inner critic whispers "you're such a looser, your friends are way more successful than you."
Or maybe it likes to remind you that "there is no point trying to loose weight as you can't do it. You always fail."
So harsh, so unhelpful, so damaging, so cruel.
I have worked with clients who had fallen into unhelpful thought patterns, thinking distortions, which caused them distress. I noticed that these thought patterns seemed to prompt behaviour which then maintained their distress.
So together we successfully worked to stop it!
A simple way is to recognise, challenge and change.
This is done by noticing and identifying those thought patterns, countering them with reasonable and balanced thoughts which over time shuts down the unhelpful inner critic.
As a coach this is something I can support you with. I have a four step programme aimed at building self-esteem, nurturing love, appreciation and confidence around our bodies and minds and turning that inner critic into an inner champion.
I offer a free 30 minute discovery call, or a face to face chat if you prefer.
I want to help, I really do x
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