04/10/2026
31 DAYS OF I LOVE MYSELF ENOUGH:
DAY FOUR:
I LOVE MYSELF ENOUGH TO SAY NO
What a relief this was!!! All my life I had said yes to everything whether I wanted to or not!!
The thought of saying no terrified me. Especially having to say no to my mum......because even when I was an adult...the little girl within me still wanted to please her.....still wanted to be a good girl like I was told to be.......
I found out that being the good girl and the people pleaser came
with such heavy costs.......
When I read Louise' Hay's work and learned about healthy boundaries and why it was so important for me to say no I understood but the thought of actually saying no terrified me.....It was taking me way out of my comfort zone.....after all, everyone had got used to me saying yes all the time......what if they didn't like me anymore.....what if they didn't love me anymore.....what if they left me......what if it caused an argument.....
So I asked myself a question.....would I rather carry on living my life saying yes even when I had wanted to say no......and what would that cost me mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.....
Or what would my life look like once I learned to say no......
I read that saying no was actually saying yes to yourself.....so I braced myself to say no....and guess what? NOTHING BAD HAPPENED!!
The more I said no the easier it became....and by saying no I found I had so much more freedom for myself to do what I wanted to do.
People respect my no and those that don't are no longer in my life.
Saying no was VERY EMPOWERING.
I can say no now without feeling guilty.
Today I invite you to reflect.....are you a person who says yes to everything......why? What are you afraid of?
Or have you learned to set healthy boundaries and can say no?
I would love to know.
Sending you all so much love from my heart to your 💜
Lynn