Sound Heart Healing

When you go from thinking anxiety is just your personality to actually feeling calm, present, and glad to be here. You want to hand it to everyone you meet.

What makes me want to shout it from the rooftops is that deep healing isn't one thing. It's letting go of the subconscious beliefs, patterns and old wounds you've carried for years. It's the mindset work. It's coming back into your body instead of living in your head. And underneath all of it, remembering you're a spiritual being. Every stage of this is a way back to Allah.

If you're new here, I'm Ruwayda. After twenty years of distance from my deen, Allah called me back and led me learning about what we hold at the subconscious level. I loved it so much I trained in it myself. Now I help Muslim women heal their hearts and come home to themselves.

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The amount of times I've thought the thought, what's wrong with me, doesn't bear thinking about. It's way too many.

But yesterday, on the drive back from my mum's, I saw the most beautiful moon and it reminded me of what helped rewire that thought to one of high worth.

(My mum told me it was a Buck moon. Not sure how that's different from a blood moon. All I know is it was stunning , if you know let me know in the comments below.)

And it made me reflect. As gorgeous as that moon is, Allah tells us in the Qur'an that He made something better. Us.
I love this ayah, Surah At-Tin (95:4), where Allah tells us He created the human being in the best of forms. And I love how He tells us our worth, again and again, all through the Qur'an. We don't have to earn it. To believe it, we can grow in our trust of Him and get curious.
The video breaks down how you can apply this to your life insha'Allah.

New here? I'm Ruw. I coach Muslim women who feel anxious, overwhelmed, or like something's wrong with them, back to calm and back to themselves.

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You've done all the things for your anxiety.

The breathing exercises. The journaling. You've got du'a saved in your notes app for exactly these moments.

And still, that tight feeling in your chest won't shift.

Here's a root nobody talks about. Your nervous system isn't only reacting to stress. It's reacting to you living a life that quietly contradicts what you actually value.

For me it was faith. Twenty years of living far from my deen, sort of Muslim while my heart drifted somewhere else.
My body knew before my mind caught up. The anxiety didn't ease until my head found the prayer mat again

For you it could be nothing to do with that.

Maybe you value respect, and you keep letting people speak to you like you don't matter. Or maybe it's rest, and you haven't properly stopped in months but you call that being strong.

That gap between what you believe and how you're living? Your body feels every inch of it.

In the reel I give you one small task to start closing it. Two minutes, that's all.

Tell me in the comments what came up for you. I read every single one.

People think the transformation happens in the coaching room.

It doesn't. And I'd be lying to you if I said it did.

The session is the catalyst. I see fireworks in there so often and I feel honoured every time to be part of your sacred journey. You leave lighter, brighter, inspired. The healing starts, you feel safe, you feel confident in yourself.

That's the head start. It isn't the transformation.

The transformation happens at home. On the Tuesday. When you actually do the work we set, on the day you don't feel like it. When you put the boundary in place with the person you've never been able to say no to. When you feel it rising and you regulate instead of react. When you have the conversation you've been avoiding for two years.
When you make the mistake, and this time you take the lesson instead of the shame.

That's where it happens. Not with me. With you, in your own life.

And this is the bit nobody tells you. You're not waiting to be fixed by someone. You're waiting for yourself to show up. Your coach holds you accountable. Your coach does not do it for you.

Six days between sessions. That's where you're built.

Every week you show up in your own life is you proving the transformation to yourself, inshaAllah.

If you're new here I'm Ruwadya, a coach working with Muslim women to overcome anxiety and overwhelm.

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(And if you are ready DM me the word HEAL and let's talk about your own transformation.)

I'd finished a long day inside the prison, holding space for clients who'd been through things most people can't imagine. All I wanted was my bed. Just to crawl in and disappear for a while.

But I'd promised a friend I'd meet her. So I went.

I sat there running on empty, nodding along, giving what I didn't have left to give. And I did it because some part of me needed her to think well of me. Eldest daughter syndrome. Help everyone who asks. Your needs come last, if they come at all.

That's the story I internalised growing up. Eldest of 6. That making everyone else feel better was my job. My responsibility.

Turning 40 and having my kids started loosening that grip. And here's what I know now. It was never my responsibility to be everything for everyone. I can't. And that's ok.

So now I have plans. Gentle ones. Time away to actually breathe. And I make no apology for it, because the rest isn't me checking out. It's what lets me come back and give properly. To my children. To my clients. To the purpose Allah actually gave me, not the one guilt handed me.

You're allowed to rest without earning it first.
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If you're new here, my name is Ruwayda, I'm a ln anxiety and trauma coach who works with Muslim women helping them find inner calm. Follow for more