The Sex, Lies & Love Project.

🌟 Thrilled to share this week’s sessions with Year 9 North Halifax Grammar School were a success. These discussions focused on the vital topics of sharing s*xual images, abuse imagery, s*xtortion, exploitation, random group chat additions, and exposure to harmful material online. The students were open and engaged, also stating the importance of these conversations.

The feedback from NHGS students confirms that such topics are critical to address. Regardless of location or educational setting, the issues remain consistent nationally, presenting significant challenges to children’s understanding of consent, the law, healthy relationships, and personal boundaries.

A huge thank you to NHGS students for their enthusiastic participation and insightful discussions this week. Your engagement helps drive our project forward and ensures we continue to address these important issues and empower young people to understand the related laws and feel confident in communicating consent.

Additionally, a special thanks for the kind student feedback! 🌟🌟🌟

The S*x, Lies & Love Project.
Libby Flenley Thesllproject

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🐶 Our weekly mentoring sessions at features walks with Dotty the school dog today! The best kind of therapy 🍃🌳

Last week we wrapped up three incredibly successful days with the proactive and passionate team at The Regenda Group. 🙌🏼
🏠This housing organisation truly understands the critucal need to train their staff in identifying signs of criminal exploitation amongst their service users. They recognise that their unique role allows them to spot signs that other agencies may never see.
🧩Everyone has a missing piece of the puzzle and housing are such an important partner in the response to this.

I also cherished the time spent delivering this with Helen Matthews. Over the past 12 years, Helen has been my greatest mentor, manager, CEO, and friend, consistently supporting me in various roles🌟.
Really value our collaboration on this training The S*x, Lies & Love Project.& CYP First .

Libby Flenley Thesllproject

Very proud to say our June & July this year is extremely busy 🙌. We wish we could attend to all last minute requests but it is not always possible. To ensure you have your training days, school drop-down days, anything you need, sorted in time for next year, please message us to book in advance ⚡️ lock in those dates! 🔒

🫢HOW are we nearly at the end of another academic year!? AGGGH crazy, but exciting times for *xliesandloveproject ✌🏼
Thank you for everyone’s support on our journey so far!

⚡️Reserve your dates ready for next year!

Very proud to say our June & July this year is extremely busy 🙌
We wish we could attend to all last minute requests but it is not always possible. To ensure you have your training days, school drop-down days etc sorted in time for next year, message us to book in advance!

HOW are we nearly at the end of another academic year!? AGGGH crazy, but exciting times for The S*x, Lies & Love Project.

⭐️ St Benedict's School, Ealing as always, a forward thinking school brave enough to address the issues of po*******hy and the influence on consent and relationships.

Thank you to Lower 6th for their incredible engagement throughout The S*x, Lies & Love Project workshops yesterday 🙌🏼

Luke Ramsden FRSA

- A huge shoutout to Royal Grammar School, Guildford for their amazing participation in Friday’s discussion on po*******hy and its impact on consent, s*x, and relationships. 🙌 Hearing their personal insights, a young male perspective, on what else truly matters in relationships beyond s*x was incredibly empowering and heartwarming. 💬❤️

Special thanks to their student voice speaker for the most professional and in-depth positive feedback I’ve ever received from a student cohort! ⭐️ Their engagement was truly inspiring. Can’t wait to return!

🙌🏼 Last week we collaborated with SMASH Youth Project for Safer Streets Fund, Swindon, creating a peer led group space for females in support of tackling Violence Against Women & Girls !

💫With workshops across two schools, we had a fun, passionate and insightful day. We heard the voices of some incredible girls, sharing their experiences and challenges of growing up in today’s society as a female.
We explored topics such as; social media, po*******hy, s*xual harassment, coercive control, the “blurred lines” of consent, and much more.
They also felt empowered by self-love exercises of “What I deserve…” 💖.

Student feedback, they valued the safe space to talk about such important matters. They wanted us to stay longer! ☺️ And asked “when can you do it for the boys?!” As they feel it’s vital they also receive the same content and education.

What a powerful day. We could have chatted for hours! So glad that SMASH with be continuing individual mentoring as part of the project. Team ✌🏼

Thank you to everyone who participated 💫

(P.s. we should have taken more pics! Too busy enjoying ourselves!)

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😅 What. A. Day! 🙌🏼 Gumley House School FCJ

Firstly! Workshops with Y7 exploring all things from Online Safety, Group Chats, Image Sharing, S*xtortion, to… Our Bodies! - Navigating changes, body image, pressures of online media, embracing individuality and empowering each other for our differences 💖

Secondly, Year 8! Consent, Relationships - Coercive Control, Personal Boundaries, The Laws of Image Sharing, S*xtortion. (Lots of fun with our flags for this one! 🚩)

💫Then! A CPD Teacher Training session on Child-on-Child Abuse & Exploitation, and Children’s Exposure to Harmful Material.

🌟And last, (but certainly not least!) A SPECIAL GUEST 🌟Leading our online parent’s session! ‘Parenting in a Digital World’.
Advising parents on navigating online safety with their children.
An absolute delight to have Susan collaborate with *xliesandloveproject today and engage with the workshops ⭐️

Ace feedback from the day! 🤩 we look forward to returning!

Thank you .house 🙌🏼

Creating new content for upcoming sessions...

I am regularly witnessing the damaging impact of social media ALGORITHMS on our children.

A word that is increasingly responsible for harmful behaviours, feeding children continuous content on social media of; extreme violence, s*xual activity, child abuse, harmful ideas of body image, self-harm, su***de, misogyny, racism, murders, animal cruelty… that’s just the start.

Surprise… TikTok is the top place for this! Children sucked into hours worth of content related videos slowly desensitising their understanding of harm and normalising such behaviours.

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Creating new content for upcoming sessions...

I am regularly witnessing the damaging impact of social media ALGORITHMS on our children.

A word that is increasingly responsible for harmful behaviours, feeding children continuous content on social media of; extreme violence, s*xual activity, child abuse, harmful ideas of body image, self-harm, su***de, misogyny, racism, murders, animal cruelty… that’s just the start.

Surprise… TikTok is the top place for this! Children sucked into hours worth of content related videos slowly desensitising their understanding of harm and normalising such behaviours.

Libby Flenley Thesllproject
The S*x, Lies & Love Project.

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For those who missed out before, Services 4 Schools are running another Primary Phase of this vital online training. I will be delivering!
Unfortunately, there is increasing need to tackle exposure to explicit and harmful material for children in primary school years.
This will be a safe space to discuss, learn, and hopefully feel empowered to prevent and respond to incidences.

Book your place below... 👇

📣 ‘The Student Voice Project’ continues over at today, leading a whole-school consultation on uniform policy.
✨Looking forward to sharing a full insight with you all!
Thank you Ratcliffe College for having me and for your excellent participation throughout all focus groups 🙌🏼.
Full report is on the way…!

Ratcliffe College

📣 ‘The Student Voice Project’ continues over at Ratcliffe College , leading a whole-school consultation on uniform policy.
✨Looking forward to sharing a full insight with you all!
Thank you Ratcliffe College for having me and for your excellent participation throughout all focus groups 🙌🏼.
Full report is on the way…!



Boarding Schools' Association

🌤 Not a bad set-up for our children’s workshop over Easter 🙌🏼 ⚽️.

🏡The Childrens Home Association for England & Wales, thank you for inviting me to speak as part of your seminar series. What an honour 💫.

Children’s homes are a passionate area of focus for *xliesandloveproject, with a wealth of experience tailoring and delivering workshops specifically for children & young people in care.

Thank you to those who have been in touch following the seminar. Looking forward to meeting new children and homes soon! ✨

Libby Flenley Thesllproject

✨ When I leave a session feeling energised, it’s usually a sign of top engagement from students. …& today was just that ☺️.
Although these subjects are sensitive and need to be taken seriously, at The SLLP we also ensure we deliver them with creativity, (as shown with my weird jumping for our introductory activity game!)

Today with Year 8 we discussed; Indecent Image Sharing, Group Chats, Child-on-Child Abuse & Exploitation, Online Safety.
Ace students! And extremely kind feedback received from Head of PSHE! (As shown in pic)
Thank you ✨
I can’t wait to return soooon!

Blackheath High School Official

⚽️ Top morning spent at delivering sessions to Academy Players 🙌🏼

We chatted about Consent, Personal Boundaries, S*xual Harassment, “S*xting” & “Bait Out” Image Sharing, Exposure to Po*******hy, Our Digital Footprint, Online Actions, Bullying, Child-on-Child Abuse, Exploitation… and more 😅.

Amazing engagement from the players! Lots of discussions had and I felt very welcomed, (Thank you!)

Pleased to be returning next year 🏆

Chelsea FC, Cobham Training Centre
Chelsea Football Club
Libby Flenley Thesllproject

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📣 🤩 Something a little bit different…

Last year emerged “The Student Voice Project” when I visited to lead a whole-school consultation capturing student and staff perspectives on their uniform policy.

Two impactful days of focus groups allowed me to hear voices from every year, as well as incorporating a whole-school survey. I compiled the insights into a detailed report to be presented to The Top!
The result? …forward-thinking changes to the policy, showcasing a modern and inclusive uniform that still upholds the school’s smart and positive image 🙌🏼 win! win! ✨

This collaborative effort not only enhanced the St. Benedict’s community but also earned a well-deserved Global Inclusions Award, from International Forums of Inclusion Practitioners (IFIP) . 🏆 Proud to have supported with this 💬✨
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I know I know, we need to be using less paper, but when it comes to this, I’m a BIG believer in old school pen to paper vibes!… 📝 ✨.

Today we finished our first set of focus groups. Finishing with a session on female empowerment, gratitude, respect for others, self-love, & as part of this i wanted to give the girls a personal journal 📔.

I am a strong believer in the value of having a note pad & pen next to your bed, for you to jot down thoughts, ideas, worries, gratitudes, plans for the future.. (you get the gist!)

When we see our thoughts written down it helps to find understanding, manifest ideas, release worries, or to see that maybe ‘that problem’ isn’t as big as it was in your head. Use it however you see fit.. Make paper aeroplanes! It’s yours💛.

Thank you Girls for a fantastic 6 week programme covering various aspects of exploitation, relationships, consent, self-esteem, and so much more! We had a giggle, and I loved the safety you all felt to share the latest goss, worries, and to ask for advice 💕.

Excited to start with the new group next week ✨.

Rawlett

Friday I returned to Oxford High School GDST to deliver a talk on ‘Knife crime’ & Child Criminal Exploitation with year 11. “The Hand that Holds The Life”.

Each time I’ve delivered this here a student has approached and asked how I got into this field of work as they feel inspired to do the same.

My expertise for this project is closely informed by my role at Street Teams, Walsall, whereby I support victims and survivors of Child Criminal & S*xual Exploitation.
Working directly with children and families. This is where my heart lies and drives the vision for prevention workshops through The S*x, Lies & Love Project. 💛.

This subject is increasingly important , the use of weapons amongst children can be influenced by many different factors. Further post to come on this with some new stats..

But, for now, Thank you Oxford high school for being engaged, as always. As I’ve stated before, it’s always a pleasure to be welcomed by Sunflowers at your front doors 🌻

✨Godolphin and Latymer School
Thank you SO much for having me yesterday!
📣 Shouting about The S*x, Lies & Love Project.’s favourite subject of “PORN” & explicit material with Year 12.

A majority voice that this is a necessary topic for young people today!

Views shared from students of how increasingly explicit (& s*xually violent) certain films / tv series are today which are easily accessible to young children with the click of a button, yet years ago children were solely protected by the watershed…!
…What influence does this exposure have?🤔

Discussions also provoked about po*******hy in relationships, what do you do if your partner watches it but you don’t feel comfortable? (The SLLP can answer all of this! 🙌🏼)

Thank you Students for the valuable input! ✨

Looking forward to revisiting ✌🏼

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Last week The S*x, Lies & Love Project. visited St Catherine's School, Twickenham discussing Child S*xual Exploitation, Child-on-Child Exploitation, & Exposure to Po*******hy with Sixth form & Y11.
Thank you for the extremely warm welcome and for the added bonus of being in the morning Sixth form hub meeting! Top students who seem very supportive of each other. Wonderful to see ✨
Looking forward to returning for further discussions ✌🏼

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We have a wealth of experience delivering sensitive subjects in faith schools, ensuring content is adapted to meet faith values where required.
This month we returned to Lasallian Catholic College, London, discussing exposure to po*******hy With year 10.

Students engaged extremely well, sharing insightful views on how current po*******hy & other explicit material may influence harmful behaviours & ideas towards; S*x, Bodies, Relationships & Self-esteem. Students discussed how they may empower and support others to overcome the pressure from online media, to encourage people to embrace reality and be respectful in relationships.
As well as understanding the related laws to sharing of indecent imagery.

Looking forward to returning soon for workshops with year 9 on other subjects ✌🏼.

Today we were proud to present for NSPCC as part of their Safeguarding Awareness Week 2024, delivering to over 200 staff and volunteers, online.
“Child S*xual Exploitation and the influence of The Digital World”.
The feedback has been insane! Thank you so much to all who attended! 🙌🏼✨
Hopefully The S*x, Lies & Love Project. will be presenting for you all again soon! ✌🏼


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Today we returned to Bancroft's School 🙌🏼. Workshops with Year 8 on; Sharing Images, Consent, Peer Pressure & Personal Boundaries ✌🏼. Top engagement from their students, as always. Looking forward to returning in a couple of weeks time!

We understand that time & consistency is important for children, especially when discussing sensitive subjects such as those at The S*x, Lies & Love Project. 💛

Our option for ongoing focus groups and mentoring enables students to feel safe to talk, build confidence, progress through vulnerabilities, with an aim to reduce their risk of exploitation.
We are into our second year now of weekly sessions at King's Norton Boys' School & We Love It!! ✨

We have built quality relationships with students, witnessed growth in their self-esteem & in their understanding of exploitation.
Thank you Kings Norton for continuing to trust in our project ✌🏼.

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Last night we delivered a successful parent & carers session at Bishop Vesey's Grammar School 🙌🏼.

‘Parenting in a Digital World’
“Do you REALLY know what your child is exposed to online?”

-discussing exposure to inappropriate & explicit material, sharing of imagery, & child-on-child exploitation.

We had the pleasure of teaming up with The Enlightened Parent who advised on how to communicate with your child, starting ‘those awkward conversations’, implement boundaries, and much more..! - this was extremely well received by parents! ✨

Top collaboration for the evening, 😎

The S*x, Lies & Love Project.
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