Holly's Healing Journey

A love letter to an over-giver…

There is more to you
Than what you are capable of giving others
And providing for them

There is more to you
Than what you are willing to sacrifice for others
And give up in your own life in order to make them happy

And there is more to you
Than what you do for others and the world.

You are not everyone’s healer
You are not everyone’s parent or guardian
You are not everyone’s saviour
And giving is not your only purpose in life.

Sometimes when we feel unloved by others around us
We settle for being needed

We overextend ourselves
And overgive
So that in return
They will like us

And we attempt to please them
At the expense of pleasing ourselves

Failing to realise
That by people-pleasing
We are attempting to manipulate others into liking us
And when we continually say “yes” when we secretly mean “no”
We can be left feeling resentful
While when we are authentic
And kindly let others know through active communication what our true beliefs, desires and intentions are
And are honest and upfront about our boundaries
This is much better for both them and ourselves
In the long-term.

When it comes to others
Making large demands and requests of you
Always remember
That just as you are capable
Others are capable.

Others are capable of taking action in their own lives
Others are capable of deciding for themselves what is best for them
And others are capable of relying on themselves or seeking help from someone else rather than you.

And so you may give them the space and freedom
To be able to effectively show up for themselves
And allow them to empower themselves

And instead, choose to give
From a place of love and kindness
When you feel you want to
And donate your time, possessions and energy to others
From a place of abundance and generosity
Rather than simply out of obligation

As others are not entitled to your help
Others are not entitled to your energy or resources
And others are not entitled to your time and attention

And just as we set boundaries with others
We must also set them with ourselves
And ensure that we are respecting our own time and energy
Just as much as the time and energy of others.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Artwork by the very talented Loui Jover.

3 more weeks until we snuggle!!!

I just can’t stand it. Less than a month to see these cuties!

Don’t forget to follow and enter my giveaway this week!

Our Recentre website goes live tomorrow ✨

There's been so much support for I am so thankful to all you kind people

I wanted to let you know we have a monthly newsletter in the pipeline so you can keep up to date with the programme and get to know the team. It will be available to sign up on our website when it goes live on Saturday but until then sign up here https://recentre.eo.page/newslettersignup

Don't forget to enter the giveaway too that was posted yesterday for a free coaching session...

It’s giveaway time!

In celebration of the launch of Recentre Limited, the virtual and residential trauma support programme in Northern Ireland, I am giving away a 50 minute free coaching session! The winner can choose one of the following sessions:

✨ Trauma-informed coaching
✨ Career coaching

To be in with a chance of winning you must be:
✨ Like our new page https://m.facebook.com/Recentre-Limited-102156492301249/
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Winner will be announced on Wednesday 1st of December, good luck!

I promised I'd share with you what I've been working on, and why I've been sharing with you all over these past few months my journey in healing my trauma...

I have created, with the help of family, friends and professionals, a trauma support programme unique to Northern Ireland

Recentre, the first of its kind on the island of Ireland, is a trauma-informed virtual and residential programme that combines professionals with lived experiences in trauma, trained therapists and mental health educators to offer a safe community to heal from your trauma.

Please follow our new page - https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=Recentre%20Limited which will launch this Saturday the 27th, along with our other platforms...

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Thank you all for your kind words and support

Part of being a person who has experienced trauma, who has been on a healing journey and has been able to thrive after the trauma, I can now try and help others...

I had the opportunity to attend a trauma programme which I've shared with you all over these past few months, the support of the community of trauma survivors I met over the years and my loving family members that has given the strength and hope to give others the same opportunity...

Tomorrow I'll be sharing what that is...

I’m a big advocate of healing together in a community, building a support network for life and allowing you to thrive after trauma 💛

What if there was somewhere you could go that offered this…

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Healing takes place in a safe space where you’re free to be the storyteller of your life and express your inner most self 💛

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