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🤔 What is Imposter Syndrome?

Have you ever felt like a fraud, despite your achievements? Do you catch yourself thinking, “I’m not as capable as people think,” or “I was just lucky”? If so, you might be experiencing imposter syndrome, a common experience that leaves many people doubting their abilities.

Imposter syndrome is not a mental health disorder, nor is it something you’re born with. Instead, it’s a pattern of thinking that can be overcome with self-awareness and the right tools.

So, what does it look like?
People with imposter syndrome often:
👉 Attribute their success to luck, help from others, or overwork, rather than their own skills
👉 Downplay or dismiss praise and compliments
👉 Fear being "found out" as a fraud, no matter how much they achieve
👉 Hyper-focus on mistakes or criticism while ignoring positive feedback

Sound familiar? It can show up in different ways - some people overwork to "prove" they’re capable, while others procrastinate or avoid new challenges out of fear.

Remember: Imposter syndrome is a feeling, not a fact. It’s not a reflection of your true abilities. With the right mindset and strategies, it can be managed and overcome.

If this resonates with you, know you’re not alone. Many successful people have felt the same way at some point.

Stay tuned for more tips on how to break free from the cycle and if you would like some coaching to really shift things for the better - get in touch!

Reframing Disability: A Powerful Lesson ...

I recently listened to a fascinating podcast “Slay your Dragons with Compassion” hosted by my friend Malcolm Stern, featuring Neil, a filmmaker who has a condition called Klippel-Feil syndrome. Neil's perspective on his own life, and on disability more generally, was incredibly insightful, and it really helped my ‘join the dots’ with something a colleague had shared with me on how we see disability.

Neil doesn't see himself as disabled, he views himself as "just some bloke called Neil who gets on and does what he does”.

This perspective resonated deeply with what I've been learning about the social model of disability. This model, proposes that people are disabled by societal barriers, not by their impairments. These barriers can be physical, like buildings without ramps, or attitudinal, such as assuming that disabled people cannot do certain things.... The social model highlights that it is the way society is built that disables people.

The social model flips the script: it's not about what's "wrong" with the individual, but what's "wrong" with the environment and the attitudes that create barriers. As one person who uses a wheelchair sais: "It's not that my legs don't work that disabling me. It's the fact that if I'm on a flat surface, I can wheel around fine...It's only when I come up to a flight of stairs". Ben gives the example that the chair he is sitting on is comfortable for him but most chairs, such as the ones in the dining room of the host, would be unsuitable. He is ‘disabled’ by a world that isn't built for people with his particular physical attributes.

Neil also stated that people with disabilities are often more creative and stronger problem-solvers, because they have to work harder to be on a level playing field. This really challenges our assumption that having a disability is necessarily a "struggle." As Neil said, "Where's that word struggle...that is your perceptions".

Key takeaways:

The social model of disability emphasizes that disability is caused by societal barriers not by the impairment itself.

People with disabilities often have unique strengths and creative problem-solving skills due to their lived experience.

Challenging our assumptions and preconceived notions about disability is essential for creating a more inclusive society

I love having my perception shifted by a ‘reframe’ and this understanding has shifted how I think about disability. What are your thoughts? When have you had your view on something significantly shifted by a ‘reframe’ to allow you to look at something differently?

How are you doing with your New Year Resolutions?

Sadly only 9-12% of people report feeling successful in achieving their resolutions by the end of the year. 23% of people quit within the first week of January!

How can you feel really committed to your goals and successfully achieve them?

Check out my article for the Life Coach Directory below.

And if you would like help in creating goals that you feel genuinely excited by and are likely to stick to - get in touch!

I have a very special offer running this month - 4 coaching sessions for £100 (normal price £400)!

How to feel really committed to your New Year's resolutions Struggling with your New Year's resolutions? Learn how to align your goals with your values for a more meaningful, lasting commitment.

Support isn’t just a nice-to-have; it’s a game-changer. 💡 Whether in sports, fame, or everyday life, it’s often the missing piece during tough times.

Think about it:
⚽ After a tough loss recently, Manchester United was booed by their own fans—just a week after celebrating a win together.
🎤 Liam Payne from One Direction has opened up about how public criticism deepened his personal struggles.

These examples remind us of one thing: we all thrive with support. 💪

💬 Before judging someone, consider the battles they might be fighting.
🌱 Celebrate effort, not just results.
❤️ Be the encouragement someone needs today.

Support uplifts. It transforms. And most importantly - it matters.

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