Inner Reach Coaching Ltd.

So we just won ane award: Most Empowering Coaching Pratice, Southeast England 2023

Delighted to announce that I am now a Certified Executive Coach which I hope validates my nearly 25 years experience. It is never too late to achieve your career goals.

Jay Jupp on LinkedIn: #coaching #upskill #itsnevertoolate I am so delighted to share that I am now a Certified Coach having successfully completed the AoEC Practitioner Diploma in Exceutive Coaching. I'm so proud I…

Happy New Year to my followers. Aylesbury Town Council have been supporting my business with the advertisement below.

I am offering the first 10 people who get in touch a free 1 hour coaching session. If you don't want to miss out, then contact me via email: [email protected]

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=6502704426425307&id=165518693477277

I'm a finalist for This Is Us Awards 2023

How many people find it difficult to be heard in meetings? Or say nothing and hope no one will notice or ask us a question.

I would love to know what causes this?

If you've overcome this situation I would love to know what strategies you use to overcome this?

I used to want to speak up and a frog would jump in my throat. I would then spend a few seconds clearing it and become subconscious that I sounded unsure.

I would be interested in your thoughts.

Hi everyone, take a look at my LinkedIn page where I have set up my first poll. Really interested in your thoughts. So if you get a moment, click below and let me know your thoughts.

Inner Reach Coaching Ltd. | LinkedIn Inner Reach Coaching Ltd. | 231 followers on LinkedIn. Leadership, Talent and Career Coaching | Inner Reach Coaching is about helping clients change the inner dialogue to reframe how they see and talk to themselves. Our premise is to look and take action on the inside first and then positive outcome...

Leadership Coach, Talent Coach (especially helping people from diverse backgrounds) and Career Coach

When it comes to you don't need big gestures, it can take as little as some time, an extra question and some listening.

Several years ago, I sat across from someone on a bench in a canteen, and they were sleeping. I quietly ate my sandwich keen not to disturb. After a while they awoke and apologised for sleeping. I was curious though, what had made them so tired that they were sleeping in their lunch break? Whatelse was happening in their life right now? How long had they felt this way? Had they seen someone like a GP, told their manager or partner? No! They were suffering in silence, it was affecting everything, and they were on the edge. It had been going on for some time.

They talked about seeing their GP so I asked, when will you? I asked when they felt able to talk to their manager? (So, they can make reasonable adjustments etc to support). What stopped them talking to their partner? You get the gist. These were gentle conversational nudges, as I describe them. I also asked, “what is the one little step you will take after our chat?” They committed to a couple of actions. I checked back in the next day. They had told their partner, who had not freaked out and was keen to support however they could. They made a Dr’s appointment and spoke to their manager. I congratulated them on making so much progress in just one day. They said that they were feeling much happier now they had shared what was going on. The load didn’t feel as heavy.

These steps can feel big and scary for the person feeling unwell. What’s important also to note is that everyone they spoke to offered support and help.

I thought we had a nice conversation and maybe I was being a bit nosey. However, the person in question later told me that I had talked them off the edge and that I was an angel sent to them when they needed one the most.

They have gone on to take control of their mental wellness, know now what triggers them and have strategies keeping them well. They are actively managing their wellbeing. They would say they are thriving with good support mechanisms in place.

We talk on LinkedIn that if you just need to talk reach out. Sometimes that’s hard to do but if you’re a manager, friend, colleague, or family member, asking a couple of extra questions when you’re checking in on people, can be all it takes for someone to open up about what is really going on for them. All you have to do is listen.

The moral of this story is that we can all be angels for those around us suffering in silence with their mental health. All it costs us is some time, an extra question or two and deep listening. What it could do though is, save a life. Who can't afford the time to do that?

It would be good to hear what you think?
Is this realistic?
What might get in the way of asking questions?
What might be stop you having a conversation with someone in need?
Any other advice?

1 / 2
Your future, within reach-l
I decided to take a break and it was the best thing I have done in a long time. During this time, I practiced better self-care, socialized with friends, family and attended my son’s graduation. I said yes to all social engagements, and it was life affirming!
This was an opportunity to pause, think and reflect on where my career was going, and the answer came to me while sleeping. I needed to start my own coaching business. (More on this later).
When I was at school everyday was hard, bullied for 5 years for my ethnicity, being too clever, too thin, having a monobrow (I have tamed this now add laughing emoji), even for not being ready to wear a bra. I did not belong! But they say God loves a trier, so I tried every day to win people over. My strategy was to bring apples into school from our tree in the garden. When people ate apples, I was allowed to join in. However, inclusion was temporary, conditional. Exclusion was a tough and painful lesson to learn at 11 years old. It taught me never to judge anyone. I became a people pleaser, trying to stay on the right side of not being beaten up. On the plus side I learnt many of the people skills I use today.
Academically, I was streamed into a non (GCSE) group. Not realising the significance of this until year 4 when we had to select our GCSE subjects. I was told that I couldn’t sit any, and I would have to complete CSEs instead. These exams were a lower tier than GCSE’s. So, my dad and I went to see the principal to persuade the school to create an additional class who would also sit GCSEs.
I sat the exams, and the results were not what I’d hoped, but what I had expected. I walked away with just two CSE grade 1s (C grade GCSE equivalent). Whilst I felt disappointed, in my heart, I knew I didn’t want to go onto study A Levels. I knew I was more practically minded and liked to learn what I could apply.
I had to get a few more GCSEs first and the good news is I excelled at the vocational (BTEC) Business and Finance course; I loved it. What I was noticing though at exam time, I had no confidence in my ability to pass. Whilst my coursework was good. I had failed before I even sat any exams. I attributed this in later years to how I saw myself, slightly less than, someone who tried but didn’t prevail, someone who didn’t fit in. That was my narrative. I developed a strong and loud critical inner voice. I realised I needed to change my inner narrative if I wanted to achieve my goals. I am pleased to say I managed to do this with the help of a good coach and while coaching others I reflected on the questions I was asking others.
What I would love to hear is how other people have overcome such events or situations? If you’re a parent, how are you helping your children navigate these already carved out paths to follow (GCSEs, A-Levels, University). As I have shown there are other roads to travel. My early years had some positive and negative influences on me, but they did not define me.

Bouncing back.
Last week on LinkedIn, I spoke about my early life experiences which affected my education, self-esteem and identity. I said that these experiences did not define me. "Why?" Because I would not let them.

I went on to graduate with a degree in Business and Finance even though I took a slightly different route to everyone else

The road ahead continued to be tricky, but not impossible. I have lived through 4 redundancies over my 30+ working years. Each of those moments tested my resilience. What I realised is that my resilience needs to be active and continuous. No one knows what life is going to throw at you (this can't be controlled, so why bother trying?). I can, however, choose how to respond (this is within my gift). It is a choice, right? Even though at times it doesn't feel like it.

For me self-pity is a place to visit (it's ok to spend time licking my wounds and I have definitely done that), it isn't however, a place to dwell.

So why am I talking about this? My main point here is that life happens, and it can be hard to bounce back after setbacks. But it can be done. It takes work on the inside, reflection time, the love and support of good people, a coach.These are the resources I used.

I would love to hear what techniques you’ve used to help you bounce back after setbacks? How do you go about keeping your resilience active and continuous?

Inner Reach Coaching Ltd. updated their phone number.

Inner Reach Coaching Ltd. updated their business hours.