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12 Useful Tips For Raising Boys To Be Good Men As parents, we often have one main goal in mind: raise our children to become good humans who are happy and well-rounded. When it comes...

Top African Countries With Best Education system 2021

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SOURCE: School Drillers.com

45 Reasons People Remain In Poverty For Life In the United States, the poverty line is $11,770 per person. While this may seem like a lot of money in other countries, this is below the baseline of what most people need to live a comfortable existence as an American. At the moment, 46.7 million people are living at or below the poverty line. [....

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Dear women, here are 5 traits men find highly unattractive in you It goes both ways, there are plenty of things women do that are unattractive to men, and plenty of things men do that are unattractive to women

10 Toxic Things Parents Do That Make Their Children Less Functional In Adulthood Seemingly minor parenting behaviors can have a serious impact on children.

32 Proven Ways to Make Money Fast Great business ideas and side hustles to help you make extra money.

Buying a house? Close your mouth. Buying a new car? Close Getting married? Close your mouth. Going on a holiday? Close your mouth. Going to do a course? Close your mouth. Got promoted? Close your mouth. your mouth. 99% of the time the reason that our dreams/ visions don't come true when they are supposed to, is because we open our mouth too soon to the wrong people at the wrong time. We were wrong to share our projects/ successes with people who claim to be "friends". The envy and the low key jealousy is enough for people to feed off of and tear down what COULD HAVE BEEN, before it even happens, so... Close your mouth!!! The majority of your "friends", want to see you do well but Never better than them!! And just a reminder! Even family members have a hidden envy!!! But, they can't stop what God has for you!

Sad truth about the age 1-7 years old children’s brains are like sponge. It is in a state of hypnosis that’s why children learn so fast. Then our core beliefs are created. How our parents talk to us in that age creates our inner voice in adulthood. It teaches us how to love ourselves(or not) and how to let others treat us. 😞
This is how we get programmed 🧠

How generational trauma presents. The symptoms of generational trauma may include hypervigilance, a sense of a shortened future, mistrust, aloofness, high anxiety, depression, panic attacks, nightmares, insomnia, a sensitive fight or flight response, and issues with self-esteem and self-confidence.

When thinking about trauma and its impact, many people think about war veterans. However, 60% of men and 50% of women experience at least one traumatic event during their lifetime.

Any family can be impacted by intergenerational trauma. Traumatic events that may lead to intergenerational trauma include parental incarceration, divorce, alcohol use disorder, domestic violence, child abuse (e.g. s*xual, physical, or emotional), or natural disasters.

When discussing intergenerational trauma, one must also think about historical events that may have a lasting impact on generations to come, such as the Holocaust, war, slavery etc refugee camps and slavery, all of which have had enduring effects on generations of people worldwide.

Enslavement, genocide, domestic violence, s*xual abuse, and extreme poverty are all common sources of trauma that lead to intergenerational trauma. A lack of therapy also worsens symptoms and can lead to transmission.

A growing body of research suggests that trauma (like from extreme stress or starvation among many other things) can be passed from one generation to the next. Here's how: Trauma can leave a chemical mark on a person's genes, which can then be passed down to future generations.

Memories Are Passed Through DNA From Your Grandparents, Say Scientists. We may be inheriting much more from our grandparents than the contents of their attic. ... New studies suggest that some of our memories, fears, and behaviors are passed down genetically through generations from our ancestors.

Traumatic experiences can be transmitted physiologically, environmentally, and socially.

Adult children with parents diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) often describe damaged, preoccupied parents who were emotionally not available when needed. There are various ways these parents can pass down their symptoms to their children.

The following symptoms experienced by parents may impact their children:

• Parents may relive traumatic events, become emotionally detached and numb, or even experience dissociative episodes in which they become detached from reality. These symptoms can impede the child’s ability to develop a reasonable sense of safety and predictability in the world.

• Parents affected by trauma may be less able to respond optimally during usual developmental crises and in result, are unable to help their child comprehend the world in a healthy manner.

• Parents suffering from PTSD may also have difficulty modeling a healthy sense of independence, appropriate self-soothing mechanisms and emotional regulation, and maintaining a balanced perspective when life challenges arise.

• Parents may model catastrophic or inappropriately numbed and emotionally disconnected responses.

Other commons symptoms of intergenerational trauma may include but are not limited to:

• lack of trust of others
• anger
• irritability
• nightmares
• fearfulness
• inability to connect with others
• people pleasing
• depression
• anxiety-panic attacks
• lack of boundaries
• codependent
• chronic apologising
• the unconscious desire to save,fix rescue others or be chosen.
• fear of abandoned
• distrust
• living in survival mode
• Craving control
• agreeing to things just to keep the peace
• negative world view
• feeling responsible for others
• peoples emotions/happiness
• saying yes because you’re afraid of losing security
• chronic feelings of emptiness or numbness

Treatment for breaking this cycle can be as simple as educating the public to understand the way that their trauma, past or present, effects their families but also ranging from the training being available to front line professionals to help them whilst dealing with traumatized members of the community.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps you process and evaluate your thoughts and feelings about a trauma. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) incorporates elements of cognitive-behavioral therapy with eye movements or other forms of rhythmic, left-right stimulation that can “unfreeze” traumatic memories.

📚 Best Books on Child’s Development:

Ages and Stages: A Parent's
AGES &Guide to Normal Childhood
Development By Charles E.
STAGES Schaefer, Theresa Foy
DiGeronimo

Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five By John Medina Written

You Are Your Child's First Teacher,
Third Edition: Encouraging Your
Child's Natural Development from
Birth to Age Six By Nahima Baldwin
Dancy

Your Child's Growing Mind: Brain
Development and Learning From
Birth to Adolescence By Jane Healy

NurtureShock: New Thinking About
Children By Po Bronson, Ashley
NurtureShock Merryman

What's Going on in There?: How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life By Lise Eliot

Einstein Never Used Flashcards:
EINSTEIN NEVER USED FLASH CARDS How Our Children Really Learn-and Why They Need to Play More and Memorize Less By Roberta Michnick Golinkoff, Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, Diane Eyer

Child Behavior: The Classic Child
Care Manual from the Gesell
Institute of Human Development By
Frances L. Ilg, Louise Bates Ames,
Sidney M. Baker

📚Best Books on Parenting:

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen &
To So kids Listen & Listen
SoKids WRll Talk Listen So Kids Will Talk By Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 THE WHOLE-BRAIN' CHILD Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture
Your Child's Developing Mind By
Daniel J. Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent
EMOTIONAL Child The Heart of Parenting By Ph.D. John Gottman, Joan Declaire

The Explosive Child: A New
EXPLOSIVE CHILD Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children By Ross W. Greene. Ph.D l, Ross W. Greene PhD

Peaceful Parent,HAPPY KIDS by DR. LAURA MARKHAM

HOW TO RAISE SUCCESSFUL
PEOPLE by ESTHER WOJCICKI

The LANGUAGE of EMOTIONS by
Karla Mclaren

PERMISSION TO FEEL by Marc Brackett, Ph.D.

📚More Books with Discretions here: 👉🏽 https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=oa.413578583345746&type=3

📚Best Books to read on Intergenerational Trauma:

Gabor Mate: the Myth of Normal
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Close Encounters with Addiction
When the body says no

Resmaa Menakem: My grandmother's Hands

Bessel Van Der Kolk MD: the Body keeps the score

DR Nadine Burke Harris: Toxic
Childhood Stress

Lindsay C. Gibson: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Gabor Mate: When the body says no

📺Educational Videos on Parenting:
👉🏽 https://www.facebook.com/groups/1969744479873889/permalink/2129869103861425/

S*x education gives young people the knowledge and skills they need for a lifetime of good s*xual health. They learn how to have healthy relationships, make informed decisions about s*x, think critically about the world, be a good ally to those who are marginalized, and love themselves for who they are.

Most teenagers that are having s*x have this belief that nothing bad could ever happen to them. There are many s*xually active teenagers that have never been educated on the risks of unprotected s*x because schools do not teach them. A very popular controversial topic in the education system is if s*x education should be allowed in public schools.

"S*x education is the teaching of s*xuality, prevent s*xually transmitted diseases, protection, and the principles about s*x"
(EduZaurus.com). Students lack
knowledge about s*x because they have not been taught about it. Young people are having prematurely s*x because they are curious. If students knew the consequences behind their curious actions,it would decrease s*xual activity. S*x education needs to be taught because it prevents teenage pregnancy and s*xual diseases, it is a good source if parents are absent in teaching, and teaches about s*xual abuse.

Research shows that s*x education that’s culturally responsive and inclusive helps young people develop the social and emotional skills they need to become caring and empathetic adults. This type of s*x education early and often leads to appreciation of s*xual diversity, dating and intimate partner violence prevention, development of healthy relationships, prevention of child s*x abuse, improved social/emotional learning, and increased media literacy. It also helps young people avoid unintended pregnancies and s*xually transmitted infections (STIs).
S*x education works best when it’s:
* Taught by trained professionals
* Taught early and often throughout the lifespan
* Includes both information and skill-building activities
* Evidence-informed
* Inclusive of LGBTQ+ youth
* Rooted in anti-racism practices
* Trauma-informed
* Adapted to the needs of the community

Female Reproductive Health & Hygiene
In India, many women in rural and semi-urban areas are married off just as legally allowed. Many are also underage marriages, with girls as young as 13 married off to much older men. As adolescents giving birth, they experience high-risk pregnancies, despite which they mother multiple children early on in their marriage.

Immature reproductive systems, young and developing minds and poor pre and ante-natal care put young mothers at risk to adverse health conditions. Moreover, illegal, unsafe and back-alley means of getting an abortion for unwanted pregnancies exposes women to dangerous infections and diseases.
The lack of information surrounding menstruation and feminine hygiene means that women live with infections and pains they consider normal. Lack of access to sanitary napkins, poor hygiene practices, and the shroud of secrecy surrounding the topic means that millions of menstruating women suffer every month.

S*xual Abuse
A study on child abuse in India, conducted by the Ministry of Women and Child Development, reports that 53% of boys and 47% of girls surveyed faced some form of s*xual abuse.
S*x education can help a vulnerable young population be aware of their s*xual rights and empower them to protect themselves from any undesired act of violence, s*xual abuse, and molestation.
Being a teenager is an incredibly challenging time. Under the influence of peer pressure, young adults might participate in socially unacceptable and criminal group behaviour. The r**e culture emerging among the younger generation can be addressed and stopped by educating adolescents about s*x.
Teaching young adults about their bodies, consent, and ethical and moral principles to govern their actions can discourage the development of careless and dangerous attitudes.

* Most teenagers see online po*******hy at some stage, either by accident or on purpose.
* Some po*******hy sends negative messages about s*x and relationships. It might harm teenagers’ ability to form healthy relationships.
* Talking is one of the best ways to protect teenagers from the potentially harmful influence of po*******hy.

How po*******hy affects young people:

Po*******hy is s*xually explicit material that aims to arouse people who are looking at it
Po*******hy can send negative messages like:
* mutual consent and safe s*x aren’t important
* violent s*xual acts are normal and appealing
* the point of s*x is to satisfy people with s*xual or other kinds of power, often men
* s*xual relationships in which women have no power are normal and OK
* loving relationships aren’t important
* aggressive behaviour towards women is normal and OK.

Talking with Teenagers about po*******hy: why it’s important

Talking about po*******hy is one of the best ways to protect your child from the potential influence of po*******hy.
You could start a conversation by talking about something you and your child have seen in a movie, TV show, YouTube video and so on. Or you could ask your child some questions. For example:
* Have you heard people talking about po*******hy? What did they say?
* Do you know people who look at po*******hy?
* Have you ever seen po*******hy?
* Have you seen it when you were with friends?
* Do you have any questions about things you’ve seen or heard?

It’s important to listen and be open to what your child has to say. If your child has questions, it’s best to answer them briefly and honestly. If you don’t know the answers, it’s OK to say so. You can tell your child you’ll think about it and get back to them.

What to say to Teenagers about po*******hy?

Once you’ve started talking with your child about po*******hy, you might find talking gets easier the more you do it. Here are some important things you could talk about.

Why does online po*******hy exist?
�Explain that some adults like looking at po*******hy, so people film or take photos of s*x to make money. You could mention that, as with many jobs, some people choose to take part in making po*******hy, but others do it because they can’t find another job.

Is p**n s*x like real s*x?�Young people might think that po*******hy shows them what s*x and bodies should look like.
You can explain to your child that actors in po*******hy are being paid. They have to do what they’re told and look like they’re having a great time – even when the s*x is violent, non-consensual, boring or unenjoyable.

And real bodies aren’t the same as p**n actors’ bodies. For example, the actors might have had their bodies modified or enhanced in various ways.

What are the risks of po*******hy?�Teenagers who look at po*******hy regularly might develop unhealthy or stereotypical views about gender roles, s*x and s*xual performance. These views can make it harder for them to develop respectful and enjoyable s*xual relationships.

It’s important for your child to know that fulfilling relationships are about emotional closeness and trust as well as mutually enjoyable s*x. You can help your child understand this by talking about what respectful relationships look and feel like.

For example:
‘Po*******hy can make violent s*x and disrespectful relationships seem normal. You might think that’s what you should do in real life. But in real life it’s important to show care and respect when you’re intimate with someone. You should always be certain you’re only doing things that both of you really want to do.’

When teenagers view po*******hy
If your child has seen po*******hy, it’s important to stay calm. Staying calm will help you to:
* talk with your child in a caring, constructive and supportive way
* try to understand whether your child is viewing po*******hy alone or with friends
* try to understand why your child is interested in viewing po*******hy
* work out the best way to handle the situation.
It’s important to let your child know that it’s normal and OK to be interested in s*x and s*xuality and that they’re not in trouble.
If your child is regularly seeking out po*******hy while alone, consider talking with your child about why they’re looking at po*******hy, whether they think it’s a good idea, and why.
If your child is looking at po*******hy to find out more about s*x, you could help your child find better information sources.
If your child is looking at po*******hy for s*xual arousal, you could talk with your child about how often and what sort of po*******hy they’re looking at. You can tell your child that it’s OK to be interested in s*x and seek s*xual arousal, but that using po*******hy regularly can get in the way of forming and enjoying positive relationships.
If your child is concerned that they can’t control their po*******hy use, suggest that you help your child seek professional support. Your GP is a good place to start.
Why teenagers view po*******hy
Young people are naturally curious about s*x and relationships. They might look at po*******hy for s*xual arousal, out of curiosity, or for information about s*x.
Teenagers might watch po*******hy with their friends. This can be to build closer bonds with friends, to boost social status, or to encourage someone they like to have s*x with them.
Often boys suggest looking at po*******hy, rather than girls. Boys are also more likely to look for po*******hy and view it on their own. Boys might behave like this because this is what gender stereotypes say boys should do.

Many young people turn to po*******hy for information and advice. With this reality comes an opportunity: We can utilize it to start important conversations with them about s*x and relationships, says public health researcher Emily Rothman.

With po*******hy and teenagers, conventional wisdom suggests the two be kept as far apart as possible. But this eye-opening statistic could make most people rethink the feasibility or wisdom of such an approach: According to a group of young adults surveyed for one study, 93 percent of males and 62 percent of females had viewed p**n at least once before their first year of college. Other researchers have found that for many teens, p**n is their #1 source of information about s*x.
Given p**n’s pervasiveness and its influence, could it also be used as a teaching tool?

Like it or not, many teens watch p**n — so why not use it to teach positive lessons?

📚Best Books on S*xuality:
Come us you are byEmily Nagosky

She Comes First by Ian Kerner

He Comes Next by Ian Kerner

Ta***ic Love by Diana Richardson

S*xual Reflexology by Mantak China

📚Best Books on Relationships:
5 Love Language by Gary Chapman

Love and Respect by DR. Emerson
Eggerichs

The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine

The Male Brain by Louann Brizandine


📺 Best Documentary to Watch:
The Principles of Pleasure on Netflix by Emily Nagosky
👉🏽 https://youtu.be/bbtcUPJ_N4

📺 Educational funny series on Netflix:
S*x Education
👉🏽 https://youtu.be/Hd2ldTR-WpI

S*x Love and Goop on Netflix
👉🏻 https://youtu.be/o4KO4mN2_Fs

The Virginity Fraud:
👉🏻 https://youtu.be/1oNlTrLIjU4

👉🏽https://ideas.ted.com/like-it-or-not-many-teens-have-watched-p**n-so-why-not-use-it-to-teach-positive-lessons/?fbclid=IwAR2oAvcAhdrWe5KgJztixB7VqtYTICa9KM9eZbKqvsi73uXgqtQviA9H0-A

👉🏻 https://youtu.be/-7V9S9wdLfc

👉🏽 https://youtu.be/R-gwxS-7h9o

👉🏻 https://youtu.be/5CKWJx5C7o4

👉🏽 https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/entertainment-technology/po*******hy-s*xting/po*******hy-talking-with-teens

👉🏻 https://childmind.org/article/how-to-talk-to-teenagers-about-p**n/

👉🏻 https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/entertainment-technology/po*******hy-s*xting/po*******hy-talking-with-teens