House of Mila

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De grenzen die je hebt, worden bepaald door de afspraken die je met je zelf maakt (Wayne Dyer). Pas dan ga ik dieper in op de hulpvraag. Wie ben jij?

🌿Specializing in trauma healing through:
- Family constellations
- Inner child work
- Mindfulness & more
For deep unconscious exploration & transformation✨

With more then 10 years of experience in the Mental Healtcare Een quote die al een groot deel van mijn leven bij mij terug komt. Dit, omdat ik geloof in het feit dat heel veel mogelijk is, zolang de wil er is. Ik vind namelijk dat succes bete

kent dat we ons best doen met wat we hebben en niet het doel halen op zich. De juiste houding of blik is een klein aspect dat een groot verschil kan maken. Succes is naar mijn idee proberen en niet per se de overwinning. Omdat in ´proberen´ vaak meer lessen en mijlpalen zitten dan in het einddoel. Ik probeer dus vaak in mijn werk een ander licht te schijnen op iemand zijn gevoel, gedachten en ervaringen waardoor men anders leert te kijken en beseft dat men vaak al meer heeft bereikt of kan dan men dacht. Mijn naam is Charissa van Egdom en mijn carrière is ooit begonnen met de opleiding Pedagogiek. Tijdens deze opleiding heb ik mij vooral gespecialiseerd in de psychologie van de mens. Maar klakkeloos alles aannemen vanuit de theorie past niet bij mij. Ik ben een gevoelsmens en ik weet dat theorie heel helpend kan zijn, maar het hele leven niet uitgeschreven kan worden in een boekje. Mijn werkwijze is dan ook persoonlijk maar wel met de juiste professie. Ik zie eerst de mens en vind het belangrijk dat er een goede connectie is. Psychiatrische problematieken, loopbaancoaching, jeugdzorg, gezinscoaching, welzijnswerk, verstandelijke beperking… ik heb het allemaal mogen doen, en overal en in elke situatie begint het met ´hoor mij/zie mij´. Ik herinner me dan ook de meeste mensen nog die ik ooit heb mogen helpen en waarvoor ik voor een belangrijke rol heb mogen vervullen. Want mijn werk, doe ik vanuit mijn hart en ik doe nooit ´zomaar´ iets. Waarom de naam House of Mila
Sinds 2019 woon ik in Spanje en in 2022 ben ik moeder geworden van mijn dochter Mila. Zij heeft mij doen beseffen dat ik toch echt mijn droom moet verwezenlijken. Mijn eigen coachingspraktijk met een stukje therapie. Tijdens haar geboorte ontdekte wij dat de naam die wij voor haar hadden gekozen, Mila, een afkorting is van de Spaanse naam Milagros. De betekenis van deze naam is ´wonder´ en past perfect bij haar. Zo is de naam ´House of Mila´ ontstaan. Als we dit vertalen naar de betekenis zeg je namelijk ´Huis van de wonderen´. Een prachtige symboliek, want we zijn tenslotte in staat om meer te doen en te weten dan we denken. En mijn eerste insteek in het contact tijdens mijn werk, is dat ik mensen op hun gemak wil laten voelen, een vertrouwd gevoel wil geven. Daarnaast verwijst de bloem in het logo naar een cactus in Zuid Amerika met de naam Mila. Een mooie symboliek dat er uit zoiets stekeligs en soms best lelijk, een prachtige gele bloem kan ontstaan. Maar voor nu genoeg over mij. Welke vragen zou je mij willen stellen? Ik hoop dat ik de deur voor jou mag openen en je mag verwelkomen in House of Mila. Dat ik iets voor je mag en kan betekenen. En mochten er eerst meer willen weten over mij of het aanbod, ben je natuurlijk ook meer dan welkom!

10/09/2026

Sometimes keeping the peace can feel safer than saying what you actually think or feel.

You might avoid the conversation altogether. You might apologise before you’ve even had the chance to explain yourself. Or perhaps you quickly try to make things “okay” again when the conversation starts to feel uncomfortable.

I often wonder what happens when we become more focused on getting out of the discomfort than staying connected through it.

Because being in a relationship doesn’t mean you will never feel uncomfortable with each other. Disagreement, vulnerability and difficult conversations are part of being close to another person.

The question is perhaps not “How do we avoid these moments?” but:

“Can we stay connected when they happen?”

And sometimes, that starts with becoming curious about what makes the discomfort so difficult to stay with.

09/09/2026

Do you remember the question I asked here last week? I asked what would feel like the easiest first step if you were considering working on something personal:

A retreat, a group workshop, an online course… or 1:1 support.
80% of you chose 1:1. 🤍

And it got me thinking about that first step. Because reaching out to a therapist can feel quite vulnerable. You might know that something isn't quite working, but you may not know exactly what you need yet. Or perhaps you're wondering whether you'll feel comfortable with the person you're contacting.

That's why I offer a free, no-obligation introductory conversation.

It isn't a therapy session. You don't have to tell me your whole story, and you don't need to know exactly what you want to work on. It's simply a chance to meet.

To ask questions. To get a feel for who I am and how I work. And perhaps most importantly, to notice whether you feel safe and comfortable enough to imagine exploring things further with me.

Because therapy is personal. And I don't think you should have to make yourself vulnerable just to find out whether someone is the right therapist for you.

There is no commitment at the end of the conversation. Maybe we decide that working together feels like a good fit. Maybe you need some time to think about it. Or maybe you realise I'm not the right person for you.

All of those are completely okay. Sometimes the first step is simply meeting. 🌿

If you'd like to have a conversation, just send me a DM and we'll find a time that works.

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08/09/2026

One of the questions in The Relationship Pattern Finder asks:
“What story did I tell myself?”

And it’s often the question that surprises people the most. Because two partners can experience the exact same situation, and walk away with two completely different stories.

One person thinks:
“They don’t care about me.”

The other thinks:
“Nothing I do is ever good enough.”

Same moment. Different story.
That’s why I believe lasting change doesn’t begin by trying to win the argument.
It begins by becoming curious about the story you’ve been telling yourself.

🤍 If you haven’t requested your free copy of The Relationship Pattern Finder yet, you can find it through the link in my bio.

Or simply comment RELATIONSHIP below and I’ll send you the link in a DM.
💭 Have you ever realised that your first interpretation wasn’t actually the full story?

07/09/2026

We often think connection comes from doing more together.
· More date nights.
· More conversations.
· More quality time.

And those things can help. But sometimes, deeper connection starts with something much simpler:
Being genuinely curious about the person beside you. 🤍

What are they carrying that you haven't asked about?
When do they feel most like themselves with you?
What makes them feel loved, not in theory, but in reality?

You don't need to turn these questions into a deep relationship conversation every time.

Choose one. Put your phones away. Listen without trying to fix, defend or explain.
You might learn something about your partner you didn't know. And you might discover something about yourself, too.

🤍 Save these questions for a quiet moment together.

And if you want to explore the patterns that shape your relationship a little deeper, my free Relationship Pattern Finder is available through the link in my bio.

04/09/2026

🤍 AND THE WINNER IS… 🤍
Thank you to everyone who participated in my birthday giveaway!

I loved reading your comments and messages. Unfortunately, there can only be one winner…

✨ Congratulations, ! ✨
You have won a 1:1 session with me!

Together, we’ll look at what is happening in your life right now and what kind of support would be most helpful for you. The session has no fixed format and will be shaped around your personal needs.

I’ll contact you personally to plan our session. 🤍

And to everyone who participated: thank you for joining and for taking that first step towards choosing yourself.

With love,

Charissa
House of Mila 🤍

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04/09/2026

Feeling “nothing” doesn’t mean there’s nothing there. Sometimes when people say “I can’t feel”, it doesn’t mean they have no emotions or body signals. It can mean that they’ve become less connected to them.

For some people, this connection became difficult early in life. For others, it developed through stress, overwhelming experiences, or simply through years of being more focused on thinking, functioning and getting through the day.

Your system may have found ways to protect you by turning the volume down. And if you learned to disconnect, you can also slowly learn to listen again. Not by forcing yourself to feel more. But by becoming curious about the small things you can notice.

This is also an important part of my new free reflection, Why Do I React Like This? It invites you to look at your reactions from different angles, including what happens in your body, your thoughts and your behaviour.

This exercise is part of a series to gently practise that connection, one step at a time.

You don’t have to feel everything. You don’t even have to know what you’re feeling. You can simply begin by noticing. 🤍

If you’d like to explore your own reactions a little further, you can get the free reflection by commenting REACT below, and I’ll send you the link.

03/09/2026

Sometimes, understanding a pattern is the first step toward changing it.
When you're caught in a relationship dynamic that keeps repeating, it can be incredibly difficult to understand why you stay, why you keep going back, or why setting a boundary feels so hard.

And that can quickly turn into self-blame: Why am I doing this? Why can't I just leave? Why do I keep falling for the same thing?

But these patterns rarely exist without a reason. Our attachment, nervous system, previous experiences and the dynamics we've learned in relationships can all influence what feels familiar, safe or even difficult to let go of.

Understanding that doesn't mean excusing unhealthy behaviour or staying in something that hurts you. It means replacing "What's wrong with me?" with a more useful question:
"What is happening here, and what keeps this pattern going?"

Because awareness creates choice. And sometimes, seeing a relationship more clearly, rather than only seeing yourself as the problem, is where change can begin.

Curious about your own reactions? 🤍
I've created a free guided reflection to help you slow down, notice and understand yourself a little better.

Why Do I React Like This?
Free · 30 minutes

Comment REACT and I'll send you the link in a DM.

02/09/2026

You can love your parents and still question your childhood.
Feeling guilty when you start seeing your childhood differently is more common than you might think.

When we begin to realise that our childhood wasn’t always as happy, safe or uncomplicated as we once believed, it can bring up a lot of conflicting feelings. You may start questioning things you never questioned before. And with that can come guilt, sadness, anger or even the feeling that you’re being disloyal to your parents by seeing your childhood in a different light.

That sense of loyalty can run deep. As children, we depend on our parents and naturally adapt to our family system. Protecting the relationship can sometimes feel more important than questioning what happened. But feeling hurt by something doesn’t automatically mean your parents intended to hurt you.

Children experience the world differently from adults. We often interpret things personally because we don’t yet have the emotional maturity or perspective to understand everything happening around us.

A parent may have been doing the best they could, without realising that something they said, did or couldn’t give you was being experienced very differently by their child.

Both things can be true. They may not have meant to hurt you. And it may still have hurt you.

Recognising that doesn’t mean blaming your parents or rewriting your entire childhood. It means allowing yourself to become curious about your own experience without immediately dismissing it to protect someone else’s. And perhaps that’s where some of that guilt can begin to soften.

If you’re a parent yourself, this can be an important reminder too. When your child tells you about something they experienced differently than you intended, hearing their experience doesn’t mean you have to accept blame. You can know that you did the best you could, and still be curious about how something felt for them.

Sometimes, the most healing thing we can offer each other is simply the space to say:
“I understand that this was your experience.”

01/09/2026

I’m curious about that.

Were you actually calm?

Or did you learn very early that someone had to keep everything together?

Because being the “strong one” can sometimes mean becoming incredibly good at putting your own feelings aside.

Being capable and being regulated are not always the same thing.

31/08/2026

Have you ever caught yourself thinking:
"Why did I react like that?"
"Why do I always do this?"
"I know I don't want to react this way, so why do I keep doing it?"

Maybe you overthink. You find it difficult to say no. You try to keep everyone happy. You need to stay in control. You shut down when things become too much. Or perhaps you simply notice that you react more strongly than you would like.

Sometimes these reactions have become so familiar that we barely notice them anymore.
We simply think: "That's just how I am."

But what if, instead of immediately trying to change your reaction, you became curious about it?
Why do I react like this? is a free guided reflection I created to help you do exactly that.

You'll explore one familiar reaction from different angles: what happened, what you noticed in your body, how you responded, where your attention went, what your mind was telling you and what you might have needed.

You don't need to know why you react this way.
You don't need to figure everything out.
And this isn't about fixing yourself.

It's about slowing down enough to notice what is happening, with a little more curiosity and a little less judgement. Because understanding yourself comes before knowing what you need to change.

🤍 Want your free copy?
Comment REACT below and I'll send you the link in a DM.

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