Personal Development Coaching

PERSPECTIVE SHIFT


Don’t we all have our daily routines?

These routines become our reality and our truth, which can sometimes be self-limiting.

Yet, what if by changing our perspective we could be happier, more confident, and we could take rigour out of our day-to-day?

And instead, we could use that energy in other ways.

Shifting perspectives will give us a wider view of most situations and, with practice, expand the options for how we perceive our self-made reality.

To start with, we want to ask ourselves: How do we know if our perspective is proper, accurate, or too rigid?


Let me give you an example:


For the last 30 years, I had been travelling the world workwise, and I know China, Hong Kong or South Korea better than my own home country. I never stayed at home for more than 3 months, and taking a long-distance flight was identic to taking the bus.

Recently I decided to change my life radically taking care of my Mum who can’t live on her own anymore. So, I moved to her place, a little island in the Mediterranean Sea.

Since then, everything has changed. For the time being, I’m taking care of the home, the garden, and the pets, I cook and do the grocery. I’m running my business from home. If I forgot to buy milk…uff, big issue because it means another 20min extra drive to the next supermarket.


But this week I had to do some admin stuff on the mainland and wasn’t at home for two days.

Now, being back, I had a huge realisation!

Since my daily routines and therefore my reality has changed, I have adopted some unhealthy habits without even realizing them:


The dishes had to be at their specific place on the shelf, the dog bowl had to be cleaned and stored away right after its usage, the cushions on the sofa had to be arranged in a certain way, and so on, and so forth. I think you’re getting the point.

If it wasn’t the case, I got upset.


Ridiculously unnecessary waste of energy, don’t you agree?


Now, because of the distance, and the time off, I can clearly see that I started to adopt unhealthy habits which were causing unnecessary stress for myself and for the people around me.


As a consequence, I made a list where I state my current perspective. On the other side of the list, I developed two alternative perspectives and I stated the changes when looking out at the situation through this new perspective. If it feels good, I will from now on think and act this way.


I put the list on my fridge so that I get reminded so I don’t fall back into old ways.


ISN’T IT PRETTY COOL? I CAN NOW USE MY ENERGY ON DIFFERENT THINGS.


What habits could you change and instead invest the energy gained into something else?

TAKING THINGS FOR GRANTED


think about a hectic day… you are running back and forth all day long trying to organize all the things you have to do. Picking the kids up, doing the grocery, doing some admin stuff, whatever we have to organize and arrange day-by-day.

After such an overwhelming day, we might think “why do I have to organize all this?”


BUT THINK ABOUT THAT: what happened if we cannot organize anymore if we don’t remember what we have to do? What will happen then?


My Mum was an amazing organizer, she planned and scheduled anything, and hardly forgot a thing.

But now she is getting old, she forgets essential things and often doesn’t remember how simple daily routines work. It is really sad to see how dependent she becomes. And it is even worse to see that she feels ashamed because she can’t remember.


WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS?


We want to be thankful for our ability to maneuver well through our day-to-day, that we know what to do and that we can do things on our own, without the help of anybody. We don’t want to take it for granted. And we want to remember that maybe, one day, we can’t be independent anymore and that we might need the help of others.


Maybe then, a stressful day might not appear so overwhelming anymore…

IT IS A FACT THAT THE ROLE OF ORGANIZATIONS HAS CHANGED IN RECENT YEARS.

We increasingly find that we must incorporate new management tools to motivate our employees, workers and teams.

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🤔 Do you have to tell me how to organize myself?

That's certainly a very common question that I'm hearing with increasing frequency

But how many times have you tried to adopt the same leadership practices without achieving satisfactory results?

More and more we must develop and embrace different competencies to be competitive in the market. Perhaps, for your organization, this could be a new way of working, setting principles and values on which to act, creating new business objectives, or even a new computer system.

WHAT IS TEAM COACHING FOR?

Team Coaching is designed to address everything necessary for team dynamics to work.

FOR EXAMPLE:

🔶 Introduce a way of seeing, thinking, working and leading that helps teams and their members improve their performance significantly to strengthen curiosity and the desire for continuous improvement.

🔶 Accompany one or more teams(s) to help them improve their relationships with each other to obtain pre-established results and (to) detect dysfunction within the team(s).

🔶 Evaluate observable behaviours and question unproductive beliefs, habits and rituals.

🔶 Detect interrelationships within a team that are unproductive or even toxic.

🔶 Align commitment, action and results where needed.

🔶 Strengthen confidence and teach different concepts that can help team members to be more productive.

🔶 Promote the perseverance of effective behaviours.

🔶 Agree to or remember the company's key values and define an observable behaviour, which allows synthesizing of these values.



Implementing the system of "Dynamic Energy Principles" in an organization will allow the company to move from “good results” to “great success”.

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About the Coach:

With almost 30 years of significant experience in International Trade between Europe and Asia, with extensive experience in Start-Ups, SMEs and Corporate Business. All of this hands-on experience has helped create a results-oriented professional with a proven track record of achievement.

Having gained insight from "within the company" I have developed the "Dynamic Energy Principles" system, created to help business leaders and their people understand how they can establish committed and effective teams that can relate to the vision and objectives of the company.



🇪🇸 🇬🇧 🇩🇪 Coaching can be facilitated in Spanish, English and German 🇪🇸 🇬🇧 🇩🇪

For more information about my Team Coaching services, you can contact me by mail, WhatsApp or phone:


🌐 [email protected]
📱 605 39 80 92.

THE THING ABOUT TAKING THINGS FOR GRANTED


Holiday time is simply a wonderful time. The sea, the sun, the palm trees, the lakes, the mountains and pure nature. Or visiting a wonderful city– If only you could always stay there.

Many people manage to turn their dream into reality. They arrive where they have always dreamed of. It's wonderful, they enjoy this moment.

But how often does the dream turn into normal life? The heat eventually bothers you, or the frequent power outage due to poor infrastructure annoys you; the mountains' loneliness develops into a wasteland.


Do you know the audio of the Argentinean guy who moves to Canada (more precisely, to Toronto?)? He hated the heat and humidity of Argentina, the mosquitoes, and everything that surrounded him. He just wanted to get away. So he moved to Toronto. In the beginning, he was enthusiastic about snow, deer and nature. But that changed quickly, and finally, he cursed the snow and the deer, and his existence in Toronto. He missed the sultriness, the mosquitoes, and the heat of Argentina.


How often does it happen that we are initially totally enthusiastic about something, but after a short time it becomes normal, or even annoying? We start to take things for granted or nag about them.

In short, once a dream has been fulfilled, it can quickly happen that we take it for granted, and the dream quickly relativizes and bursts like a soap bubble.


But if we don't take these things for granted?
If we keep reminding ourselves that we have made it?
If we consciously feel gratitude and also express it?

WHAT WOULD THAT GIVE US?

THE THING ABOUT SELF-LOVE


Isn’t it it's on everyone's lips, isn’t everyone preaching it: PRACTISE SELF-LOVE?

It is thought that self-love is taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others, not settling for less than you deserve.

Yet, it doesn’t mean that now you have a free pass for going more often to the Spa, having a long, wonderful bubble bath with candlelight, going fishing, flying drones, or spending the night with your mates.

To practice self-care, we first must connect with ourselves deeply. We want to learn more about ourselves if we are trusting ourselves and if we have standards and are keeping them.

💮 What about the stories we are telling ourselves? Are they true or are they coming from an unhealthy perception and self-judgment?

💮 Are we forgiving ourselves when we aren’t being true or nice to ourselves?

💮 Are we making healthy choices for our lives?

💮 Do we have integrity and are loyal to ourselves or do we emerge in self-indulgence?



Self-love means something different for each person because we all have many different ways of wishing or even dreaming about how to take care of ourselves.


To me, self-love means that you learn how to identify who you really are, what is right and what is wrong for you. To create a personal code of integrity and live my life accordingly. To keep my commitments, knowing that I can trust myself at any given moment. Having healthy boundaries which I can transmit to others with respect but steadfastness. Doing the right thing even when no one else will.


What about you? What does self-love mean to you? Let me know in the comments!

OBSCURING THE TRUTH


Sometimes, we deceive ourselves. We simply don’t want to see the truth. Be it because the truth is too painful because it will bring too much uncertainty, or maybe because we simply just can’t bother.

I believe you can resonate with the above.

Yet, the truth is our future, and the future depends on how well we preserve our commitment to the truth.


What is the need we feel when we deceive ourselves or others?
I mean, what is the gain?
There is always a gain we get when we choose to hide from the truth.

Is this gain worth it?
Will this gain lead us to where we want to be?


What’s the benefit of covering it all up with a whole bunch of lies?


“THE TROUBLE WITH LYING AND DECEIVING IS THAT THEIR EFFICIENCY DEPENDS ENTIRELY UPON A CLEAR NOTION OF THE TRUTH THAT THE LIAR AND DECEIVER WISHES TO HIDE.”
- Hannah Arendt

When we can admit our flaws instead of hiding what makes us feel uncomfortable, inadequate or even ashamed, we are one step closer to achieving more quality in life.

¡COMUNICARSE BIEN ES MÁS DIFÍCIL DE LO QUE CREES!



Aunque no lo parezca, comunicarse efectivamente puede ser difícil de lograr.

Pero, ¿si la comunicación es tan importante, por qué somos tan mediocres para realizarla efectivamente?


Cuando queremos dialogar con los otros, nos encontramos con una serie de obstáculos que hacen difícil la comunicación y la comprensión de los demás, y muchas veces, incluso de nosotros mismos. Pueden surgir bloqueos y tensiones que dificultan una comunicación efectiva.



La comunicación efectiva es más que un simple intercambio de información. Se trata de entender al otro, sus emociones, su intención, y todo lo que está detrás de lo que dicen sus palabras o gestos.


Por eso he creado el curso en línea “CLAVES PARA UNA COMUNICACIÓN EFICAZ” que te dará herramientas útiles para mejorar tus habilidades de comunicación.



🤌 🤌 ¿TANTA IMPORTANCIA TIENE LA COMUNICACIÓN EN LA VIDA DE UNA PERSONA QUE HACE FALTA QUE EXISTA UN CURSO COMPLETO DEDICADO A ELLA?



La respuesta es que sí. La vida en general es una cuestión de comunicación. Pasamos la mayor parte de nuestro tiempo comunicándonos. Todos los días y a toda hora nos encontramos transmitiendo y recibiendo información.



¿PARA QUIÉN ES ESTE CURSO?

👉Personas que desean optimizar su comunicación de forma sencilla

👉Personas que buscan fortalecer sus relaciones personales reforzando su comunicación

👉Personas que desean mejorar su comunicación y desean comenzar de una forma sencilla y práctica


OBTÉN TODA LA INFORMACIÓN DANDO CLIC AQUÍ



https://www.nwglobalcoaching.com/interpersonal-communication-course

COMMUNICATING WELL IS VITAL TO KEEPING RELATIONSHIPS HEALTHY.


So, why do we struggle so often with communication?

Keep in mind that we have all the means available to communicate with almost anybody in the world at any time.

Yet, listening and understanding seem to become more and more difficult, be it in our relationship, with our children, our parents, siblings or friends. How we understand and communicate with the people around us in everyday life needs work.


Some people even say that communication is a dying art in the 21st century.

Communication is a skill that requires being open to communicating, using the right tone and active, correct language. Having the skills to express ourselves by making sure that others can understand us.


At times we think that we communicate properly, using the right words, intonation and body language. If people still don’t understand us, we start making assumptions, getting frustrated, and telling ourselves that it shouldn’t be too difficult for others to understand what we want to say. -But they wouldn’t.

A simple shift in perspective can drastically improve our communication skills.

Instead of focusing on yourself and your message, and thinking that you are communicating well, simply focus with more empathy on the other when talking and check in if they understand you. If not, re-frame what you want to express.


“THE WAY WE COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS AND OURSELVES ULTIMATELY DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES”

ES UN HECHO QUE EL PAPEL DE LAS ORGANIZACIONES HA CAMBIADO ESTOS ÚLTIMOS AÑOS.



Cada vez más nos encontramos con que debemos incorporar nuevas herramientas de gestión para motivar a nuestros empleados, trabajadores, a nuestros equipos.


🤔 ¿Me tienes que decir tú cómo organizarme yo?


Eso sin duda es una pregunta muy común que estoy escuchando a menudo.

¿Pero, sé sincero, cuántas veces has intentado adoptar las mismas prácticas de liderazgo sin conseguir resultados satisfactorios?

Cada vez más debemos desarrollar competencias para ser competitivos en el mercado. Tal vez una nueva manera de trabajar, fijar los principios y valores sobre los que actuar, unos nuevos objetivos comerciales, o un nuevo sistema informático.

¿PARA QUÉ SIRVE EL COACHING DE EQUIPOS?


Se incorpora Coaching de Equipos para todo aquello necesario para que las dinámicas de equipos funcionen.


POR EJEMPLO:

🔶 Introducir una forma de ver, pensar, trabajar y liderar que ayude a los equipos y sus miembros a mejorar su rendimiento significativamente para fortalecer la Curiosidad y el afán de mejora continua.

🔶 Acompañar a uno o varios equipos(s) para ayudarles a mejorar sus relaciones entre ellos con el objetivo de obtener resultados pre-establecidos y (para) detectar disfunciones de los equipos.

🔶 Evaluar los comportamientos observables y cuestionar creencias, hábitos y rituales improductivos.

🔶 Detectar las interrelaciones dentro de un equipo y cuales son improductivos o incluso tóxicos.

🔶 Conseguir alinear compromiso, acción y resultados donde haga falta.

🔶 Fortalecer la confianza y enseñar diferentes conceptos que les pueden servir para ser más productivos.

🔶 Promover la perseverancia de los comportamientos efectivos.

🔶 Acordar o recordar los valores clave de la empresa y definir un comportamiento observable, que permita sintetizar estos valores.



Implementar el sistema de los “Dynamic Energy Principles” en una organización permitirá que la empresa pase de buenos resultados a un grandioso éxito.

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Acerca del Coach:

Con casi 30 años de experiencia significativa en Comercio Internacional entre Europa y Asia, con gran experiencia en Start-Ups, PYMES y Negocios Corporativos. Toda ésta trayectoria ha ayudado a crear una profesional orientada a resultados con un historial comprobado de logros.

Al haber obtenido una visión desde “dentro de la empresa” he desarrollado el sistema de los "Dynamic Energy Principles", creado para ayudar a los líderes empresariales y su gente a comprender cómo pueden establecer equipos comprometidos y efectivos que puedan identificarse con la visión y los objetivos de la empresa.



🇪🇸 🇬🇧 🇩🇪 Se puede facilitar el Coaching en Español, Inglés y Alemán 🇪🇸 🇬🇧 🇩🇪


Para más información sobre mis servicios de Coaching de Equipos puedes contactarme por mail, WhatsApp o teléfono:



🌐 [email protected]
📱 +34 605 39 80 92

THE THING ABOUT GOING TOO FAST…
Isn’t it crazy? 2023 is about to knock at our doors.

Gosh, where has this year gone?

When I realized that we are already at the end of November, I asked myself the question: “Does time have to fly by?”

I then recalled the book “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. The book tells us that the most important moment in our life is the present moment.

And I asked myself: What do I do with my time? Have I been using it wisely or did I waste it mindlessly and therefore have the perception that time is flying by?

To put it simply, by slowing down and becoming intentional in all we do, when the Now becomes a deliberate piece of our life, our life will gain in quality, because, most often, our habit of speeding through life can negatively influence it. Yet, becoming “present” and slowing down means being there as an attentive observer of our mind and environment. We can then enjoy better the little moments life is offering us.

It means to be intentionally focused on the activity we are doing right now. You can practice this by taking any routine activity that normally is only a means to an end and giving it your fullest attention. To eat this piece of chocolate consciously, to work on this specific task consciously. To become intensely conscious of the NOW. Only being consciously present in the Now is the key. Otherwise, we will end up with a whole life full of time-flying-by moments wondering about what we did in life so far.

• Do you think you’re more loved because you wanna please everybody in your family by rushing through the day and fulfilling all their tasks?
• Do you think you’re less stressed when getting up in the mornings to do hundreds of things before you leave home?
• Do you think you’re more appreciated at work just because you are multitasking?


I believe you know the answers yourself!



“WELCOME THE PRESENT MOMENT AS IF YOU HAD INVITED IT.”
-Pema Chodron

THE THING ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM


I don’t know about you, but I feel that we get flooded by self-esteem calls.

I can read it everywhere, there are large amounts of self-help books, online-course and posts on social media, people are talking about it everywhere.

When I became curious about personal development, especially the “self-esteem issue”, I started digging deeper into it.

Reflecting on my life story and upcoming, I discovered that I had a big issue with self-esteem as a child. Yet at that time I of course didn’t realize it. I could only feel that people rejected me more than others and my only weapon against it was to convert into an extroverted person. That was the role I chose to play. Be it a troublemaker, a clown or a weird girl, any “label” seemed better than no label.

My motto was: -Once the reputation is ruined, life is unabashed-

My parents were lovely, yet it never came up to my mind to talk about my struggles. I didn’t want to cause them bad feelings. Maybe because I thought I was a burden to them? Maybe I didn’t trust that they could understand or help me? Maybe I thought I would cause them additional trouble?

Seriously strange feelings and thoughts kids can have in their perception of reality.

My friends took me as I was, they supported me emotionally whenever I screw up again. But also here, I never thought about “the self-esteem thing”. I simply took it for granted that I was weird.

And here I think is the point- How can we realize that our perception of reality is coming from a lack of self-esteem if nobody tells us, and above all if we can’t talk to anybody in our environment who will support us? If nobody explains how we can start changing the vision of ourselves, the lack of self-acceptance?

Society nowadays feeds us with “perfect lives”, “perfect people”, people “who made it”, and people who “earned it”. Aren’t we secretly comparing ourselves to them, which makes us feel even worse, which makes us hate ourselves a little more? Which maybe makes us feel more rebellious or more frustrated?


I learned that if I want to work on my self-esteem, I had to look for supportive people, people who lead me with love and compassion to become a more confident person, to guide me on how to accept myself in the first instance, and how to introduce the right tools so that I can trust myself knowing that I have it all in me.


It took a lot of discipline and hard work, but the results were soon visible and brought me evidence that I’m not weird and that I didn’t have to play a role, to wear a mask as a protection, but that I could show up undone. That I didn’t have to screw up again as a call for attention.


This awareness gave me so much peace of mind, so much faith and joy in life that I can certainly recommend anybody who can resonate with this essay to start working on themselves. With the help of others who know how to guide us.


IT IS SO MUCH WORTH THE EFFORT! IT IS PRICELESS!

BIG CHANGES EMERGE FROM SMALL CHOICES


I don’t know if you can resonate with the below, but I would like to share my personal experience with the community:

Maybe years have passed since some important events in your life. Maybe the relationships in your life aren't what you hoped they'd be. Maybe your job is not the right place for you anymore.

Or at some point, maybe it all just fell apart.


What I realized by then in my personal journey of life was that most of my thoughts were repetitive and formed patterns and I tended to think the same thoughts over and over. And then I did the same things over and over again hoping that a miracle would happen and things would change.

People may place their sense of fulfilment only on the outcome, the big vision, people’s expectations, etc. This tends to happen in societies that place more value on accomplishments.

When this happens, we may want to escape or hide from the demands or traps that we’ve created for ourselves, by hiding from responsibilities, a stressful and unfulfilling job, a relationship, or a financial issue. We find excuses to feel safe, avoid the issue, avoiding taking responsibility for our lives and actions. We start to procrastinate. We prefer the current situation rather than changing it. Because a change can mean getting out of your routine and embracing something new. And this looks and feels scary.

When I realized this, I started to look deeper into human behaviour. And I learned that mindsets are formed by our conditioning. We often seek validation and acceptance as we try to prove something to others and ourselves. And our energy may get depleted as we feed these expectations.

Hell, I had been looking for validation since I was a teenager. Whatever I did, it never seemed to be enough.

In fact, Self-Improvement is not just a mindset, but a state of consciousness where we don’t need to prove anything to anyone, including ourselves. We just do things because we are in integrity with ourselves.


I LEARNED that I have strengths and that I was worthy and I’m using them now to build good things and find my way through those complex challenges and roadblocks ahead of me that life offers every now and then.

I LEARNED about accepting my weaknesses. You may not think of weaknesses as the "best parts of you" but a weakness is really a potential in disguise. It represents an area of our life that we can continue to develop - something we can grow. It becomes something bigger, better, and more fulfilling as it grows.
IN A WAY, A WEAKNESS IS LIKE A SEED –



I’m a traveller, I have been travelling all my life, and I love to discover new cultures, and new environments and let myself get impressed by the beauty and diversity they can offer. From all these journeys I brought memories with me, they helped me to create my mindset and attitude. I evaluated values and ideologies and added them to my personal standards whenever I found them important.

And finally, I could learn how to discover myself, my thinking, my good things, and my flaws.

I’m still on this journey, and hey, isn’t it a lifelong journey we are all travelling?
I’m taking it as an adventure, full of curiosity and enthusiasm.


What about you? – ARE YOU READY TO DEPART?