Swimmix

I wish there was more time

I am fortunate to work with my interest and it has a tendency to grow. Therefor I am closing this page to free up more time and space for the Leadership Coaching I do and my work with Family-Lab Denmark.

A hugh thank you to you for joining me here.

If you are intersted in contacting me for coaching, presentations or educations in relationship competence you can find me here:

https://www.ulrikafaerch.com/en/
https://www.family-lab.dk/

If you want to stay connected you can find me on LinkedIn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ulrika-faerch-5aa71913/

Until I see you again – take care of you and those around you.

Love/
Ulrika

We need connection now maybe more than ever💞

How do we grow our connection to ourselves?
- By growing our self-awareness and developing a healthy self-esteem.

Introspection, therapy, coaching or journaling can be ways to reach that growth. In my oppinion probably the best investment for the modern human being and something I wish all groups who directly work with humans would get from their employer.

What do you think?

"Our connection with others can only be as deep as our connection with ourselves." Brene Brown

❤️ Bring new happiness and a deeper level of understanding with the gift of swim. 🫧

Swimming together can reduce stress and increase serotonin and oxytocin (the “love hormone,” essential for building strong bonds).

With the Happy Babies Swim book as your guide you can learn more about yourself and your baby, build a strong emotional connection and a healthy relationship right from the start.

❤️💦🫧

Link 👇 and in bio
https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Babies-Swim-Creating-Relationships-ebook/dp/B07PP7RYR3/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1TO7NJUWKOWDO&keywords=happy+babies+swim+book&qid=1659901874&sprefix=happy+babies+swim+book%2Caps%2C170&sr=8-3

💝 Make a big splash in your baby's and your life 💦

Start today!

A five step program for parents with babies from 0 to 24 months. It's a guide into a holistic self-led journey for parents. With this program and through the practice parents will not only discover and learn more about their baby but also about themselves.

Growing stronger together through the gift of swim.

The program is also used by teachers in swim schools.⭐️

Jump in you too!

Link 👇 and in bio
https://learn.swimmix.com/

Relationship means contact, connection, communion.

If focus is solely on perfomance, goals and outcome rather than the relationship first. It will have a negativ effect on outcome and experience.
How ofte have we not heard about terrible experiences from swimming. Often this is due to lack of understanding of the impact of relationships in education or just poor relationship skills from the adult.
We would all greatly benefit from developing our relationship competence.

"Action has meaning only in relationship;
without understanding relationship,
action on any level will only breed conflict."

Swim into H A P P Y

Focus on these cues, create the mindset for you and your baby to enjoy the gift of swim and working towards a stronger relationship!

🫧 HELP guide your child in the water, and remember the importance of self-exploration!

🫧 ACTIVITIES, like swim, need routine and repetition for a young baby’s mind to grow.

🫧 PRESENT parents and caregivers, who are in-tune, develop deep bonds and trust with their babies.

🫧 PLAYING is key! Give and take time to make games out of activities in the water and have fun together.

🫧 YOU are the leader! Your baby is watching you, so be emotionally intelligent to guide your baby, while also ensuring a safe and positive environment for you both to learn in together.

More well-being for all 🫧💞
Broaden and deepen your emotional vocabulary

We are much better of in life if we have a vocabulary that is as expansive as life experience.

I grew up with very little spoken emotional language and as a swimmer I was also muted for hours under water.
Books and movies gave me the words that spoke to my inner life. But I have often felt awkward and in lack of words when I wanted to express my own experiences.

It was a different time when I grew up, generally it was little attention and interest in emotions and children's emotional experience. Controlling and suppressing was more the norm.

Today it's different, we now know that emotional intelligence affects our well-being. We are emotional relational beings! The only thing we need to do is to practice and expand our skills.

The emotional relationship between you and your baby gives you wonderful everyday opportunities to expand your emotional vocabulary while you give your baby more words to what happens inside him/her.

I just heard that in general adults have a limited vocabulary with an average of three (!) words;

😄Happy
😡Mad
😭Sad

Play with it! Describe your latest swim with your baby using words that express the emotional experience in a new way for you.

Share here or journal it - let it grow and see what happens.

When is it ok to say no?

Most want to be nice and many adults today might find it difficult to say no to their children from time to time. But to say no is important. But we need to sure that we are not saying no to needs.

In general we can say “no” to things a child desires. They will get important experiences where they learn about their own temper and about aspects of life.
They will express disappointment but, given some time and understanding, they will land in calm again.

But if we say no to a child's basic needs we will not reach calm. Sometimes it might look like calm at first, but later show up as negative symptoms.
Examples of symptoms might be:
Anxiety, stomach pain, headaches, engage in violent or self destructive behavior.

Children don't know the difference between needs and desires. They feel their desires as strongly as their needs.

Needs and desires in short:
Needs refers to our individual basic necessities required to survive and thrive.
Examples:
Sleep
Nutrition
Care and attention
Rest and activity
Emotional and physical security

These are things your child (and you) must have.

Desires are things we like to have.
Examples are endless:
A toy
A shoe from a special brand
Ice-creme and candy
Eat on the floor
Stay up late
The newest mobile phone

It is something you wish to have or do.

In the pool or water activity - what are needs and what are desires?
What are your needs?
What are the child's nee

I don't believe it is possible to always be happy

I don't even think it is something to thrive to achieve. What I do believe is that it is a byproduct of living an authentic life, where you are loved and love. A life where you can develop your skills and contribute to the whole and feel valued and also grateful.

Growing up with parents that in general are happy, has a strong impact on the children as well as the adults. It's inspiring and uplifting.
To be the captain and have the rudder in our own lifes and enjoy the journey will give our children room to grow and inspiration to how to navigate in life.

"The greatest gift parents can give their children is their own happiness."
- Thich Nhat Hanh