17/11/2025
…People change if and when THEY are ready.
Not you. Not me. No one else.
Furthermore, people change by becoming MORE of what they are, not trying to become what they are not.
Think of a time when you tried to be or do something that your heart wasn't into...
How did that work out for you?
Maybe you had success in the short term, but I doubt you could sustain it.
That's what happens when you don't get the buy-in…from YOU.
When it comes to REAL growth, raising awareness is the biggest success factor - individual and team.
By raising awareness to blind spots, and other obstacles holding you back, you clear the way for peak performance.
Think about it - If you are unaware of defensive behavior when receiving feedback, people will stop giving you feedback.
Without feedback, you CANNOT grow...or improve.
Raising awareness should be the primary method AND goal of all development work.
Incidentally, there are lots of great development tools and methods out there.
I'm familiar with a handful of good personality profilers (Myers Briggs ‘MBTI’, StrengthsFinder, Insights, DiSC).
Before becoming an MBTI Practitioner, I learned about my preference for harmony, and aversion to conflict.
However, helping people confront conflict is a BIG part of my chosen profession.
This information helped me make peace with conflict so that I could better do my job.
If something helps you gain a deeper understanding of yourself or others...I'm all for it.
However, I do NOT believe there is one magic tool or method that holds the solution to your specific situation - individual or team.
Your situation is unique and specific to YOU.
Therefore, the tool, method and approach must be as well.
These 3 core beliefs have guided me throughout my 25 year career journey.
I have seen NO exceptions.
If you agree with any these core beliefs, I'd love to have you in my tribe (see BIO for newsletter sign up).