31/12/2022
New Year’s is coming.
Do you have all your resolutions ready? Or did you, like millions of others, not follow through for more than a few weeks of last year’s goals?
You’re not alone.
The pressure we feel to “turn over a new leaf” at the beginning of the year is built into the culture.
So why do we fail to follow through?
Well, you need to know yourself first.
What does that even mean and what does that have to do with goals? Well, let’s think about the holidays we went through before the new year…
Very few people got through these holidays without some level of stress. Every year you face similar questions and have to make so many decisions.
Where will you be for the holidays? Will you be alone? Have you had a major loss this past year? Are you going to be with your family? (There are inherent family issues, even if you get along, for the most part.) Are you going to participate in all the traditions or do you want to do something different? Have you thought of presents for everyone? Do you have social events you feel obligated to attend, but maybe don’t want to? Or, do you yearn for companionship and feel lonely?
As you can see, there are so many ways to be stressed. And most of us just plow our way through from mid-November to the beginning of the next year. Then, in a tired, stressed state, we try to set lofty goals for the new year.
Often, these goals are “should” goals.
I should be healthy, so I’ll set a goal.
I should exercise, so I’ll set a goal.
I should quit smoking, so I’ll set a goal.
I should be more organized, so I’ll set a goal.
“Should goals” are not authentic and can lead to feeling guilty.
So what does stress have to do with forming goals?
Times of sustained stress are an opportunity to learn about what makes you tick and to learn what you truly believe deep inside.
But most people miss this opportunity for growth.
Whether you’ve experienced stress from the holidays or you’ve had a life crisis in the past couple of years, you basically have 2 options for dealing with that stress.
Try to get out of the stress and avoid it in the future. (no personal growth)
Look inside yourself and know what's going on so you can GROW through the stress and be stronger on the other side.
When your deep seated beliefs don’t match your reality, you feel stress. So instead of just trying to remove or relieve the outer stress, it’s far more productive and healthy to understand what’s causing this internal conflict.
As a surgeon in oncology, I accompanied many patients through life crises. I experienced them myself personally. What I learned from helping myself and others is that stress is an opportunity to GROW.
What I’ve done is created free eBooks to help you begin to understand what happens during a life crisis or times of great stress and how you can grow through it instead of running away or fighting it.
Once YOU understand what makes YOU tick, you can make healthy decisions for yourself and set authentic goals. Goals that you believe in. Goals that challenge you. Goals you strive to keep and grow from.
Visit my website at www.wolfgangspangenberger.com
to get your free eBook and learn more about growing through stress.
The complimentary e-book for you is titled, “Help! I want to Fly again! A Special E-Book to Help you Survive a Life Crisis.”
It offers plenty of immediately applicable “first aid kit” help for the mental and emotional wounds you're currently enduring.
I've also just released two workbooks to further guide and support you through this crisis or situation. Titled “A Kite Needs Wind to Fly”, you'll find a “Phase One'' and a “Phase Two'' workbook to first get you feeling grounded again and then, begin the healthy recovery process OUT of this crappy feeling.
There are many solutions discussed in each; I give you plenty of choices to decide what suits you best at the moment.
You CAN recover from this situation in a healthy way - and learn more about growing through stress.
Now, it is up to you.
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