Joy of Life Path

Last but not least! A real man does not question his masculinity. A real man has no interest to put down, to control or to restrict a woman in order to feel more ‘masculine’. A real man loves, embraces, supports and elevates the woman and her femininity.

When you feel happy, feel free to celebrate it! Cheers to women, to the smiles, the happiness, the joy and to femininity! 🥂💁🏻‍♀️🩷

We continue, with a second testimonial of a case where the expression of the femininity in the early teenage years of the girl has been suddenly punished by the father. In this case, the girl was continuously presenting an allergy every time she was wearing earrings. It might be important to mention that in her culture the ear piercing from a very young age is a very common practice and a sign of distinction between a baby girl from a baby boy. After years of ear piercing infection, a revelation during her analytical journey sets free the ears - and the skin of that body - from the constant suffering. What was piercing so badly the ears of that young woman were not actually the earrings but the voices of the big Other, and the punishment of the expression of her own voice as a female.

Today we share with the audience a sincere testimonial from a young woman, who has been raised in Cyprus. We are very lucky as she gives as a rare and intimate example of how society and sometimes parents themselves limit, condemn, punish or judge the expression of femininity of young girls and teenagers in the name of safety, protection, respect or purity. This is not to be taken “à la légère”, as we see how much a word or a comment of an adult (which comes without further explanation, support or guidance) can influence for years the young body of the child - adult to be - which is under construction. To reassure the parents, this is not a judgement, but just fruit for thought of how preconditioned beliefs, cultural and societal prejudices we may have can hurt our most beloved humans, in the name of “love”.

Françoise Dolto once said that teenagers are like lobsters in molting, who are no longer shielded by their childhood shell, and not yet held by the new one. They are no longer children, but not yet adults. In this tender in-between, in this fragile transition phase, they move through the world soft and vulnerable without a shell. Their body is exposed, as their old reality/ identity/ world no longer fits, and the new one is still forming.

This leaves them emotionally and psychologically vulnerable, often expressing confusion, anger, or insecurity. What they need most is not fixing, but gentle understanding, support and guidance. 🦞🫶🏼

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Τι είναι γυναίκα;
Τι είναι θηλυκότητα;

Αυτές είναι μόνο μερικές από μια σειρά όμορφων ερωτήσεων που θα προσπαθήσουμε να απαντήσουμε μέσα από αυτήν την νέα συνέντευξη! 🤍

Χαίρομαι να βλέπω γυναίκες να λάμπουν, να νιώθουν ελεύθερες να εκφράζονται και να τολμούν να διεκδικούν αυτά που αγαπούν στη ζωή. Αυτό το νέο επεισόδιο είναι από μόνο του μια τολμηρή και ειλικρινής Πράξη, ένα δείγμα Πατουνικής Πράξης, έτσι όπως μ’αρέσει να ονομάζω κάτι τέτοιες δημιουργίες, μέσα από την ψυχαναλυτική μου εμπειρία μέχρι τώρα.

Relax & enJoy! 🫶🏼
And stay tuned for more, as always! 🎬🎧🎤

The expats challenge - Dating

How to be a woman? How to be a man?
Interesting questions one could and should explore in life. But, be careful, there is not one already made and ready answer to these questions. It is the subject itself who has to create the woman/man who wants to be. Start with an essential ingredient which is like the spine which can hold your whole body: something to do with love! This ‘purpose’, this Act (better), will function as “the other woman” / “the other man”, as the psychoanalyst Petros Patounas taught us, and this will create a healthy triangular relation between: 1. You (the Subject/Verb), 2. What you love to do (to work with love), 3. Your boyfriend/ girlfriend.

The date which you will need to take care of first, it is the one with yourself and with what you want to do in your life. How do you want to live your life?

For those who dare to face their Truth and want to do something about it, I would recommend Lacanian Psychoanalysis. EnJoy the journey! 😉🤍

The expats challenge - Dating

How do you position yourself as a woman, in relation with a man? And why? Is this really who you want to be, or someone you have been taught to represent by your unconscious structure(s)? For example, have you ever wonder why you attract this specific type of men into your life? Is it maybe because you keep sustaining a binary?

Nurse - Someone who suffers/needs help
Useful - Useless
Strong one - Weak one
Capable - Not capable
Wealthy - Poor etc.

And why? What is the function of this position into your life? Why do you still need unconsciously to have a body through those signifiers? Does this ‘symptom’ works for you or are you actually suffering from it? And if you suffer, would you be willing to work on it and make some changes?

The expats challenge - Dating

What is “being in love”? How is this translated in feelings? How do you feel it in your body? Are you sure that what you feel is real love, or are you maybe confusing this sensation with an already known feeling, anxiety? And if yes, have you ever wondered why does this person who makes you feel like this is attractive to you? Why we often find “boring” whatever makes us feel calm and relaxed? Should we maybe start considering that real love actually feels like an effortless breathing experience? But, in order to arrive there, the ‘body’ should learn how to be demolished from past constructions and be rebuilt with new signifiers! Good luck & Bon voyage! 💁🏻‍♀️👷🏼‍♀️ 😉

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The expats challenge - Dating

Building a new reality is what we could call ‘a transition phase’. Trust the process and take it step by step with faith towards the path of your desire. To change body is not an easy task, but know that it’s possible. During the transformation, during the journey from one planet to the other try to have fun on the way. Build your new reality with care, put some people you like in it, put also some activities that make you laugh, that make you feel pleasure, do things that make you feel nice. It can be anything, there is not one recipe for all. You are challenged to find your own ways here, make it unique, make it yours. Good luck and EnJoy! 🥰

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The expats challenge - Dating

To be able to date in a healthy way as an expat in a new country, you first need to make sure that you do it under healthy circumstances. If you date because you feel lonely, this may have a risk, the risk of accepting people into your life which are not the best for you. Be careful. Before the phase of dating, try to question yourself: How would you build a social circle around things that you love to do in your life? What other kind of emotional and social connection could you create in order to build step by step a solid ground?

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