lets.evolve.cw

Children who have experienced trauma, experience a disconnection from themselves from the world. They learn that the world is harsh disregarding, and painful. They learn to protect themselves from others instead of connecting. These children need predictability, consistency, and most importantly, love to heal-- not more pain.

Defend Survivors

𝙎𝙖𝙛𝙚𝙩𝙮
Let young children feel their feelings, acknowledged, without judgment.

𝙈𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙗𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙩𝙚
Help them name their feelings.
Help them notice where in their bodies they feel different feelings.

𝙍𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥
Co-regulate; calm down with them when their feelings are too big for them.

💖 Richard Cohen

"The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice."
Peggy O’Mara
Focusing on the ways we speak to our little boys.
Society seems to have a problem with raising boys so that they retain the sensitivity they are ALL born with. Since so much of how we shape and bend our children comes from our warm physical nurturing and the communication we send them, maybe it is time to look at the ways in which we speak to our boys while they are working out what it is to BE a boy child. Remember, our looks at them, our comforting of them, our labels for them, our descriptions of them, our expectations of them … this is all the data they have to go on as they construct their own self image, their worth, and their place in the family and society.

Don’t ask your child to promise 💜

If your child is having a meltdown 🥺💜

This…💜

Welk gedrag van uw kind triggert u als ouder dermate dat u soms te extreem reageert? Waarom triggert dit u en hoe gaat u om met uw eigen gevoelens hierbij? 🤔