Dominion Singles & Married Academy - DSMA

19/09/2026

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO CURB THESE ALARMING DIVORCE RATES AMONG CAMEROONIAN COUPLES?

Effective preparation is key!

Marriage should not be treated as an event; it should be treated as a lifelong institution that requires preparation, knowledge, skills, maturity, and continuous investment.

In Cameroon, institutions such as Dominion Singles & Married Academy (DSMA) and other marriage and family organizations are working to equip Cameroonians with practical knowledge and skills for building healthy homes. Through marriage education, counseling, parenting education, and relationship training, we are seeing encouraging results.

However, the responsibility cannot rest on training institutions alone. Government, churches, families, educational institutions, and individuals all have a role to play.

1. Government should promote marriage preparation
Government can encourage or establish appropriate frameworks that make premarital education and counseling more accessible to couples preparing for marriage. Marriage preparation can help couples understand personality, communication, conflict resolution, finances, sexuality, parenting, family expectations, emotional maturity, and other issues that commonly affect marital relationships.

2. Churches should prepare couples intentionally
The Church has a significant role because many Cameroonians marry through religious institutions. Churches should go beyond simply conducting wedding ceremonies. They should provide structured and meaningful premarital preparation, and where possible, continue offering marital support after the wedding. A couple should not spend months preparing for the wedding ceremony while spending only a few hours preparing for the marriage itself. The Church should take into consideration the training of counselors in case the pastors are not trained on that.

3. Parents must become relationship educators
Parents also have an important responsibility. Parents should educate themselves about healthy relationships, marriage, effective parenting, emotional maturity, boundaries, communication, and family life so that they can guide their children wisely.

Sometimes parents put pressure on their children to marry because of age, culture, pregnancy, family expectations, or social status, even when the young person may not be adequately prepared for marriage.

We must stop preparing children merely to have weddings and start preparing them to build marriages.

4. Young people must take responsibility for their preparation.
Individuals preparing for marriage should not wait until problems arise before seeking help. They should intentionally learn about themselves, their prospective spouse, family systems, communication, conflict management, finances, sexuality, parenting, expectations, and the responsibilities of marriage. Prepare now or repair later in marriage. Note that the repairing part is more difficult that the preparatory part.

5. We need a culture of seeking help early.
Counseling should not be viewed only as something for couples whose marriages are already collapsing. Prevention is better than crisis intervention. Couples should be encouraged to seek qualified professional, pastoral, or appropriate community support when they begin experiencing serious challenges - not only when separation or divorce has become imminent.

At Dominion Singles & Married Academy (DSMA), our conviction is simple:
Healthy individuals build healthy marriages.
Healthy marriages build healthy families.
Healthy families contribute to healthy nations.

Therefore, if we want to address marital breakdown in Cameroon, we must invest in marriage education before the wedding, family education during marriage, and professional support when challenges arise.

The wedding may take one day but the marriage can last a lifetime.

Amos MBENBEN KEBEI
Marriage Counselor | Family System Practitioner | Therapist | Trainer | Coach | DSMA Founder / Promoter

19/09/2026

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Obande Delvis Josi, Ngerebara Awajimimin

19/09/2026

18/09/2026

The future of a nation is often decided around the dinner table, not in the boardroom.

This weekend, invest intentionally in your family. A few meaningful conversations today can create lasting impact for generations tomorrow.

As we enter the weekend, take a moment to strengthen what matters most.

✅ Listen without interrupting.

✅ Speak with honor and kindness.

✅ Pray together.

✅ Discuss the future of your family with purpose and clarity.

The strongest homes are not created on wedding days. They are built in ordinary moments, through consistent acts of love, communication, commitment, and understanding.

At Dominion Singles and Married Academy (DSMA), we believe that healthy families begin with informed, emotionally intelligent, and purpose-driven individuals.

Through marriage education, premarital preparation, counseling, and family life training, we continue to equip singles, engaged couples, married couples, and family leaders to build relationships that thrive.

Whether you are single, engaged, married, or serving families through ministry, this is the season to prepare, learn, and grow.

Because when families become stronger, society becomes stronger.

Rev. Amos Mbenben Kebei

Founder & Provost, Dominion Singles and Married Academy (DSMA)

Ancient Sonel, Mimboman, Yaoundé

18/09/2026

Happy Birthday, Coach Abong Shallot!

You are truly a blessing to us in DSMA. From being our 2025 Valedictorian to becoming a Facilitator and Coach, your journey is a beautiful testimony of growth, commitment, and impact.

Thank you for your passion and hunger to see individuals, marriages, and families transformed. We are grateful for the way you are using what you have learned to bless others.

As you celebrate another year of life, my prayer for you is that God will continue to strengthen you, enlarge your impact, and give you greater joy in your calling.

Above all, may you enjoy a beautiful, fulfilling, and ever-growing relationship with your husband and children. May your home be filled with love, peace, unity, and laughter.

Happy Birthday, Coach Shallot!

Bronte Shallot

18/09/2026

PRACTICAL FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION MODEL
The S.A.F.E. FAMILY MODEL

S — SEE: Recognize the Warning Signs
Learn to identify signs of family violence, including physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, financial, and coercive abuse. Pay attention to injuries, fear, threats, intimidation, isolation, controlling behavior, and repeated patterns of harm.

A — ASSESS: Determine the Level of Danger
Assess the seriousness and immediacy of the situation. Consider the nature and frequency of the violence, threats, weapons, escalating behavior, vulnerable family members, and the family's relational dynamics.

F — FACILITATE HELP: Connect to Appropriate Support
Do not handle serious violence alone. Connect those affected with appropriate professional, medical, legal, child-protection, community, and spiritual support, according to the situation and local laws.

E — ESTABLISH SAFETY: Create a Practical Protection Plan
Develop a realistic safety plan. This may include identifying safe places, trusted contacts, emergency numbers, transportation, important documents, medical care, and appropriate steps for protecting children and other vulnerable family members.

THE CORE PRINCIPLE
SEE the problem.
ASSESS the danger.
FACILITATE appropriate help.
ESTABLISH safety.

The S.A.F.E. Family Model helps counselors avoid two dangerous extremes:

Do not ignore abuse and do not attempt ordinary couples counseling in a situation where violence or immediate danger has not been adequately addressed.

Counseling should never become a substitute for protection. Where there is immediate danger, the first priority is safety and appropriate emergency intervention, not reconciliation.

17/09/2026

“In a healthy relationship, couples should be able to discuss sexual matters honestly and respectfully, without shame, comparison, or pressure.”

17/09/2026

16/09/2026

THE ROLE OF DOMINION SINGLES & MARRIED ACADEMY IN FIGHTING FEMICIDE IN CAMEROON

The fight against femicide in Cameroon cannot begin only after a woman has been killed. It must begin with education, awareness, counseling, prevention, and early intervention. This is where Dominion Singles & Married Academy (DSMA) has an important role to play.

Knowledge can save lives. Many dangerous relationships begin with behaviours that are wrongly interpreted as love - extreme jealousy, possessiveness, controlling behaviour, intimidation, stalking, threats, and emotional or physical abuse. DSMA has been educating singles and married couples to recognize these warning signs before they escalate into tragedy.

DSMA is also helping men understand that masculinity is not domination, leadership is not control, and strength is not violence. Men must be equipped with emotional intelligence, healthy communication, conflict-resolution skills, self-control, respect for boundaries, and healthy ways of handling rejection, disappointment, and marital conflict.

Through marriage and family counseling, DSMA has encourage couples to seek help before problems become destructive. Communication breakdown, anger, jealousy, infidelity, emotional wounds, financial conflicts, and family pressures should be addressed early rather than allowed to grow into resentment and violence.

The fight against femicide must also involve families and churches. Parents, pastors, counselors, friends, and community leaders need to know when a situation has moved beyond an ordinary marital disagreement and someone may be in danger. We must be careful when we keep telling victims simply to "endure," "submit," or "keep the marriage" when their safety is at risk.

DSMA has contributed by training Marriage Counselors, Family Coaches, Parenting Coaches, Teen Development Coaches, pastors, and community leaders to recognize abuse, respond responsibly, and make appropriate referrals when professional, medical, legal, or protective intervention is required.

Our goal is not simply be to respond to violence after it happens. Our goal must be prevention. The battle against femicide should begin before the wedding, in marriage education, in parenting, in our churches, in our schools, and in the way we raise boys and girls.

At DSMA, we believe:
A healthy individual produces a healthy marriage.
A healthy marriage produces a healthy family.
A healthy family produces a healthy nation.
Therefore, fighting femicide is also part of building healthy families and a safer Cameroon.

We there encourage each stakeholder to consider sponsorsing a male youth into DSMA. This will prevent some crises in the future.

DOMINION SINGLES & MARRIED ACADEMY
Building Healthy Families for a Healthy Nation.

Amos MBENBEN KEBEI
Marriage / Family Counselor / Coach / Therapist