07/09/2026
๐ผ๐๐๐๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ผ๐ ๐พ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐: ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐๐๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ผ๐๐๐ฟ
Why is there such a disturbing surge in ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ก ๐๐๐ช๐จ๐, ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐๐, and ๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐ง๐ข๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ซ๐๐ค๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค๐๐๐ฎ?
Why would a man or woman insult, neglect, deceive, beat, abuse, or even ๐ ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ซ๐๐ง๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐จ๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฎ ๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ก๐ค๐ซ๐?
Perhaps we need to look beyond the wedding ceremony and examine the foundation upon which people enter marriage.
"๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐ค๐ฎ๐๐, ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ช๐จ ๐๐ค?" โ Psalm 11:3
Some people married on a ๐๐ง๐ค๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ.
Others ๐๐๐๐ฃ'๐ฉ ๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐ฉ ๐๐ก๐ก.
The ability to provide for a ๐๐ค๐ข๐,
the possession of secondary ๐จ๐๐ญ๐ช๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐จ,
physical ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ,
financial ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฎ,
or the appearance of ๐ข๐๐ฉ๐ช๐ง๐๐ฉ๐ฎ
can create a ๐๐๐ก๐จ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ง๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ that someone is ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ก๐๐๐๐๐ and ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐.
But being biologically mature is not the same as being ๐ง๐๐ก๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐ข๐๐ฉ๐ช๐ง๐.
Being ๐จ๐๐ญ๐ช๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ก๐ is not the same as being ๐๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐.
Being able to ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ซ๐๐๐ ๐ข๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ฎ is not the same as being able to ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ซ๐๐๐ ๐จ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐ฎ.
And being ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ is certainly not the same as being ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ช๐๐ก๐ ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข.
Think about it.
How on earth would you dream of becoming a ๐จ๐ช๐ง๐๐๐ค๐ฃ, ๐จ๐ช๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ก๐ฎ ๐ค๐ฅ๐๐ฃ ๐๐ฃ ๐ค๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐ง๐, and start inviting patients to the operating table ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ค๐ช๐๐ ๐ข๐๐๐๐๐๐ก ๐จ๐๐๐ค๐ค๐ก,
๐ฉ๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ฃ๐,
๐๐ญ๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ,
๐จ๐ช๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ซ๐๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ,
๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐๐ง๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ?
You may have the dream.
You may even have the passion.
But ๐ฅ๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐๐ค๐๐จ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ก๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ค๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐.
What preparation did you receive?
๐๐๐ฃ๐ฎ ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฅ๐ก๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ก๐๐ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐จ๐ช๐ง๐๐๐ค๐ฃ.
They dream of marriage; ๐ometimes a great marriage, but receive little or no preparation for it.
Worse still, some meet each other and immediately begin consuming in the bedroom what they have not yet been authorized to build in covenant.
๐๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐ก๐ก๐ช๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ฃ ๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ซ๐๐ก๐ค๐ฅ๐๐.
And when people enter marriage without the necessary preparation, sooner or later they discover that ๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ช๐ฅ.
Then something begins to manifest.
The ๐๐ฃ๐๐ข๐๐ก ๐๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ช๐ข๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐จ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐จ๐ช๐ง๐๐๐๐.
No ๐ฌ๐๐จ๐๐ค๐ข, only ๐๐ฃ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐๐ฉ.
No ๐จ๐๐ก๐-๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ฉ๐ง๐ค๐ก, only ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ.
No ๐ฅ๐๐ฉ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐, only ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ.
No ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ค๐ ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐ฆ๐ช๐๐ฃ๐๐๐จ.
Just like an ๐ช๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐ข๐๐ก, the person acts according to ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ช๐ก๐จ๐ rather than ๐ฌ๐๐จ๐๐ค๐ข.
And sometimes the result is ๐๐๐ซ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐.
๐ผ๐๐ช๐จ๐.
๐๐๐ค๐ก๐๐ฃ๐๐.
๐ฟ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ.
๐๐ค๐ข๐๐๐๐๐.
๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐๐.
This is why marriage preparation must go deeper than learning how to ๐ฅ๐ก๐๐ฃ ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐, ๐ข๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ ๐ข๐ค๐ฃ๐๐ฎ, or ๐จ๐๐ฉ๐๐จ๐๐ฎ ๐ค๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ๐๐๐ง ๐จ๐๐ญ๐ช๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ.
There must be ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ง ๐๐ค๐ง๐ข๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ.
There must be ๐๐ง๐ค๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ฃ๐๐จ๐จ.
There must be ๐จ๐ช๐๐ข๐๐จ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฃ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐๐ค๐.
There must be ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐ of the ๐จ๐ค๐ช๐ก.
Jeremiah 18:1โ6 gives us the picture of the ๐ฅ๐ค๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง and the ๐๐ก๐๐ฎ.
Until a person allows God to work on them, reshape them, correct them, and break what needs to be broken, ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐ฃ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ข๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐ค๐ง๐ข ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข.
๐๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐ฉ๐๐ฃ ๐ง๐๐ซ๐๐๐ก๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐๐จ ๐๐ก๐ง๐๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐๐.
An ๐ช๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ will not merely ๐ง๐๐๐ช๐จ๐
to ๐ข๐ค๐ซ๐.
It can attack the very person attempting to ride it.
So before you ask:
"๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐ข๐๐ฃ?"
or
"๐๐๐ซ๐ ๐ ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฃ?"
perhaps ask:
"Have I become the right person?"
Have you gone through the ๐๐ค๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง'๐จ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ before entering marriage?
Do you fear God's voice?
Can you receive correction without becoming defensive?
Do you respect your partner?
Do you honor your partner's family?
Can you forgive an offense?
Can you control your anger?
Can you apologize sincerely?
Can you tell the truth when the truth is uncomfortable?
Do you hide things, manipulate situations, justify your wrongs, or become angry whenever someone corrects you?
Can you submit your desires to God's will?
Can you disagree without becoming destructive?
Can you exercise power without abusing it?
Can you love someone even when you don't get your way?
If the answer to these questions is ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐,
perhaps the problem is not that you have found the wrong spouse.
Perhaps you have ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ง๐ ๐๐ก๐ก๐ค๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฅ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐ค๐ง ๐๐ฉ.
Marriage is not a ๐ฏ๐ค๐ค ๐ฌ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ฌ๐ค ๐ช๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐ข๐๐ก๐จ are placed together and expected to behave because they ๐๐ญ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ ๐ซ๐ค๐ฌ๐จ.
Marriage requires two people who are ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ฃ๐ช๐๐ก๐ก๐ฎ ๐๐ก๐ก๐ค๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ค๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐, ๐ฉ๐ง๐๐ฃ๐จ๐๐ค๐ง๐ข, and ๐ข๐๐ฉ๐ช๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข.
The wedding can put a ring on your finger.
Only character can make you safe to live with.
And before we ask why there are "๐๐ฃ๐๐ข๐๐ก๐จ ๐๐ฃ ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐๐จ," perhaps we should ask a more uncomfortable question:
๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐๐ง ๐ฉ๐ง๐ช๐ก๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฎ ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐?
๐๐ค ๐๐๐ซ๐ค๐๐๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐ก ๐จ๐ฉ๐ค๐ฅ ๐๐๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ช๐ฉ ๐ฅ๐ง๐ค๐ฅ๐๐ง ๐๐ง๐ค๐ ๐๐ฃ๐ฃ๐๐จ๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ฉ ๐๐ค๐ข๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ค๐ช๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐ฃ๐.
๐ฝ๐๐๐ค๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐ง๐ช๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐จ๐๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐๐จ ๐ค๐ง ๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐ค ๐ข๐๐ง๐ง๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐/๐จ๐๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐๐๐ก๐.
๐ฟ๐ง./๐ฟ๐ง. ๐๐ง๐จ. ๐พ๐ง๐ฎ๐จ๐๐ฃ๐ฉ๐ช๐จ ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ฎ๐๐ค๐ซ๐ ๐๐ฏ๐ค๐ข๐๐ฉ๐๐
๐๐ค๐ช๐ฃ๐๐๐ง๐จ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ซ๐๐ก๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ค๐ก ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ง๐ง๐๐๐๐
