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The Self, Part 7: SELFISHNESS. Always wrong? Or can it be a form of self-preservation?

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MANY EXPERTS ADVISE US TO “FIND OURSELVES.”

But the philosopher Thomas Szasz and the writer George Bernard Shaw both say,

“The self is not something one finds: it is something one creates.”

The Self Part 1: Do You Find Yourself or Create it? AND WHY BOTHER ANYWAY?

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This is something we work on in the Cycle Breakers program —
learning to tell the difference between misalignment and actual harm.

Harm is absolutely real and it happens a lot.
And I find that many people interpret misalignment as harm —
they take it deeply personally when someone can't meet them where they want to be met.
And while it's true that misalignment and harm can overlap at times,
it's also true that someone not being in the same space as you isn't inherently harmful or offensive, and it doesn't necessarily make either of you "wrong."

You might be in different places with different needs, maturity levels, perspectives, or feelings about something significant.
And that's not inherently bad —
but in order to tolerate misalignment, we have to have a respectful connection with ourselves.
We have to have the self awareness to be present to our own feelings, needs, wants, and desires, and to be in touch with our own boundaries.

And when we do so, we can encounter misalignment and recognize what's happening is that we're not in the same place —
and use that information to help us move forward.
Sometimes together, respecting differences.
Sometimes separately when we realize the gap is too large.
This can be quite painful at times, but it's what differentiated, emotionally mature adults become increasingly capable of over time.

This is a complex topic, but one that can be incredibly helpful when we stop interpreting difference as harm (which often happens when we're raised in codependent systems).
If this is something you're working on, the 12 month Cycle Breakers program begins January 21.
Space is limited!
https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers

Do they know they are abusive? Yes. They believe they are justified because they are entitled to control. This lost feels endless. It gets worse and worse. Abusive men are men who believe they are entitled to dominance and they are misogynists. They know when to be kind and when they can be abusive and nothing will stop them without systemic change and consequences that hold them accountable from law makers. #traumabond#abusiverelationship #narcissist