Dar Archibald - Practical Living and Crisis Coach

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Update:
I am plugging along. It’s a good thing I’m firmly set on healthy living.
Being a Traditional Birth Attendant and growing up on and next to a farm informs me greatly.
I believe everything that happens to me is for my growth and development and helps me to be compassionate to others.

It did occur to me that if I died what good would having that compassion be?

So I’ll do what I can with informed consent and support from my natural healing group as well as the suggestions of my oncologist who I do like and so does my husband.

These are probably good for everyone to know. If you visit someone and they use some of these techniques now you know why. ❤️☺️❤️

Second thought of the day:

Taking Acting Lessons is probably one of the best gifts you can give yourself and/or your children.

Many times in my life I’ve been given a whole new role to play.

A young girl in love with someone who would play a supportive role most of my life

A driver of cars, trucks and whatever

Injured person who needed to learn to walk and use the toilet newly.

New mum dealing with a child with severe allergies so ate no sugar or carbs for close to 2 years.

A grief stricken young mum whose brother just died in a car accident. So was totally surprise.

A woman having a homebirth with opposition from family who eventually said it was the best thing ever

A grieving widow who lost her children’s father by his own hand.

A newly wed who eloped

And a mother of teenagers.

A foster mum.

And now what is this role I’m in?

I use a wheelchair to get around my house. Learning new ways to cook by giving directions to a fast learning husband.

Why acting classes are great. Each time I find myself having a very different life I just take it on like a movie role. I do my best at my present role. I still cry but it’s usually “in character”. 😜

Well all this waiting is a strange space to be in.
I’m drinking lots of herbal teas. Accepting all the love and good vibes offered from people.
Watching my hubby learn homesteading skills. Just puttin’ along.

Nobody talks about the guilt the person being cared for carries. My son said to me the other day, Mom I’m really sorry you have to do this for me every single day and it broke my heart inside.

People talk a lot about caregiver burnout, but rarely about the emotional weight on the one being cared for. The awareness that someone else’s body, time, and life are wrapped around theirs. He didn’t say it out of pity, but from a place of love, sadness, and understanding.

Caregiving is not one sided. It’s emotional on both ends. There is exhaustion in giving care, and there is guilt in needing it. Both sides may stay quiet to protect each other. If you are a caregiver or someone who receives care, you know this feeling even if you have never said it out loud.

Interesting. It really does matter what kind of education and focus means to your results.

I put together this comparison of police training in Canada versus the United States, and the differences are eye-opening.

We often hear that the approaches are different, but seeing the data side-by-side really highlights the gap. It's not just about individual officers, it's about how the entire systems are built.

Here's a quick look at what these metrics actually mean:

Training Time & Focus: Canadian recruits train much longer. A huge part of this is the mandatory six-month "coaching" phase where they work with a senior partner before ever patrolling alone (Source: RCMP Cadet Training Program). Canadian training also mandates de-escalation—using communication first—as a national standard (Source: Canadian Police College).

The Academy Model: In Canada, you are usually hired first, vetted, and then sent to a central academy at the agency’s expense (Source: Council of Canadian Academies). In many US states, recruits have to pay for their own basic training certificate at a local college just to apply for a job. This lowers the barrier to entry significantly (Source: Police Executive Research Forum).

Consistency vs. Fragmentation: This is a big one. Canada has national standards across only about 220 agencies (Source: Statistics Canada). The US has a staggering 18,000 different departments. Half of them have fewer than ten officers (Source: Bureau of Justice Statistics). It's incredibly difficult to maintain high training standards across that many small, independent groups.

Accountability: When a serious incident happens in Canada, independent civilian teams handle the investigation (Source: Canadian Civil Liberties Association). In the US, legal doctrines like "qualified immunity" often protect officers from being sued in civil court (Source: National Police Accountability Project).

The Bottom Line: Different inputs lead to different outcomes. The Canadian model prioritizes higher education, centralized standards, and de-escalation. The data shows this leads to lower rates of lethal force and higher public trust.

Still waiting on results from my biopsy.
The pain goes from the worst I’ve ever had in my life to mildly manageable.
The Occupational Therapist was here today. A lovely young woman. I’m going to try some physical supports.
Even my doctor is onboard with calling the mass my little passenger.
Life is good having family around. And not worrying about something I
a. Can’t do anything about.
b. Don’t know what I’m dealing with
c. Have faith I will be given the guidance I need for the best outcome.

I’m going to take a moment to talk about acts of service.
You can be forgiven for anything you provide as an act of service.
One of the most important things is to be generous and allow the person requesting help to feel heard.
It’s really hard to ask for help. To the point people (such as myself) will try to do things themselves and possibly hurt themselves in the process.
On the flip side as the person needing help can acknowledge any help they get and also to recognize it’s sometimes harder for the person looking on than it is being the injured party.

It all sounded better in my head. lol.

Had the call with the doctor. No results yet. Which is actually a welcome relief.
I am looking up things like what slows waste production of tumors?
My kidneys are no super happy with what the little guy produces. I’m not thrilled with the pain.
I made an appt with my awesome chiropractor for tomorrow hoping to reduce the need for pain medications.

I read a book about Dr Bernard Jensen who wrote the book tissue cleansing through bowel management. And that is one of the reasons my pain meds are limited. Codeine although great for cough suppression is constipating. Coughing really hurts. So it’s a toss up how to use what’s helpful without making other symptoms worse.

Nothing I’m taking is inert. And being aware of what things do and how that works with my body is paramount. I have a wonderful healing team I am working with to help me navigate all this.

This is my snack. Persimmons and locally grown celery.

We are calling this mass attached to my pelvic bone “the little guy”. I’m not mad at it, I don’t hate it either. Everything gives me information. The little guy did do his job I think.
I’ll tell more about that later. And if his job is done it’s time for it to go.

I also asked for the images of my CT scan. The doctor said “we just get the reports”

I said I’m really not interested in someone else’s interpretation of what’s there. I’d like to see for myself.

I didn’t really know about all this stuff and I’m a pretty fast learner. Real life experience is so much more informative than any book learning.

The other thing Dr Bernard Jensen did was overcome stage 4 metastisized bone cancer using complementary medicine. After his friend Micheal O’Brien challenged him to prove that it could and would work And it did!!

Thanks for listening. ☺️☺️

Dealing with health issues is a test of my resolve. I’m strangely calm. Taking painkillers on a pretty strict schedule. Waiting for biopsy results. What to do?

Well nothing is really happening now. And the thought of “this is what life looks like when it’s working.”

Now I wait for test results to figure out what’s next.