10/07/2026
Thanksgiving is a good example of what I call a maintenance ritual.
Maintenance rituals help strengthen what is already there. They bring people together, reinforce connection, and help build the community structures we can lean on when life becomes difficult.
Birthday parties can do this too. So can annual holidays, solstice gatherings, and other rituals we return to again and again.
Transformative rituals have a different job.
They help mark the movement from one state to another: an initiation, a healing process, a death, a major transition.
One kind of ritual helps us deepen and strengthen what already exists.
The other helps us move through change.
Understanding that distinction can change the way we think about ritual, especially around death and grief.