ms.carmen.w

You can’t pour in confidence through likes. Here’s what I’ve learned 👇

1. When I first started getting attention online, the likes felt good.
2. Then I started letting it define how I felt about myself.
3. It made posting on social media feel like an emotional rollercoaster. I needed to learn tools to help myself with this.
4. When I started journaling (especially with AI) it helped me notice patterns that I missed.
5. Lastly, you can’t fix what you don’t notice. Download my free AI journaling guide to help you notice your thoughts so you can do something about them.

Download it here: https://colossal-artist-7049.kit.com/31a5e1a731

P.S. If we haven’t met, I’m Carmen, and I create tools to help high-achieving creatives who feel stuck rebuild confidence and self-trust so they can reach their goals.

Also, if you’re wondering why I’m drinking water like this, there were no more cups left 🤭😂

My biggest regrets 💔

If we haven’t met, I’m Carmen, and I create tools to help high-achieving creatives who feel stuck rebuild confidence and self-trust so they can reach their goals.

If that feels like you, follow me for practical frameworks, reflection prompts, and real-life lessons.

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How to communicate feelings assertively 👇

These tips are summarized from Julie Smith’s Open When book:

1. Be neutral and stick to the facts so the other person is less likely to get defensive.
2. Talk about the specific behavior and how it made you feel without attacking their character or generalizing.
Use framework: When you do X it makes me feel Y
3. When saying no, be direct and clear instead of hinting or softening it too much.
4. If they respond well, acknowledge it and show appreciation.
5. If they push back or disrespect your boundary, stay calm and repeat your point.
6. Your tone and body language matter, so speak firmly and confidently without getting aggressive.
7. Only agree to a compromise if it genuinely works for both of you and won’t leave you resentful.

If we haven’t met, I’m Carmen, and I create tools to help high-achieving creatives who feel stuck rebuild confidence and self-trust so they can reach their goals.

If that feels like you, follow me for practical frameworks, reflection prompts, and real-life lessons.

Confession (& why I do what I do)

If we haven’t met, I’m Carmen, and I create tools to help high-achieving creatives who feel stuck rebuild confidence and self-trust so they can reach their goals.

If that feels like you, follow me for practical frameworks, reflection prompts, and real-life lessons.

The tea 👇

June 2025 I won a contest to go to LA (shoutout to PTYA community & who hosted the contest) which included going to Vidcon and a dinner where I got to meet some of my favourite youtubers. I wasn’t in a good place with myself as I had quit my job at that point to pursue being a content creator full time and it didn’t feel that it was going that well. I was navigating all the emotions of quitting my job and I wasn’t in a space where I wanted to be around people BUT I made myself do it because it was such an amazing opportunity and I’m glad I did.

It taught me so much about myself as I learnt that I could navigate uncertainty and what felt like chaos to me for having to leave so quickly (I applied on the Saturday and following Monday found out I won then by Thursday I was on a plane to LA). I also was SOO proud of myself for going outside of my comfort zone including collabing with a photographer in OC Cali (shoutout to !).

Lastly, if we haven’t met, I’m Carmen, and I create tools to help high-achieving creatives who feel stuck rebuild confidence and self-trust so they can reach their goals.

If that feels like you, follow me for practical frameworks, reflection prompts, and real-life lessons.

Instructions 👇

Step 1

Paste this into ChatGPT (I prefer Claude):
Use Guided Imagery Technique to help me figure out the question of who I need to become to be the person that reaches my goals. First lay out the questions for guided imagery then ask me them one at a time. The end point is when I have fully painted a picture of my future self.

Step 2
You should get something like this as your first response:

# # Guided Imagery Roadmap

We will move through 6 layers:

1. Environment – Where are you? What does your life physically look like?
2. Identity – Who are you being? How do you move, think, decide?
3. Emotional Baseline – What feelings are normal for you now?
4. Standards & Boundaries – What do you tolerate? What do you no longer tolerate?
5. Habits & Actions – What do you do daily that current-you avoids or resists?
6. Self-Relationship – How do you treat yourself when you fail, doubt, or feel scared?

We end when your future self feels real enough that you could write her a biography.

Step 3
Go through all of the questions and answer them. It should give you insane results if it works the way I intend it to!

Step 4
Put this prompt in at the end: Tell me a story of a day in the life as my future self based off everything we have discussed so far

👉 Let me know if this worked and if it did share this with someone that you think would help!

That’s a lesson that I had to learn over and over again on this journey, and it’s why I am choosing to share the tools that I build for myself with you.

If we haven’t met, I’m Carmen, and I create tools to help high-achieving creatives who feel stuck rebuild confidence and self-trust so they can reach their goals.

If that feels like you, follow me for practical frameworks, reflection prompts, and real-life lessons.

Step 1:

Paste this into ChatGPT (I prefer Claude):
Use Guided Imagery Technique to help me figure out the question of who I need to become to be the person that reaches my goals. First lay out the questions for guided imagery then ask me them one at a time. The end point is when I have fully painted a picture of my future self.

Step 2:
You should get something like this as your first response (this is from Claude):

Let me lay out the full framework first so you know what you’re walking into — then we’ll go one question at a time.

The Guided Imagery Journey: “Meeting Your Future Self”

This has 5 stages. Each stage builds on the last. By the end, you won’t just have a vague vision — you’ll have a *specific identity blueprint*.

Stage 1: The Setting — Where does she live? What does her environment feel like?

Stage 2: The Body — How does she carry herself? What does her physical presence communicate?

Stage 3: The Inner World — What does she believe about herself that you currently don’t? What’s gone quiet that used to be loud?

Stage 4: The Work — How does she create? How does she make decisions? How does she relate to money and visibility?

Stage 5: The Relationships — Who surrounds her? How does she show up for others? What has she let go of?

There are no wrong answers. Don’t think — *see*. Resist the urge to make it “realistic.” That’s the old you talking.

Let’s begin.

Close your eyes for a moment. Take three slow breaths. Then open them.

You’re going to step into a scene 5 years from now. She’s living the life. She made it real.

Stage 1, Question 1:

When you arrive at where she lives — what’s the first thing you see, hear, or feel? Describe it like you’re walking in through the front door.

Step 3:
Go through all of the questions and answer them. It should give you insane results if it works the way I intend it to!

👉 Let me know if this worked and if it did share this with someone that you think would help!

Freebie: https://colossal-artist-7049.kit.com/31a5e1a731 Claude's analysis got a lot of things right but wasn't 100% spot-on (no AI is). I don't agree with every interpretation. This prompt isn't meant for therapy or diagnosis. It’s a tool for spotting blind spots in your own reflections, or helping you get those "aha" moments you might miss. Nerd notes on how this prompt can help with perfectionism (from Perplexity) 🤓:Studies show reflective journaling reduces maladaptive perfectionism by 20-30% in high-achievers by enhancing self-compassion and goal flexibility.