Heal Psychotherapy

The story in your head is not exactly the story of your truth; it’s often an internalized narrative from years of abuse.

Our brains are shaped by our environments, our sensory pathways, and the meaning we make from both. Over time, this becomes a kind of internal map that forms neurobiological (not by conscious effort). It forms a set of beliefs about who we are, how to interact with others, and how the world works. But those felt perceptions (or vibes) and views were often formed when our brains were still developing, doing their best to make sense of experiences by internalizing blame to support a sense of control (changing the sense of self).

When we begin to heal, we start to regain agency, boundaries, a sense of who we are. This is where our old self/other/world stories begins to change.

Healing is the process of gently untangling that story.

It’s learning to separate what happened “to us,”from identifying with it “as us.” Restructuring an identity story does NOT start with cognition, especially if the abuse was chronic or of many types.

In my research, experience, and clinical work, it is clear that healing often begins with the brain and the body—through neurofeedback, deep brain reorienting, and making sense of our lived experience. From there, it expands into reconnecting with safe communities, discovering who we are within them, and continuing to grow into something greater than ourselves, such as faith and/or spirituality.

You are not alone in this process. And the story you’ve been telling yourself? It can change.

Always rooting for each of you 🙏
God bless!
Lucie

Processing trauma requires us to activate it and follow a particular neurobiological sequence. This sequence is naturally experienced and supported by a skilled Therapist during your session!

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Three models of addiction:

• Disease model: Addiction is a chronic brain condition—relapse reflects changes in brain circuitry, not a lack of willpower.

• Self-medicating model: Substances are used to soothe pain, trauma, or overwhelm—addiction makes sense as an attempt to cope.

• Choice model: Addiction involves repeated choices shaped by habits, environment, and consequences—agency can be strengthened over time.

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Complex PTSD is a disorder of the self! It is a neurobiological redirection of selfhood from the reflective present self to the physiological re-experiencing of the old self. It is about what had to happen to your sense of self in order to survive.

When relational trauma is chronic—especially in childhood—the nervous system learns to fear what it most desires, connection. That means disconnecting from the sense of self, the body, and others. Instead, a “false self” prevails. This is a vigilant, strategized self that can look like people-pleasing, shutting down, or seeking opportunities to have power over others.

The research is clear: Complex PTSD is a disorder of the self, not a character flaw, not a weakness, not a lack of resilience. Your identity adapts to danger. Your system did not have a slew of choices; it needed to choose survival over authenticity.

Interestingly, the ability to adapt makes you a strong candidate for “fitness,” this is an evolutionary term that comes from “survival of the fittest.” If you couldn’t adapt, you’d go extinct. Now that you have adapted to the threat, your new challenge is to adapt to safety!

You do not need to be “fixed;” from an evolutionary lens, you are part of the resilient survivors since you were adaptable. The new challenge is about restoring your autobiographical narrative, agency, and coherence—so the real you can come back online.

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We don’t actually feel seen through words — we feel seen through “states.”

Connection happens right brain to right brain.
Specifically, through tone, pacing, presence, eyes, nervous systems meeting.

If one person is analyzing, explaining, fixing whereas the other is feeling, sensing, needing, they miss each other, even with good intentions.

Hence, being a better partner isn’t about “saying” the right thing, it’s about “being” in the same state.

And being a better person starts with noticing:
What part of my brain am I leading from right now? And what does this moment actually need?

That’s how we feel seen.
That’s how we learn to see ourselves.

Think of Neurofeedback as the tool that reconnects your sense of self. This is what helps you “reflect” (from the present) instead of “reexperiencing” the past in the present. After neurofeedback treatment, so much meaning needs to be made to solidify identity, such as “who am I now that I don’t stay stuck in the past?” “What is important to me now?” “How do I make sense of the past from this state?” “What is an authentic path for my future,” etc..

Depending on the type of trauma (PTSD-related Moral Injury, complex trauma, acute trauma, etc.), the way we process after neurofeedback differs. However, the methods at are all neurobiological informed to ensure the most effective results!

Have you tried neurofeedback? Have any questions? I can talk about this for days… comment or DM us :)

Prolonged trauma changes the brain’s sense of self — particularly the default mode network, which is responsible for identity, self-reflection, and feeling like you are you. When trauma persists, this network can become fragmented or over-constrained, making it hard to access authenticity, ease, or internal coherence.

Neurofeedback works by gently shifting brainwave patterns and improving functional connectivity — helping the brain re-establish a more stable, integrated sense of self.

Often (not always, but often), within around 20 sessions, people begin to feel more like themselves — less braced, less fragmented, more embodied and internally organized. Not because trauma is “processed,” but because the nervous system has more capacity and flexibility.

There are different types, and they each support the brain in different ways:

🧠 Traditional Neurofeedback
Helps the brain learn more regulated patterns over time — supporting focus, emotional stability, and resilience.

🌊 ILF (Infra-Low Frequency) Neurofeedback
Works at a very deep regulatory level and is especially helpful for complex and developmental trauma. It supports safety, attachment, and autonomic balance beneath conscious awareness.

⚡ LENS Neurofeedback
Uses a very gentle signal to help interrupt long-held, stuck patterns — often useful when the system feels frozen or overloaded.

Different nervous systems need different approaches at different times.
Neurofeedback isn’t instead of therapy — it’s often what allows therapy to finally land.

When the brain feels safer, the self can come back online.