Ashley Marie Vincent

One thing about behaviour in the early years is that it never stays small,

It grows 🌱

Have you ever noticed how quickly something can come up,

Whether it's something they copied from a sibling or friend or figured out on their own... 🫠

I've seen this again and again, without fail

A new behaviour suddenly shows up,
and just as quickly, it spreads

because they’re always learning.

And it doesn't stop there

Because here’s the pattern that their brain picks up on:

If a behavior works once,
they’ll try it again.

If it works occasionally,
they’ll intensify it…

And they'll persist 🥲

Until it works consistently.

That’s how children learn what’s effective.

And this is where we, as parents, have to be intentional.

Not reactive.
Not inconsistent.

But clear 💛

Because what we allow quickly becomes normal

But our children are looking to us for leadership, guidance, and instruction.

And what we nurture,
will grow 💛

So parenting in the early years is about guiding with:
→ clarity
→ consistency
→ love

Using everyday moments to shape behavior
and nurture the fruit of the Spirit in our children—

and in ourselves ❤️‍🔥

Save this as a reminder for your daily moments 💛

Parenting in the early years can feel overwhelming 💛

The constant correction.
The big emotions.
The exhaustion that no one really prepares you for.

It’s the season where everything is being built.

Your child is learning how to respond, how to communicate, and how to navigate the world

and they are looking to you for leadership.

Even when it feels hard…
even when it feels repetitive…
even when you feel tired,

✨ Your consistency matters
✨ Your presence matters
✨ Your leadership matters

This is not just a phase to get through.

It’s a foundation that will shape your child for the life they're growing in to 💛

If you’re ready for more clarity and confidence in your parenting, I created a simple, biblical framework to help you lead with peace and intention.

✨ Comment “guide” and I’ll send it to you ✨

We always love a good party 🥳🥳😜

For every special occasion you will always find us doing something special.... because these moments matter 💛 and they are worth celebrating!!

This week we got to bake cupcakes and jump in the ball pit and search for cute animals and just have lots of fun together 💝🥳

How great is our God!!!

Understanding the love of God changes everything 💛 especially how we parent 🌱

When we truly know His love, we stop parenting from pressure, frustration, or fear… and begin leading from a place of peace, clarity, and confidence.

God’s love is not passive
It is not permissive
It is both deeply tender and perfectly intentional.

He comforts, but He also corrects.
He is patient, but He is clear.
He leads with love

and He calls us to do the same.

In the early years, this matters so much.

Our children don’t just need affection…
They need guidance.
They need leadership rooted in love.

When we are grounded in God’s love:
✨ We don’t react, we respond
✨ We don’t back off, we lead
✨ We don’t control, we guide with clarity

This is where true peace in the home begins.

If you’re ready to parent from this place, with both love and leadership,
comment “guide” and I’ll send you the ebook to get you started 💛

If correcting your child makes you feel guilty… you’re not alone

So many loving parents hesitate in the early years.
We don’t want to be harsh.
We can be easily swayed by their emotions.
We avoid the anticipated resistance.
And sometimes, we're just tired 🙃

So, we let it slide.

But Scripture reminds us 💛

“For the Lord disciplines the one He loves.” (Hebrews 12:6)

God’s love comforts us, and it also shapes us.
It guides us forward.
It teaches us what is right.

It corrects us 💛

And in the same way, biblical parenting is not passive.

In the early years (0–6), children are forming their understanding of authority, obedience, and boundaries.
When leadership is unclear during this sensitive period, children don’t feel free, they are left with confusion and uncertainty.

Letting it slide may feel loving in the moment.
But it is our loving leadership builds long-term security.

Correction done calmly and consistently is not rejection.
It is protection 💛
It is formation 🌱

True love leads.

If this resonates with you:

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We often confuse love with making life easy, especially when it comes to parenting 💛

And I get it, children are persuasive 😄😜

The tears, the drama, the strong will and endless desires and big, big emotions. It's no joke 🤭

So we soften consequences.
We delay correction.
We explain again and again hoping our children will simply “understand.”

Because we love them.

But when you look at the love of God, you see something deeper 🙏🙏

“The Lord disciplines the one He loves.” (Hebrews 12:6)

God’s love comforts us in our weakness,
but it doesn’t leave us there.

It guides us and corrects us and shapes us into who we are meant to become 💛

And in the same way, biblical parenting is not just about comforting our children or managing their emotions.

It’s about formation 🌱

It’s about loving leadership in the early years —
consistent boundaries, steady correction, intentional guidance.

Like if a toddler reaches for the stove while dinner is cooking;
You don’t gently negotiate, you move their hand and say “No.”
That firmness isn’t harshness. It’s love protecting them from harm.

And when your child cries because they don’t want bedtime yet.
You comfort them, but you still keep the boundary.
Love doesn’t remove structure; it provides it.

Love doesn’t change the truth to avoid discomfort.

It teaches how to live with others

It builds responsibility, not convenience

It teaches patience and self-control

It shows how to navigate disappointment

It builds resilience, not dependency

And it prepares them for the real world, not comfort

This is Love 💛 and this is what matters in the early years

If this resonated with you,
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