The Baby Days

Moms: What did you lose, discover, or rediscover about yourself during postpartum?

For me: I lost what I used to identify with, things I used to do, I stopped doing them. Then I learned how to do them with the kids. I lost out on some experiences because some places weren’t child-friendly, but then I found places that were!

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Something new is coming from The Baby Days & Co. 🐢

✨ BEYOND THE BABY DAYS & CO. ✨

A platform about parenthood beyond the highlight reel.

🌺love
🌺chaos
🌺careers
🌺relationships
🌺mental load
🌺things our kids do that we absolutely cannot make up
🌺thoughts we sometimes wonder if we’re allowed to say out loud

And we want to hear from you!

We’re opening an anonymous link for parents and caregivers to share the raw, funny, complicated and completely ordinary moments of raising humans.

No names needed!
No perfect parenting required!
No judgement!

Your submission may become the conversation that makes another parent think:

“Oh thank goodness. It’s not just me.”

Tell us what happens Beyond the Baby Days. 🎙️

Anonymous submissions may be edited to protect privacy and for clarity or length.

LINK IN BIO and a new page to come!

Your story + your voice = systems change.

Storytelling for Systems Change
A statewide advocacy training
Wednesday 8/5 | 11 AM–12 PM PT

Learn how to harness your lived experience to influence policy, speak with confidence, and help advance perinatal mental health through SB 626.

Whether you’re a parent, provider, advocate, or community partner — your voice matters in shaping California’s future.
Ready to turn your story into action?

👉 REGISTER: bit.ly/4w7i3au (link in bio)

🎉 GIVEAWAY ALERT 🎉

Attending the Mom Wellness Event on June 22 in Montague? We have something special for one expecting or newly postpartum mama! 💕

Together with some incredible local professionals, we’re giving away a beautiful postpartum care package designed to support you through pregnancy, birth, and those precious early weeks with baby.

✨ To Enter:
✔️ Be an expecting mom or less than 3 months postpartum
✔️ Attend the Mom Wellness Event on June 22
✔️ Follow:
Ease Mama
Ease Family Chiropractic
Jae Day
Ottawa Valley Midwives
Lauren | Child & Family Counselling | Sleep | Potty Training
Lactation for Leaps
Pivotal Help

🎁 Prize Includes:
• 8 Mama Comfort Pads
• Sitz Bath & Perineal Steaming Herbs
• Belly Balm
• Ni**le Balm
• 2-Hour Birth Preparation Session (valued at $300)

Because every mother deserves to feel supported, cared for, and empowered as she navigates pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. 💛

Join us for an afternoon focused on women’s wellness, connection, education, and community.

📍 Rosedale Hall, Montague
🗓 June 22
⏰ 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM

Winner will be announced following the event.

Tag an expecting or new mama who deserves this! 👇

Even men’s mental health matters.

The invisible load that men, specifically dads, carry is something many can’t fully comprehend.

They watch their partners transform into mothers, sometimes struggling with the physical, emotional, and mental changes that come with it, and often feel helpless because they can’t simply fix it.

They learn how to support someone they love as she steps into a new identity while grieving parts of her old one. At the same time, they’re learning how to care for themselves, nurture a new baby (or two), navigate changing family dynamics, financial pressures, sleepless nights, and new boundaries with family and friends.

Too often, we ask dads how the baby is doing.
Sometimes we ask how mom is doing.
Rarely do we ask how they are doing.

Many fathers carry their stress quietly. They push through exhaustion, anxiety, fear, and uncertainty because they believe they need to be the strong one. But strength isn’t staying silent. Strength is knowing when to ask for help.

Dads deserve support.
Dads deserve community.
Dads deserve safe spaces to talk about their mental health.
And dads deserve the same compassion they so freely give to everyone else.

A healthy family isn’t built on one parent carrying the weight of it all. It’s built when both parents are supported, seen, and cared for.

This Father’s Day season and every day after, let’s remember that dads are human too. 💙

At The Baby Days & Co we offer a class specific to Dads navigating birth & postpartum with their spouses. I have tools and resources to help guide Dads through some of life’s toughest seasons.

DM me for more ✉️

Becoming a mother changed me in ways I never expected.

It softened me, strengthened me, humbled me, and completely reshaped the way I saw women, families, and community. Motherhood showed me how vulnerable birth and postpartum can feel, but also how powerful and transformative it is when a mother feels truly supported.

That journey is what inspired me to become a doula.

I became a doula because mothers deserve to be cared for too. They deserve someone in their corner reminding them to rest, to eat, to heal, to trust themselves, and to know they are already enough.

Over the years, I’ve had the honour of supporting women through pregnancy, labour, birth, loss, postpartum, anxiety, healing, and rediscovering themselves.
And what I’ve learned is this…

When you support a mother, you strengthen an entire family.
When a mother feels seen, heard, and safe, she becomes the best version of herself.

This Mother’s Day, I’m reflecting on how motherhood gave me purpose far beyond myself. It led me to build villages, advocate for women, and help mothers become the best versions of themselves through support, compassion, and community.

So today, I celebrate every version of motherhood and every mother learning to grow through it. Including the version of me that was born the day I became “Mom.” 🤍



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✨ Reintroduction + Big News ✨

Hi, I’m Jae 🤍
Founder of The Baby Days & Co. birth & postpartum doula, childbirth educator, CAF veteran, mama of 4, and a woman who truly believes in the power of villages.

For the past several years, I’ve been supporting families through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum while advocating for better maternal care, trauma-informed support, and community-centered healing.

And now… we’re onto our next chapter 🌿

My family and I are relocating to beautiful British Columbia where the mountains meet the ocean, and life invites you to slow down just a little more.

I’m incredibly honoured (and still pinching myself) to be stepping into the role of President of continuing the work of expanding access, advocacy, and connection for doulas and families across the province.

But at the heart of it all…I’m here to continue building villages.

Spaces where:
✨ moms feel seen
✨ parents feel supported
✨ children are nurtured
✨ and no one has to do this alone

I’m so excited to connect with new families, collaborate with local providers, and root myself in a community that values nature, presence, and care 🌊🌲

If you’re on the West Coast, I’d love to meet you.
Let’s build something beautiful together.

In the forest, a nurse log is a fallen tree that no longer stands, no longer what it once was.

But in its transformation, it becomes something else entirely.

As it slowly decays, it creates life.

It holds moisture.
It provides nutrients.
It protects fragile seedlings from harsh conditions and competition below.

And from it… new life grows. 🌱

Motherhood, and birth especially, can feel like this.

A transformation.
A shedding.
A version of you that no longer exists in the same way it once did.

Not because you are lost…
but because you are becoming.

In birth, a mother gives of her body, her energy, her identity and in doing so, she creates the environment where new life can thrive.

She becomes the nourishment.
The safety.
The regulator.
The space where her baby learns to exist.

But just like the nurse log…

Even the one who gives life still needs support.

Because no ecosystem survives on one source alone.

Mothers were never meant to do this in isolation.
We need villages.
We need care.
We need to be held, too.

Because when a mother is supported…
everything growing around her thrives. 🤍

Trauma doesn’t stay in the past, it can show up in labour.

For survivors, birth can feel:

• triggering
• overwhelming
• unsafe
• or emotionally intense

Not because they’re unprepared, but because the body remembers.

Labour involves vulnerability, touch, and loss of control.
For someone with past trauma, that can bring:

• sudden anxiety or panic
• difficulty with exams or touch
• a need for control or feeling completely disconnected

Sometimes it’s visible.
Sometimes it’s silent.

This is why trauma-informed care matters.

🤍 Ask for consent, every time
🤍 Explain before touching
🤍 Create choice and control
🤍 Respect boundaries, always

To every survivor:
You are not broken. Your body is protecting you.

To every supporter for the birthing mother:
You have an important role to help her feel at ease and comfort from Labour all the way through the 4th trimester 🙏🏾

And when we create safety in birth we don’t just support labour… we help rewrite the experience.



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It’s World Doula Week! 🤍

The biggest question I often get is:
“What does a doula do?”

But really… the better question is:
“What does a doula not do?”

🤍 We don’t overstep
🤍 We don’t judge
🤍 We don’t make decisions for you
🤍 We don’t care if your house isn’t clean
🤍 We don’t expect you to have it all together
🤍 We don’t dismiss your fears or your voice
🤍 We don’t replace your partner, we support them too
🤍 We don’t rush your experience

What do we do?

✨ We hold space
✨ We listen, really listen
✨ We support you through every wave, every question, every emotion
✨ We provide evidence-based information so you can make informed choices
✨ We remind you of your strength when you forget
✨ We help build your village

Because birth, postpartum, and parenthood were never meant to be done alone.

Doulas don’t take over…we walk beside you.

And every family deserves that kind of support. 🤍