Entrepreneur Mindset and Strategy

We can’t change history. We CAN change the story!

I find the human mind is fascinating. Back when I was battling anxiety, my thoughts were just plain MEAN!!!

Up until 2012, my brain was programmed in the habit of telling horror stories based on some “story” I feared

… based somewhere in the future
… that scared the bejezus out of me
… had me frozen in terrifying thoughts that felt so real my body was reacting to the created stress

even though I was the inventor of the thought, and the things I feared (I knew logically) were not happening.

Today, I call that wasted genius, because if I was smart enough to create a nightmare that felt real, I was just as capable to create the story that generates joy and happiness.

That sounds easier than it is when the mind has mastered the art of zooming down a highway to hell.

Why?

Because the emotions linked to old memories are programmed into our memory banks and they become the GPS for our thoughts and actions.

Think about it for a moment.

Remember a favourite song from the past. Does it take you back to a good memory and make you smile?

What about smells, places, foods, sounds?

… anything that impacts the senses can take your thoughts time travelling to yesterday.

That happens with the not so good memories too.

Sometimes the things that were not enjoyed the first time 🔂 keep replaying like a skipped record or bad movie without an off button.

That’s annoying and can get depressing after a while.

There is a way to detach the emotions from worn out memories, so that the worn out stories that steal joy can stay in the past, and thoughts can be focused on the good stuff!

I know it sounds crazy.
I know that it’s bizarre.
I know it’s weird.

I know that for sure, because that’s how I beat anxiety in 2012 and how I’ve helped, literally hundreds of clients, in thousands of sessions, feel lighter and experience a reset!

That’s why I developed emotional reflexology in 2014 and have been a mindset coach for years.

I’m dabbling with the idea of doing a FREE online group strategic intervention mindset transformation coaching program for people ready to change their story if there are enough people interested in participating.

I will accept testimonials and donations after results have been received, so participants won’t have anything to lose except stress.

(Good news! You don’t have to tell the story to reset. I just detect the emotion, release it and we rate the “light feeling”).

How does that work?

The body remembers what the head forgets. When you listen to the body, the mind and thoughts relax.

If anyone is interested in participating in the beta version, send me a DM with your email address and I’ll send you the info. 🙏

It’s what I geek out on and it’s super fun!

The combination of a grateful heart, present mind, and passion in the soul creates an ideal environment for breaththroughs, opportunities and “miracles” to emerge. I’m wishing you that kind of day today 🙂.

All my orchids lost their blooms before my big move last September. The first bloom of many in the office! 💃 🌺

I woke up this morning to this email (edited for the persons privacy).

“Hello Calynda,

I am so excited to let you know that my extreme shoulder pain is gone! I am back to my typical stiffness, but at least I can do my stretching exercises again. I have more energy, and I am able to focus so am accomplishing some long overdue household tasks, which feels amazing. I am forever grateful to *** for steering me in your direction, and to you for your gift of healing.

I have booked a follow up session for January 26th at 2:00. I am really looking forward to it.

Take care, stay warm,”

~ Another amazing person that feels better

That kind of feedback is the “norm”, not the exception with reflexology and coaching sessions I offer.

It’s these kinds of stories that has been to fuel that motivates me to train others!

To date, I’ve trained 200 reflexology therapists across Canada

31 Hand reflexology therapists
20 Emotional Reflexology Therapists
4 Ear reflexology therapists

… and I LOVE hearing their stories too 🤯

These emails have motivated me to open up more spaces to see more people in my reflexology clinic in Regina … and there are plenty of spaces available with the reflexology therapists I’ve trained 🙂.

For those wanting to crush limiting beliefs with coaching calls… I am keeping 5 spots open just for you 😉.

Life’s taught me a very important lesson … you can do anything you want to. It’s best when you do what you love because there are no regrets, just gratitude (even on the days when it’s not easy).

The sunsets are B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L

Not just to look at.

For me, they remind me to be grateful for the things that got packed into the day…

- Rod made a yummy breakfast
- I got to see a friend
- My walk at the university helped my vehicle get toasty warm and I got my steps in while having the ability to look out the window at the great view.

There are countless blessings to count… and I remind myself of as many as I can while I watch the sun go down.

The sun will get up again tomorrow, and it all starts again.

Wishing you all an amazing week!

✨✨My big discovery✨✨

Even though I have figured out how to help the body release stress, I know what it’s like to struggle to feel better without really knowing what’s even wrong, because, over a decade ago, that struggle consumed my life.

I know what it’s like to wake up in pain not knowing what is causing it.

I know what it’s like to have a racing mind, rapidly collecting imaginary scenarios of what could go wrong… and 99.9% of the time, they never happened.

I know what it’s like to waste days worrying, stressing and feeling down and out because of things that happened in the past… that I can’t change in the present.

It got so bad, I was having multiple weekly visits to the doctor and emergency room.

I would go for countless appointments, trying anything and every thing to feel better… without relief.

I would eat a very restricted diet without cheating, and still, the pain continued.

I know that level of frustration intimitately.

I also know what it’s like when you finally figure out the cause and the pain goes away and let me tell you, it’s 🤯 and 😳 when you get to experience the AHA moment.

Did you know thought can cause physical pain?

I had pain so bad it felt like my insides were ready to explode, I KNEW something was wrong, yet it was never able to be detected on diagnostic equipment.

I spent years thinking the medical system was crazy before I clued in that they weren’t lying… I needed to find the cause, because I was never going to win battling the symptom.

There are only 3 things I’ve ever found that cause pain: stress, stress and stress!

Where it gets super tricky is figuring out whether it’s emotional, nutritional, physical stress or a unique combination of those three based on the individuals body.

Somethings are easier to decode than others.

Only the body knows the exact cause and order to be able to release it.

The challenge… we aren’t just bodies… we are emotions and thoughts too.

Most times, emotions and thoughts push the body when it needs rest because of responsibilities, want to’s and have to’s.

The body can only be pushed so far before it creates enough pain to stop so the problem can be realized… which creates another problem.

Thoughts and emotions have their own agenda.

They want to go!
They want to do what they want to do!

They perceive the body is holding them back when the exact opposite is true.

When the body has been listened to, the emotions and thoughts gain understanding of the “cause” and new perspective can regenerate energy and relieve the pain.

I’ve lived it and see it everyday in my clinic. That’s why I do the work that I do.

When I first figured it out - man, I was excited.

I quickly figured out that going against people’s comfort zones isn’t for the faint of heart…

Back then, I quit talking about it … and people that were meant to find me, found me.

It hurts my heart to think about the people I could have helped and didn’t because I let keyboard warriors win.

Even though there’s still a tiny part of me that thinks I’m sharing too much about my life’s work, my deeper truth is that I care way too much about helping people to let those thoughts stop me.

Life’s much better not worrying about what others think of me because my only job is to do what I know I was born to do.

If you, or anyone you know, struggles with relentless thoughts creating unwanted stories, pain and uncertainty and wants to figure out how to decode them, DM me to let me know how I can be of service because life is just too short to not feel your best 🙂.

P.S. My daughter started crocheting and made this awesome scarf and head band for me for Christmas.

I absolutely love it!!

May you always be wrapped up in the things that bring your heart pure joy ❤️

Christmas 2015, my girls bought me the Marie Londo book and it was definitely life changing for me.

One of my mottos is “finding the cause is better than batting a symptom”.

It’s not easy, but a better investment of time, because once found, the problem goes away.

Keeping things clean in a busy house isn’t for the faint of heart… and most times it didn’t work - for my entire existence as a parent back then, and, at that time, it was grating on my nerves.

In 2014, I had been in Hawaii for 17 days camping in a tent and life was so simple.

Not a worry in the world.
No cleaning.
No I have to’s.
No chores.

Just wake up and do whatever, whenever, however, for long as I wanted until I went to sleep.

It was an adventure that gave me a glimpse of how simple life can really be.

The book was about clearing out the clutter so that you can be surrounded by the things you really love.

In the first week of January, I threw out, recycled or donated 111 green garbage bags of “stuff” that I didn’t want or need anymore.

The craziest part, is the house didn’t look any emptier. It was just organized and everything had a place.

The overwhelm had disappeared and cleaning was infinitely easier.

I fixed the cause rather than trying to organize the clutter.

Before Christmas, I went with my friend in her 90’s to the movies.

It was such a fun time and after she took me on a tour to the Williston where she has a lovely room with the few things she needs. She had got rid of everything except her basics.

With that information, I have been pondering why I’d ever spent so much time collecting so much just to get rid of it because I’m 💯 aware that my children will never want it!

Living life “simple” and “lighter” is amazing… for me.

It may not be everyone’s cuppa tea. In my world, in 2024, I’ve figured out that less is truly more.

More freedom.

More peace.

More time to do whatever, whenever, however, for long as I want.

That’s my definition of R-E-L-A-X… because simple is just easy.

I’m really liking my theme for 2024!

Time… our most valuable asset, yet it’s
too often wasted with worry, stress or heavy emotions.

It’s wanted when it feels like there’s not enough of it.

It’s taken for granted in the moments that it feels like it is limitless.

It’s appreciated when it feels like it’s a race against the clock.

Stolen moments.

Gratitude.

Laughter.

Connection.

Adventures.

Great visits…

are always a great investment of time because they fill in the time gaps with cherished memories to make the best use of the time we are granted and help to live this life to its fullest.

Luxury issues keep the mind focused on what is lacking.

Gratitude keeps the mind focused on the blessings that we have…. there is SO much!

Eyes open - blessing
Breath - blessing
Ability to move - blessing
Access to clean water - blessing
Shelter - blessing

I can’t remember where I heard the exercise from the first time, but if you were stranded on a deserted island and the only thing you could take with you are the clothes you are wearing and 2 other items, for a one week trip, what would you take?

My answer is and has always been my toothbrush and toilet paper.

Now, sitting on that island, what are the things you would miss?

Those are all your blessings.

What things would you not miss?

Those are the things that can be let go of so that life feels lighter.

I think it’s a fun exercise to super charge gratitude and I’d love to hear what your two items would be.

Have an amazing day.

Today’s reminder… failure isn’t real. It’s just an illusion based on a belief.

So many things in life are trial and error until we figure out what works.

Mistakes will happen.

There will be an oops or two (or many) and that’s okay because there will also be lessons figured out.

Figuring out what works is what experience is built on. Sometimes that means figuring out what doesn’t work. That information is valuable!

Doing what you love helps push through the frustrating bumps of “figuring it out”.

Staying committed to that makes the “hard stuff” easy over time.

It’s the hard lessons learned.

It’s the experience that is collected.

It’s the wisdom earned that will serve us well into the golden years.

It’s all part of enjoying life’s adventure.

Your worth is defined by who you are… not by what you choose do.

You are irreplaceable.
You are unique.
Your are a masterpiece….

Just because you are you.

Whatever you choose to do today…