Katrina Murphy Coaching

There comes a point in many successful people's lives when they quietly ask themselves a question they never expected:

"I've worked so hard to get here...so why doesn't it feel like enough?"

It's a question that often comes with guilt - A lot of it.

After all - from the outside - life looks good: You have a successful career, built a family, earned respect, reached milestones, and accomplished goals that once felt impossible. You know you should feel grateful.

And still, something feels missing.

You're not necessarily unhappy. But you're also no longer fulfilled.

I call this The Fulfillment Gap.

The Fulfillment Gap is the growing distance between external success and internal fulfillment.

It's the space between the life you've built and the life that feels deeply meaningful to live.

It develops gradually - often without us noticing.

As responsibilities increase, promotions come, expectations grow and achievements accumulate, we become increasingly focused on doing what is required. We learn to solve problems, meet deadlines, care for others and keep moving forward.

In the process, many of us slowly lose touch with who we really are.

We stop asking what we truly want because we're busy accomplishing what we believe we should want.

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What does emotional intelligence look like?

When you discuss with someone how they've hurt you, there's a few ways they can respond. But they resemble one of these two:

#1- I'm sorry you feel that way.
#2- I'm sorry what I did / said made you feel that way.

#1 deflects, takes no responsibility

#2 comes from a place of empathy and responsibility. That person sees your pain and can imagine how you’re feeling. And they own their behavior.

That's emotional intelligence!

Pro Tip: watch for DARVO: deny - attack - reverse victim & offender - a classic response used by abusers to manipulate the victim when confronted about their behavior.

This will look like #1 with an added ‘but you did (this) to me first' or 'I wouldn't have, if you hadn't (whatever they want to spin this as)...’.

Don't allow the conversation to be spun so that you end up apologizing.

XO

PS: For those who like the visual, some beautiful art from our recent Mexico excursion!