Jennifer McChesney, Performance & Mental Health Coach

I wish this was a lesson I learned long ago. The sentiment was probably passed along to me by elders but there was never an emphasis on exactly how we find happiness from within. It’s probably why I wanted to study psychology. I was hoping to be able to teach myself so that I could teach others. What I’ve learned is that it is easier for me to help others than it is to help myself. I can be less emotional and more objective with others. I can see the picture clearer with others. But that just won’t cut it- I cannot truly help others if I am not truly dedicated to helping myself. So I continue to do the work for my own well-being and happiness. I am a work in progress which means I can relate to almost every single thing my clients are going through because I have gone or currently are going through.

My favourite thing that happens in my SHE STRONG course for teens and my BODY IMAGE REBOOT course for women is when I share personal stories and struggles and I see someone’s eyes widen and head perk up on the screen because they are having a “holy crap, me too, moment”. There’s usually a sense of relief because “someone gets it”.

I get it.

Happiness is sometimes hard. And that’s ok.

I’ll be running these online workshops this fall so if you have any interest in learning the ways to better self-acceptance (or have a daughter that could benefit) dm me for details.

I’ve been a little quiet on here recently not for any reason other than I’ve been BUSY. But, I know myself, and when I get too busy to do my normal routines it’s getting to be too much.

So as the summer sports wind down and the fall sports and activities amp up I am reminding myself that a lot of the kids I will see will be overworked,
Overextended and overwhelmed so it does no one any good if I am as well.

I am already almost fully booked for my virtual and in-person team sport psychology sessions and my one-on-one virtual calendar is filling up fast.

I want to be able to give the best of myself to each person so I will only be taking on a few more clients until the new year.

Contact me for availability!

The best rounds of golf are ones with booze and when the storm siren sounds at hole 12.

Thinking and worrying about what you DON’T want to happen is only further solidifying that thought or image in your brain.

Lately, I’ve found myself focusing far too much on the potential negative outcomes of things going on in my life instead of the positive things I want to happen.

This is shift in mind-set was the focus on my morning visualization today (if I’m being honest it’s been weeks since I sat down for my morning routine).

I told myself “big things are coming” “being scared just means you’re on the verge of something amazing” “you thrive on curveballs and having to adapt”.

These statements create a positive and powerful energy and tell my brain and my body that we are good.

I have started to research and read more and more about the power of manifestation and I am believing more and more that it’s marriage to visualization can truly unlock so much joy and power for people.

If you can see it, you will believe it.

And so, I have re-committed to my morning visualization with a side of manifestation as my own “practice what you preach” exercise.

I’m excited to keep you posted on the outcome.

We often think of mental skills training as something only high level athletes practice. As if knowing how to regulate your emotions only matters when the stakes are highest. I would argue however, that most professional athletes, successful business leaders, good parents, etc... are only those things BECAUSE they paid attention to their mental skills when they were younger. ⁠⁠
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The minute you decide that your thoughts and feelings matter and have consequences, the next chapter starts.

Letting go is hard.

Especially when a habit, a person, a place, a thought, has been there for a long time.

Even if we know deep down that it doesn’t serve us, we hang on because we think we have to or we are afraid of the repercussions if we let go.

One of the most emotionally freeing things is truly “letting go” of the things that don’t serve us.

Acknowledge them when they show up and consciously decide to let them flush out, fall away, or drift away.

The more times you do this the less power they eventually have over you.