12/29/2023
Boundaries during the holidays can feel super uncomfortable; things like saying no to a dinner, or a family gathering, or visiting with family friends can be a tough one - feelings of guilt and shame arise.. “what are they going to think of me?”, “am I hurting their feelings?”, “will they be suspicious as to why I would rather stay in than spend a night catching up and visiting?”
My constant when these feelings come up for me is the fact that I am setting these boundaries for myself and my wellbeing. My goal isn’t to push myself into a space where I won’t enjoy things. My goal is to take care of myself so I can be in a space of love and acceptance, and be able to be present with the people around me.